History repeats itself, got ghosted again

I used to think like you for a lot of years.
I thought, I could spend my whole life consumed by greed.
And where does it lead?

But it was easy to think that way because I was lazy.
(I am not suggesting you are lazy, just me.)
Also, I felt hopeless.
Rebooting changed me, because I believe in myself now.

And what is the point of earning greens?
For me, financial independence. It's good for me because I don't think
about money the way I used to, which was obsessively.

Other people don't have that kind of self-control. They use it for decadence.

When God calls my number, he doesn't do "research" on my life to see if I
qualify for death.
When God calls me, it's over. I'm a saved Christian, I have faith, I don't worry about it.
I kind of look forward to it. Not dying, but afterward. Read the end of Revelation.

Relationships are only good when they are healthy. Porn addicts have a serious problem in this corner.

Porn addicts become this way because the addiction makes them deeply selfish.

The porn addict needs to build a foundation of recovery before relationships are good for both people, aka win-win.

Because it's not good to hurt people. Sometimes people can't express that, or the addict doesn't hear it. Sometimes a person goes a long time before realizing how much they've been hurt or hurt someone else.

A healthy addict sets boundaries regarding trust, resources and emotions.
People who can't respect those boundaries are not good in the addict's life.
People who can are valued people who deserve relationships.
Porn addicts with little recovery time are not currently those people.

If a porn addict has just spent 5 hours secluded in a room looking at porn,
is that a healthy place where relationships are built?

So if you say "relationships are the most important thing", I ask you
to think about if those people in your life feel that way about you.

Most porn addicts would say no, if they were honest.

But that assessment is good. It's part of recovery.

That's why people use the 12 steps to recover. It heals these issues.

Just food for thought.

 

I have been ghosted too many times and it sickens me. Give it time and move on to find the next one