Hi everyone!!
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Mark
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Hello there!
You'll get a lot of different perspectives on this forum (which is exactly how it should be) but just to get you started can I just offer the following suggestions (and they are only suggestions)?
Sorry if any of this is stating the obvious and I’m sorry if its a bit preachy but I'm REALLY fired up today by the videos I've added to the bottom of this message!!
1. Head over to the forums and take your pick. Wade in and see what grabs your interest. Start a thread. Help others and be helped just by getting involved. Plus its the PERFECT antidote to fapping!!
2. Don't get into arguments (especially over the usual politics/religion stuff) We are all human here and we are in this together regardless of our chosen 'path' (even if you believe truth is a 'pathless' land!) And you really won't find a more caring, well intentioned bunch of folk anywhere!
3. Check out the website yourbrainonporn if you haven't already and make use of the brilliant resources there.
4. Consider doing a 90 day reboot and get yourself a tracker (see bottom of this post) Even if you intend to continue M&O you really do need to disassociate from porn (for good!!)
5. Be open to new possibilities. Also, bear in mind that humour really is the best medicine and can really help you see things from a new and and helpful perspective. (And you probably need that more than anything right now?)
6. Take up something new and focus on that rather than focusing what you are 'losing' (Don't be a 'loser'!;-)) There must be something you always wanted to try but didn't have the time or energy? See this as a fresh start. An opportunity to become a whole new version of yourself.
7. Learn to LOVE change. Its the ONLY thing we can rely on so why resist it? Resistance causes pain and pain is suffering. Don't fight your cravings and withdrawal when ceasing to feed a habit YOU have CHOSEN to break. You are the captain of your own ship so when the sea gets a little rough (and it will on occassions) embrace it and sail with it. Don't go against the grain. Be like the surfer who RIDES the waves rather than going under them and DONT be frightened of making mistakes! Your cravings are TESTING you and therefore you can choose to experience them as your greatest teachers so be open to what they are teaching you about yourself. Be up for the challenge and remember- change is a process not an event so go easy(tiger!!) Seriously consider reading the book 'Changing for Good' by James O Prochaska. Is a particularly helpful tool for those who want to make positive and LASTING change in their life. Several of us here have found this to be an indispensable tool.
8.. Greet and encourage newbies...;-)
I also challenge you to watch these short videos and ask yourself "do I want to remain part of the problem or become part of the solution?"
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qMyE...e_gdata_player
http://nefariousdocumentary.com/
http://www.indiegogo.com/
Wishing you all the love in the world and all the very best with your fresh start
http://www.thepeoplesvoice.tv/
You'll get a lot of different perspectives on this forum (which is exactly how it should be) but just to get you started can I just offer the following suggestions (and they are only suggestions)?
Sorry if any of this is stating the obvious and I’m sorry if its a bit preachy but I'm REALLY fired up today by the videos I've added to the bottom of this message!!
1. Head over to the forums and take your pick. Wade in and see what grabs your interest. Start a thread. Help others and be helped just by getting involved. Plus its the PERFECT antidote to fapping!!
2. Don't get into arguments (especially over the usual politics/religion stuff) We are all human here and we are in this together regardless of our chosen 'path' (even if you believe truth is a 'pathless' land!) And you really won't find a more caring, well intentioned bunch of folk anywhere!
3. Check out the website yourbrainonporn if you haven't already and make use of the brilliant resources there.
4. Consider doing a 90 day reboot and get yourself a tracker (see bottom of this post) Even if you intend to continue M&O you really do need to disassociate from porn (for good!!)
5. Be open to new possibilities. Also, bear in mind that humour really is the best medicine and can really help you see things from a new and and helpful perspective. (And you probably need that more than anything right now?)
6. Take up something new and focus on that rather than focusing what you are 'losing' (Don't be a 'loser'!;-)) There must be something you always wanted to try but didn't have the time or energy? See this as a fresh start. An opportunity to become a whole new version of yourself.
7. Learn to LOVE change. Its the ONLY thing we can rely on so why resist it? Resistance causes pain and pain is suffering. Don't fight your cravings and withdrawal when ceasing to feed a habit YOU have CHOSEN to break. You are the captain of your own ship so when the sea gets a little rough (and it will on occassions) embrace it and sail with it. Don't go against the grain. Be like the surfer who RIDES the waves rather than going under them and DONT be frightened of making mistakes! Your cravings are TESTING you and therefore you can choose to experience them as your greatest teachers so be open to what they are teaching you about yourself. Be up for the challenge and remember- change is a process not an event so go easy(tiger!!) Seriously consider reading the book 'Changing for Good' by James O Prochaska. Is a particularly helpful tool for those who want to make positive and LASTING change in their life. Several of us here have found this to be an indispensable tool.
8.. Greet and encourage newbies...;-)
I also challenge you to watch these short videos and ask yourself "do I want to remain part of the problem or become part of the solution?"
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qMyE...e_gdata_player
http://nefariousdocumentary.com/
http://www.indiegogo.com/
Wishing you all the love in the world and all the very best with your fresh start
http://www.thepeoplesvoice.tv/
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