Hocd or denial please help!!!!!

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  1. wmolbi

    wmolbi Fapstronaut

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    Hey guys this is my first post, and english is my second language. I want to share my story because this shit is driving me crazy.

    I always loved girls and never had any gay thoughts, latley there was a moment 2 months ago which changed my life some guy from my football team came out as homosexual and this was the day i started to think maybe youre also gay or bi? I also watched porn and have also a few strange fetishes like cuckolding or femdom stuff but never had any gay thoughts but at the moment im thinking every second of the day what if youre gay? Can anyone help me??? PLEASE!!!

    Of course its not a problem to be gay or bi, i hope everyone finds his love of his live. But i was straight all my life and now i have those thoughts:(
     
  2. You've already said it yourself that there's nothing wrong with being gay. Surely you don't sound gay--think about it we're all here cause we've realized we have a problem--meaning a hell ton of people are on here as a result of escalation, including myself. The person you were before porn is the real you and even after beating this addiction you will be even stronger. I assume gay/cuck/fem P isn't what you started off with either.
     
  3. ultrafabber

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    HOCD is surprisingly common among pmo addicts. I find it quite expected since we are used to be aroused by seeing another man and another penis, not just a woman. It's just an overlap of stimuli and you end up pairing your arousal with a man, not just with a woman. Normally you would never see another man in a sexual context, you'd only see a woman.

    Also, all porn is cuckold porn, so you really need to stop watching it.
     
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  4. wmolbi

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    Is there anyone who beat hocd and can help me?
     
  5. Freedom_from_PMO

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    This is probably escalation. Stay away from pmo. Hocd is quite common here. There is nothing wrong with not accepting those thoughts, you have identity crisis and everyone needs some degree of belonging and integirty.
     
  6. andi1987

    andi1987 Fapstronaut

    Do you feel attracted to men?
     
  7. wmolbi

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    No, i always loved girls but since 2 months my mind is driving crazy
     
  8. andi1987

    andi1987 Fapstronaut

    So you have thoughts like "Maybe I'm gay" "What happens if I'm gay?". Are these thoughts intrusive? Do you try to suppress them?
     
  9. Marcelo48

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    Don't worry, that kind of anxiety is very common around here, it was porn that made you think like that, it is not you. I would suggest to not even think about it and just focus on NoFap. If you do NoFap then one day those thoughts will just disappear. You just have to be patient.
     
  10. andi1987

    andi1987 Fapstronaut

    If it's due to OCD that will be very hard :D.
     
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  11. Marcelo48

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    No one said NoFap is easy. ;)
     
  12. andi1987

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    I didn't talk about this part of the sentence. ;)

    I was talking about the first part:

     
  13. wmolbi

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    Never did mate. But at the moment im driving crazy...i have a girlfriend and i love her so much
     
  14. andi1987

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    But how often do you have these thoughts? Like every now and then? Or almost all the time?

    Cause if you have them like once every two or three days its nothing to worry about. But if you have these thoughts various times a day it's a clear hint for OCD.
     
  15. wmolbi

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    I spent nearly every free second with tests, forums etc. This is the weirdest shit ever!!!
     
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  16. SpringWater

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    You aren’t gay

    It’s like saying I like rap music, do you think I might have black ancestry...

    Or

    I love pizza..do you think I’m adopted and am really Italian?

    Both sound absurd right?

    Gay people are attracted to guys as strongly as you are attracted to girls.

    You don’t start becoming gay.

    Do girls turn your head?

    When you go to the beach(pool ) do you notice girls or guys?

    When you think on your day at the beach, can you remember guys you saw? Maybe a couple

    What about the girls..prob all and prob vividly.

    It’s the porn you watched that’s conditioned you, pure brainwashing.

    Stop watching porn.
     
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  17. wmolbi

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    Thanks for your help. I will Update you. I hope everyone on here will get the result he wants.
     
  18. 19m

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    id like to know the same
     
  19. 19m

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    hey guys this has happened to me too and now it has minipulated my thoughts and arousal where when i test my self with sexual thoughts about it i get somewhat aroused when guys dress as girls and this has never happened to me . Also when i test myself it is porn scenes.
     
  20. Marcelo48

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    Stop "testing" yourself, it is not necessary and just makes things worse. Focus just on NoFap and with time your thoughts will be sorted out.
     
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