All the time. The first time I became obsessed with self developement it was very toxic, like an addiction in itself, fooling myself by buying all kinds of books watching videos of all the shady dudes trying to tell you how to be succesful but not actually doing anything really and then hating myself for not becoming the ultimate succesful superhuman I set out to be and instead falling back into my usual, not so good behaviours.
Reasons why that failed many times were that I wanted too much without having the necessary patience and that I didn't even know what it really was I wanted to achieve besides some vague idea of success, money, freedom and getting laid more often
I basically didn't want to be who I was and tried to overcompensate for that with self-improvement. And a huge part of this industry behind, capitalizes on exactly that - selling you the idea that who you are right now is not enough.
That being said, I now try to sort out the root causes of my "misery" through therapy, nofap, socializing more etc. and at the same time trying to build healthy habits in small increments and look for the things that actually help which would be for me:
- Wim Hof breathing daily with the occasional cold shower(tho I definitely not going hard on those
)
- attending courses in my martial arts club weekly
- listening to the huberman lab podcast and following some of the golden advice on there while keeping my flat clean
- practicing music daily
I still fail from time to time but rather than being angry about that, I'm celebrating everyday I manage to do basically anything and try to enjoy the journey
