How Can i Get Over Being A Virgin ?

Well I figure the longer you wait the harder it is to lose. I'd reply to the rest of your post but I'm resisting the urge to throw my laptop across the room.

 

I'm sorry for misunderstanding your post. I realise now what you were trying to say (that you're older than the majority of people complaining), but I don't see what I have done to make you want to throw your laptop across the room!

 

When I was young, though I am a guy, I related much more easily with girls than boys, and therefore all of my friends were girls. I have grown out of that now and have friends of both sexes, but I still see women as equals and it's painful to see them as sex objects. On top of that my parents and church community prohibited any dating/sex until marriage. So I was abstinent until marriage. I had a really hard time finding a spouse, but I finally got married at age 25. My wife was also abstinent, and she really appreciates that I was too. She feels she can trust me fully because of it, and we both think that it makes our relationship a lot simpler not having the additional emotional baggage from previous lovers. The hardest part of growing up abstinent is that out of all of my peers, I was the only one who openly advertised it. It did not make me very popular, but at least people respected it. Although I have struggled with PMO and the like, I am glad that I remained a virgin until marriage.

 

I'm 17, virgin, and not by choice. I don't think much about it until conversations turn to sex. Do I feel like a loser? When everyone talks about sex, yes. Otherwise, not really. I just feel down for not having a SO.

Tbh, the reason shy I'd want to lose my virginity, would be to fit in. And sex (duh!)
But importantly. I know there's something wrong with trying to fit in just because others think you're weird. You should only do it if it's the right thing to do.
I still need to apply that mentality to this topic as well.

Hope those thoughts are of any use

 

21
virgin
small penis
had 0 girlfriend
fear to face all above

 

abstaining from material pleasures have many advantages ,a sage Swami vivekananda (george harrison was impressed by him) has mentioned this quite a few times,google if you are interested ,NoFap -hard mode is basically brahmcharya....

 

Yo, 20 and virgin as hell too! Probably different in terms of society response because of my gender and religious beliefs though. I technically COULD have lost it but I wasn't in love with the guy (virgin too btw at this time). I wanted to say that I agree with @Hailz and I find virgin guys more attractive.

Also the more I go in my reboot the more crystal clear it appears that the reason I was once ashamed and unbelievably frustrated about being a virgin is CLEARLY PMO. Like, now that I don't crave pure physical pleasure but more like love and tenderness and that I see sexuality more like the icing on top of the cherry on the cake, I don't fear that much being a virgin. However, man do I feel lonely. Also it's even weirder for me because I'm bisexual and because of my religious beliefs again I know I will never have sex with a girl and it pains me (partly because of bisexual erasure but far from only this).

 

Hi anne, can I give an advice on religion ?

 

to you

 

Honestly? No thank you. Apart if you're a Roman Catholic priest or monk. I respect others religions and I expect people to do the same for me. If you're about to tell me something that doesn't go in the way of my I reckon extremely peculiar mentality, then it will piss me off. I'm not here to judge anyone but myself. I don't want to marry a girl, I don't want to make love with a girl, and I'm nowhere near able to judge other girls for doing so. But I will never change my views on it.

 

Hey man!
I'm 24 now and I wish I would be a virgin. I lost my virginity and paid for it if you understand. Now I understand that my virginity was not the problem.

 

I know a couple of people who lost their virginity to a hooker. honestly its the most pathetic thing I've ever heard off. Sorry. I'd rather die a virgin

 

wow dude no reason to bring threats of violence into this. the hooker thing was suggested to me and I thought doing it would be really pathetic so I didn't. Haven't changed my mind after that. plus you should now that lots of hookers are in a terrible situation and you exploit that.

take it easy buddy.

 

I'd hope so. He's just having discussion, and he's being honest while doing it. If a guy would smack him down for that, that guy probably has some aggressiveness problems.

 

Okay, yes, I see what you mean now. Still though, I think it'd be better next time to not include the violence, and just tell him why he perhaps shouldn't have said that

 

It's not just a "religious point of view", it's reality, that a certain religion got right. But because people are trained to be anti-religious, they easily dismiss ancient truths...then suffer the consequences.

If everybody on the planet would be a devout Christian for example, porn wouldn't even exist. There would be no cheating, no kids outside of wedlock, no broken families, no sexual diseases, no abortions. Would that be good? I think so.

I know, that's not reality, but I mean that it's the people who are fucked up, not the "religious point of view". Don't take it as an offense please, that was not my point.

 

@saturn warrior:Regarding your questions and kind of confusion-I am not religious rather i am very much Spiritual.I like and respect every religion and enjoy their different rituals.I try to learn their different ways to admire the Ultimate Soul.I go to temple/church/Gurudwara/masjid everywhere and it all fascinates me.What i found is every religion is same if you see and understand them fundamentally.And chastity has nothing to do with religion.The only meaning of religion is to combine people,gather them,share themselves and serve each other(at least this is what i think as per my understandings)and in general Humanity.But nowadays people have changed the very fundamental meaning of religion-it divides now!(no religion hitting/bashing please!)Anyways...

Take any great instances in history,the one who got success or some of them whom we still worshiped they all were admirers of chaste looks.They all followed kind of Brahmacharya/celibacy from the beginning of their lives or at least when they discovered the ultimate goal of their lives and they all said one common thing-its not easy!So understand the gravity of this.We totally misunderstood nature's concept of sex or at least we can say we were diverted somewhere else(by whom?lusty,moneymaking human only).Now living in today's world we think how difficult is to do all-but just imagine people in ancient times followed celibacy in their married lives also,they have done everything-given birth to children,lived with their wives,done regular deeds etc.But its possible and this leads us to ultimate self power and purity.And once we feel that lore that understanding we feel on top of this world.Take anyone's life Jesus/Romio-Juliet/Krishna/Rama etc they all achieved this much just because they were so pure and chaste from their innermost.That was there.It all existed.We all can feel it not in that amount but still we can.Just give up all sexual urges for a while and see/feel the beauty of this world.

If you still have doubts look into nature,look at animals other creatures than humans-they all follow celibacy in a way or other. eg Lions which are considered very powerful physically, in them once lioness is done with giving birth she never allows males to wander her around.Instead she teaches her children to hunt and makes them to get into a position first so that they can survive in this world.Thats not like within a month they start again like we humans do right?(for them this period stretch for almost a year or so).So its everywhere in nature ,the point is to look into and understand rather than sit in front of a virtual screen and jerk for them whom we don't even know at all and still feel that we get some pleasure,isn't it a total nonsense that we all did in past?

Haha confusing right?but its all damn true.Believe in this man.

Good Luck!

 

that one made me laugh out loud. thank you for putting a smile on my face this morning

 

@SaturnWarrior I was a little offended at first when you said that I am speaking too religiously because I only mentioned religion once in my post as a background reference and I tried to put myself out there and make the whole post very personal. But when I re-read your post a few days later, I can see that you were just trying to be fair to anyone who might not relate with the religious concept of chastity, and I want you to know I appreciate your sensitivity and desire to be inclusive. At the same time I would like religious people, including myself to feel free to express their religious experiences because for me, religion has played a very central role in the lessons I have learned throughout different phases of my life. Peace!

 

This may sound odd coming from a man but.....virginity is beautiful.i gave mine away at a very early age. I've been with many women (out of an addiction) and now I'm married . Having given into my sexual desires has cost me so much in my life. Now though I struggle with my intimacy toward my wife.....she was a virgin when we married. It causes me to be dissatisfied at times. Really it's all in my mind just like the way you feel......it's all in your mind. Virginity is beautiful, a gift. Don't give it away or treat it as cheap. It's a good thing I promise.