Hi

Welcome! In the perspective of learning I suggest you to glance over the private message was sent to you automatically: there are lots of resources you can start with. Also I invite @StopTheMusic to welcome you with his messages full of great material.

I used to think the same way when I was at high school. "It's my only vice! I need it!". That's what I used to tell myself.

I got many more vices then (like cigarettes and sometimes drinking) and as a gift for insisting asking no help, I received borderline and obsessive compulsive personality traits!

That's true, I made innumerable mistakes but sometime IMO one should try to live the consequences of his choises directly on his skin. Or a mistake can become a deception, a pretext.

Best wishes on your path!

 

Hey @Visor - thanks for the mention.

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Hey @learning ,

Welcome to NoFap! You are in the right place. My experience here is that I needed to learn the program and also get involved with the community.

The best resource I found was the “Getting Started with NoFap” guide. It is on the NoFap homepage and you can download it for free from this link https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/new-users-list-of-rebooting-resources.50878/

Then, watch this video:



It is really good and explains so much about how the blasting of porn images into the brain in high definition on high speed internet while slamming porn sounds into the ears with headphones can literally change the way your brain demands sexual stimulation.

The video explains it better than I can.

Also, a great page is https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/new-users-list-of-rebooting-resources.50878/ my experience is that by reading every link and watching every video, I learned so much.

Then, I got involved with the community. I'm not anyone special on here, I don't have any magic powers. But, I can say hello to new members, post my journal entries, remember to “like” peoples posts, and offer my experience, strength and hope where appropriate.

Looking forward to seeing you around on the forums,

L

PS - Think of pmo like a wolf. Stay near the center of the group with the winners and the wolf has a more difficult time finding you. But, stray near the edges of the community and the wolf can pick you off.

 

One of the ways I got involved with the fellowship was by reading some really great journals. Click "Watch Thread" in the upper right to get alerts when new posts are made. Here are just a few:

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@Visor Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/144228/
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@I_can_and_I_will Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/138959/
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@weddingnails Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/143418/
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@MLMVSS Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/142945/
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@Struggle Bug Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/141911/
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@BigDawg913 Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/145872/
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@Sunshadow Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/75108/
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@kropo82 Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/78164/
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@tet2vd Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/144513
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@Protagoras Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/109842/
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@Tomoya Okazaki Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/143534/
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@DavidGibson Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/143325/
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@Euklid Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/146663/
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There are many more, and you can discover them on your own. But, these are great places to start.

This is a work in progress. So, if a journal has changed or is no longer active, look around there are some amazing journals on here.

L

 

Welcome to NoFap where you are amongst friends who are here to encourage you and sometimes challenge you but not judge you.

The enemy is here to steal, kill and destroy. What are your current strategies for combating the enemy called PMO?

 

Welcome, stopping PMO will be the best decision you can ever make. I promise it will make your life better. You mentioned that your "craving for porn increased" even though your libido decreased. The reason is that porn addiction is in your brain. Being addicted to porn is like being addicted to a drug. When a drug addict first uses a drug they experience a great high but over time it takes more drugs to get the "high". Porn is the same but instead of more porn you need more variety and then it becomes more and more difficult to achieve orgasm.

 

Look forward to you joining us in 40+, amigo. There's a lot of great guys in our corner of the world! Just journal it up and hang out for a while. We will strengthen one another -- that's a promise!

The personal log is your anchor. Don't feel it necessary to post daily or anything. I post more like monthly, if that, for 2 years. It's just your space. And, it helps!

 

Unfortunately I had to hit rock bottom before I could stop. I realized tgat it was my addictions or my family. You have to reach the point where you are ready to stop. As you have pointed out you have to develop a plan that works for you. You can find my pkan in my journal in the 40 plus forum.

 

Check out In Case You Didn't Know for strategies and tips which may helpyou along your journey.

 

I'd quote @Hooked from @Reverent's journal.