Honestly just want compainionship

Hey

I have felt extremly low since last night. I guess i got it figured out but it stems down bc I am alone. Now, I have a wonderful family and some friends and making new friends slowly. But I dont have a relationship, as a large majority of people here. I understand that I am not the only one thst has this problem. I crave sex obviously but now I am having thoughts of just passionate love making, instead of domination type quick sex like usual. The sex i craved before was the girl would always pleasure me in fantasies (and porn), never me pleasing her. But now, even in a sexual context, I want to please her. Go down on her and just hold her.
I want a relationship, somebody that I can open up to and them to me. I want somebody to hold after a long day and still have sexual encounters with. But mainly somebody to just be with and appreciate that they are in my life.. Ive never really felt these things before, and in turn, it's making me feel more lonely bc I havent had this in a very long time. I would always just WANT sex, never any of the emotional parts in relationships. But now im lonely bc these emotional parts are ALL I want

 

I’m in the same boat its driving me crazy the loneliness and having no girlfriend. People keep telling me that I’m a good looking guy yet I have never ever had a girlfriend before in my life. A lot of this is down to my anxiety and negative past experiences. Doing this hard mode is pretty difficult I really don’t like being inactive I want to be out there meeting people. But I understand that I have to heal first that is what is keeping me going.

I was at the barber today and a guy was talking to some girl on Tinder I know this because anyone who has used the app before is familiar with the notification sound. Now I have disabled all of my dating profiles but just knowing that other people are out there meeting girls is a bitter pill to swallow, it does make me jealous…

What keeps me going is the fact that I know after these 90 days are up I’m going all out. Its like getting out of prison you can have a fresh start at life. What you need to understand is that everybody is a brand. You need to know and understand who you are. Instead of saying you want something make yourself into a person who attracts people into your life.

Do some research on personal branding, make sure you have things going on in your life and work on personal development. Read books, watch YouTube videos, listen to podcasts etc… Be the man that you want to be.

I know a lot of people on here are against social media like twitter and Instagram but if you look at it carefully it’s a good way to brand yourself. For example, the personal trainer who uses his knowledge to get noticed, make friends, clients etc…. The same with nutritionist, sports players, programmers, gamers, tech enthusiasts, business people, musicians etc… The list is endless. Once you figure out who you are you will open up windows of opportunities.