Hi, new here. greeting from China...

I'm a teenager from China who is searching for ways to quit porn and masturbation.

I don't know whether you have any concept about how people in China deal with this kind of thing. In fact, there was a long history of sexual repression in China because that's a part of Chinese traditional culture, so most people wouldn't like to exchange their thoughts about quitting porn or masturbation, for that’s embarrassing. Nowadays there is a tendency that online pornographic is in growth, and people trying to quit masturbation or porn will be laughed at in mainstream value. However, their laugh might be reasonable because such online organization in China is often in low quality, such as JIESEBA(戒色吧), which is often vilified as heresy because of the popularity of extremism there. Some people consider masturbation as the origin of everything miserable in their life, and they often make scientific mistakes when introducing the harm of porn and masturbation, and some of the members there are doing something annoying, such as putting on advertisement in the toilet trying to persuade others to quit masturbating. I’m not saying that to complain, but I think there can be a space for improvement of these work in China. The environment and the lack of proper online organization really bring about troubles for those wanting to quit.



So I’m trying to find help here, because after a 5-year struggle with those bad habit, I really feel hopeless and I want to learn some thing new in a new environment for me. Faced with China's College Entrance Examination, I feel my bad habit has an impact on my study as well as on my physical health. I won’t be energetic and often get distracted when working on a hard problem. I tried not bring laptop or smartphones to dormitory, and that kept me 3 weeks free of pornographic and masturbation, but as soon as I got home and regain my smartphone, I used it to search for porn and relapsed early this morning. I was really disappointed because I struggled for 2 hours between overcoming my desire and relapsing but I failed in the last, and that’s exactly what I’ve done in the past 5 years, when I am a 13-year old boy. I don’t know what I could do to stop the cycle.



Besides, that really brought about spiritual stress to me, because I’m somewhat good at study and aiming to enter the best university in China, but the lack of my self-control ability made me feel doubtful of myself. I’ve been wasting my wisdom for so much time and I don’t want to perform bad in the exam, for it will largely decide my destiny. All these things made me feel terrible.



By the way, I’m new here and may not fully understand the rules, and I’m also unfamiliar with foreign forum. so please forgive me and tell me if I did something against the rules.

Also, if my expression of English has something wrong, please tell me as well, because English is a subject of our examination and the correction will help me a lot

 

thanks a lot!