Hi i'm new to NoFap

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by erik1990, Mar 27, 2020.

  1. erik1990

    erik1990 Fapstronaut

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    Hi People,

    I'm new to NoFap. I'm from Amsterdam (Netherlands), 30 years old and life together with my girlfriend for over 5 years now.

    I feel like i have to do something about my porn addiction. I have tried a couple of times to block things from my phone but each time, like a junky, i find ways to browse porn again, through russian sites or whatever the block on my phone doesn't recognice as pornographic. I PMO once a day usualy, and watch porn during it.

    After reading the Getting Started with NoFap i recognise a lot of things at myself, like the chaser effect. I hope by with starting to read about the problems of porn addiction, and reading reactions from others, i can manage my porn addiction.

    Please feel free to give me tips, questions, guidance how to start using the NoFap forum or other subjects.

    Greetz, Erik

    P.S. My english in writing can contain some errors ;)

    • Some additional information :)
    • Your gender --> Male
    • Your age --> 30
    • How long you have been using porn --> over 15 years, starting in my puberty
    • The impact pornography use has had on your life --> I notice that using porn and PMO makes me depressed somethings, and makes me restless. Further i think that due to PMO i can react differtently and have a bad temper.
    • Why you have decided to quit using porn --> I think it is a major loss of energy, and want to turn things around putting my thoughts and energy in things that matter. Building my life, relationship, house etc.
    • Your chosen rebooting parameters --> Standard mode
    • When you started or plan to start your reboot and how many days you have in your current streak (if it is day 0 for you, that’s fine!) --> I have read the "Getting Started with NoFap" guide yesterday, and want to start today with a 7 day "reboot" exploring which urges i recognize.
     
    Last edited: Mar 27, 2020
  2. Wolfgirl

    Wolfgirl Fapstronaut

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    Congratulations for starting your journey. I believe that one of the biggest parts of overcoming this addiction is to believe that you can. I think that often finding support in real life can be extremely beneficial. I recommend you look at the various forums to gain tips and inspiration. Just remember that you have so many people who are experiencing similar challenges and we’re all in it together. Does your girlfriend know? I know you can do this. You got this! Good luck!
     
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  3. erik1990

    erik1990 Fapstronaut

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    Hi Wolfgirl,
    My girlfriend does know i want to cope with my porn addiction. She doesn't find it that shocking that i MO to porn but understands i want to do something about it. Thank you for your support!
     
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  4. Shadow_Monk

    Shadow_Monk Fapstronaut

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    Hello Erik, welcome to the site. It sounds like you're off to a really good start by having a plan for what you want to do and why you want to do it. You already have a short term goal of seven days, which is one of the first things I recommend to newcomers. If you haven't already, start a journal in the "Reboot Logs" section. It will help you document your thoughts and experiences as you go through the seven day reboot, and then on to future goals.

    Like @Wolfgirl said, believing that you can do this is the biggest factor in how well your reboot goes. Attitude is a close second in my opinion. If you feel like you are "giving up" porn and you miss it like an old friend, you will have a much harder time than if you view it as a cruel monster that you are fleeing from and lucky to escape. Best of luck to you my brother, I will be following you on your journey.
     
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  5. The Free Bird

    The Free Bird Fapstronaut

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    Hi and welcome to the community

    I would recommend you to stay in touch with members and read their success stories. You may also learn tricks to avoid the short-term pleasure and to face the temptations.

    Be AWARE of your habits and control what you see and what/who you spend your time with.

    It's also important to limit the usage of social media. In addition, never be free! Use your free time as much as possible and do sports, exercise, attend classes, etc.


    This video contains everything that you need to know about porn addiction. Lastly, here is a collection of ways to deal with the urges which worked great for me.

    ֍ You got this my friend ֍
     
    Last edited: Apr 3, 2020
  6. Welcome to Nofap sir!!!
     
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  7. Hi there... :)
    Welcome to the community!
    Good luck!
     
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  8. Hey, welcome to the NoFap community : )

    It's nice to see you here fighting the good fight alongside us!

    Allow me to go ahead and drop some helpful links for you:
    Getting Started Guide / Forum Rules / How to Use the NoFap forums/ Glossary/ NoFap Panic button / Set up your day counter / Rebooting Resources/ Accountability groups (new!) / About NoFap/ Support NoFap

    Here is just some advice:

    First and foremost please take a careful look at each section in the forum, there may be something(s) you will find to be of big help to you.
    Secondly I advise you to be active on your profile(as there a few active people in the profile section). Please start by choosing an avatar and then begin posting frequent status posts to show you're active and needing support/encouragement.
    The forum has got a neat little feature that shows freshly posted statuses for all users to see.
    People will find your profile and give you support.
    There’s a portion of people who love communicating in the profile section..(it should be and is )mostly spportive talk but it doesn't hurt to deviate from supportive conversations. It would be great to have you join in and become part of the team!
    We support one another in the threads, profile posts, and journals/reboot logs.
    Once you receive some support, please be sure and be grateful to the member for the help/support you received and consider giving some in return to anyone you wish.


    Thirdly, you should highly consider creating a public journal/reboot log (in the appropriate section for you) to write about your days in depth for us members to follow along on your journey and offer support to you on.


    Last but not least: Good luck on your journey here, make sure to really give it a try with all your heart!
     
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  9. Welcome to the nofap community, best of luck on your journey :)
     
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    Jiim New Fapstronaut

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