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Hi Everybody, this is Juanjo Der from Spain

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  1. Juanjo Der

    Juanjo Der New Fapstronaut

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    Hello

    This is Juanjo Der (fake name) and I am writing from Spain. I am 29 years old.

    I am quitting porn right now. I started 3 weeks ago.

    I thought that I was not a hard addict, but I had the habit of seeing porn(and masturbate) every day before sleeping.

    I considered quitting because I was having problems in my real sexual relationships.
    It was really hard for me to cum, to finish sex, but the background and biggest problem was a lack of excitation; that is a big problem for a 29 years old guy like me.

    Also I realized that the problem would be porn because when I tried to masturbate without porn appeared the same problem: I couldn't finish. That wasn't a big worry for me, but it was a sympthom that made me realize that I had a problem.

    Right now I have quitted porn and I see some improvements: I feel slightly more excited in my relationships and I can cum If I masturbate myself. But I still have a big desire of watching porn.

    My goal right now is to be able to finish in my real relationships, which will mean that I am excited during sex.

    I will be telling you my achievments.

    Thanks everybody and special thanks to the creators of this forum.
     
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  2. Hi. Welcome to forum!

    Make sure you create a personal journal thread in Reboot Logs section and blog there on a regular basis. As well as just generally be active participant in various forum discussions. I recommend this to everybody new here because it's the major thing that helped me when I was first starting. Just lurking on forums, reading and learning is great. But it usually is so much more powerful to engage. It helps to keep us motivated and accountable when we are active part of community. And keeps this in front of our minds so we don't forget about importance of it and slip away in our old habits. Sharing is also therapeutic. This is a major reason why AA meetings work so good. But that was developed before internet era. These days we can get most of the same benefits online through communities like this. So don't underestimate the power of active participation.

    I would also like to suggest you to look into mindfulness meditation. It has helped me personally tremendously to learn how to deal with urges and triggers. It takes a while to get good at it and notice results, so you need to be consistent with it, but once you do it's very powerful. It has been used by sages for thousands of years to deal with various issues of the mind. And in recent decades the science is also catching up to what ancient sages have know for centuries. Meditation these days are widely used as very effective tool by psychologists for treating addiction and by neurologists for supporting recovery of the brain. It is a great exercise for the brain the same way as jogging is great exercise for the body. Check out this Ted talk, it gives a good idea of what's it about when it comes to philosophy. As far as practical side of it there is this awesome smartphone app called Headspace for guided meditations to get you started.

    Wish you lot's of strength and success in your reboot journey!
     
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  3. drac16

    drac16 Fapstronaut

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    I'm glad to hear that you've made progress. We're with you every step of the way, so don't feel embarrassed.
     
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