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Hi Everyone, I find it amazing there is support for porn addiction

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by Ifatfirstyoudont, Sep 23, 2018.

  1. Ifatfirstyoudont

    Ifatfirstyoudont Fapstronaut

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    Well let me start by saying I am a older man. I don’t feel old but when I look in the mirror the reality in there. Lol. I have only recently realized I have a porn addiction.
    I do have problems with obtaining and keeping an erection. I also find a disconnect between my mind and body when it comes to arousal, my mind likes attractive women but my body lacks any response. I have been on anti anxiety/depression medicine for years and thought that was the main cause. I am reasonably fit and healthy. I an going to the gym regularly.

    I thought my lack of interest in my wife was due to her getting older and not being as attractive as she once was. She also has health issues that make arousal and sex difficult
    I convinced myself that porn was a good thing for me as I could release my sexual tension and at the same time relieve the stress on her to have sex.

    I found as time went on (I have been using porn for many years) I would find it harder and harder to become physically aroused, even with all this unlimited porn available.
    I again figured it was an age and medicine thing, as my doctor said the depression meds are known to cause issues. I had blood tests and for my age my testosterone is normal.
    I am not a particularly religious man but believe in a lot of things the bible teaches, respect others, try to always be helpful etc.. I found a website which helps couples bring intimacy back into there marriage. Uncovering-Intimacy.
    On this website I found the first information on “porn addiction” how it changes you brain. They also talk about how to rebuild your relationship with your wife.

    Once I realized that this is a addiction I looked for mo information and found this support group. I am pleased and surprised that support for porn addiction and excessive masturbation is out there. I have quit porn and masturbation cold turkey so to speak. It has been about 2 weeks now. I am lucky to have a spouse that was open to talking about my problem and is understanding. She is as supportive as she can be and I am trying to get her to look into this intimacy website I found. We were intimate the next day and I could not really get aroused or even get an erection. It has been two weeks and last night she wanted intimacy which turned into an attempt at sex. I was able to achieve a erection and found the physical contact with my wife did arouse me. I was unable “finish” as I say ( no orgasm). But I already see a improvement in my relationship and my physical reaction to the intimacy we shared. I am continuing to have a absolute no porn no masturbation rule. If I in the future have a orgasm with my wife that’s fine. Sorry for the long post.. It just great to ba able to share this with others who have been there and are in the struggle I am.
     
  2. Septimus

    Septimus Fapstronaut

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    Welcome! I'm glad you're here. I am 56, so I'm older too. You aren't alone. Keep coming back!
     

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