Hola! I'm ready to start

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by iñaki, Apr 28, 2018.

  1. iñaki

    iñaki Fapstronaut

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    Hi everyone! I'm new here. First of all I apologize If I don't write in perfect English. My mother tongue is Spanish, and I'm not a 100% fluent English speaker/writer.

    I am a porn user since I was 13 (now I am 26). I've always struggled with talking and approaching to girls and I never had a girlfriend or a long lasting relationship. This social inability affected my self esteem and confidence deeply over the years. I managed to have sex a couple of times, but none was a gratifying experience. I'm almost certain that I suffer from performance anxiety and PIED. Due to my lack of confidence, I usually avoid approaching to women. I often wonder if I may be gay because I lost a lot of interest in women, but then again, I've honestly never felt attraction or desire towards any men, but I certainly remember how much I did towards girls in my adolescence.

    Although I don't whatch porn every day anymore - in fact, I've spontaneously managed to stay away from it during several days or even a couple of weeks - there is always a moment when I feel an uncontrollable desire to watch porn again, especially when I am anxious, bored or sad.

    I have to admit I'm a bit skeptical about the rebooting method, but here I am, ready to start and to make a big effort to change my life.

    In advance, thank you for your time and support.
     
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  2. Bobcat Bandit

    Bobcat Bandit Fapstronaut

    Hey! I'm brand new here too. My personal record is just over two weeks. It's crazy how much it feels like your body controls you. Here's to breaking free and becoming better versions of ourselves.
     
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  3. Welcome. Glad you are here. ¡Tu inglés es mucho mejor que mi español! ;)

    Take some time to read the reboot material (available here => http://www.nofap.com/getting-started) and come up with a plan for what you will do when you are faced with urges. It has good advice, so don't skip it! :)
    (This is explained in the reboot material. Look for "The Coolidge Effect")

    Perhaps start writing a journal - if you feel comfortable telling people about happened and what's going on now, you will start to feel accountable to them. You may even inspire others. It's a nice feeling! This will help your recovery.

    Also, try to add something into your life that makes you the kind of person who doesn't engage in PMO. Think about doing:
    Something you enjoy
    Something you're good at
    Something important
    Something for somebody else, without thought of reward (and if you DO get an unintended reward, do something ELSE, perhaps for a different person or group).

    Read the journals of others - we all learn from each other. For example, I received the above good advice from a far more experienced member of the community who shared his knowledge. Don't just stay within your own age group or part of the world. Share your knowledge in a respectful way. Read, learn, apply.

    Look around the forums, get to know people. Everyone is friendly, and will try to support you. We're all in the same boat here. :)

    Be kind to others and others will be kind to you, both here and IRL.

    I wish you a successful reboot.
     
  4. iñaki

    iñaki Fapstronaut

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    Thanks for your messages and recommendations. So far I enjoyed reading some stories and advices on the forum, perhaps I'll start sharing my own progress on a journal any time soon. I already feel highly motivated and ready for this challenge!
     
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  5. steve89

    steve89 Fapstronaut

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    Hola yo tambien soy nuevo. Mi ingles tambien es basico. Es bueno saber que hay comunidad en español. Espero que todo te vaya bien.

    Hello I am new too. My english is basic. Is good to hear spanish community here. Hope all goes good to you.
     
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  6. iñaki

    iñaki Fapstronaut

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    Bienvenido y mucha suerte, toda saldrá bien!
     
  7. Yanis

    Yanis Fapstronaut

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    Welcome to the Nofap community.
    The NO PMO journey is not easy but worth the effort.
    Maybe you want to make some commitment - not to the community but to yourself.
    Focus on what you really want: true happiness. It’s possible to get rid of addiction. The community will support you.
    Your English is fine. Even as a German I understand everything. ;)
    Buen viaje! Enjoy the journey. You have found the right place.
     
  8. iñaki

    iñaki Fapstronaut

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    Thanks for your welcome and for the advice. Danke schön und alles Gute für dich auch!
     

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