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How can I prevent relapse?

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by ThatDudeAgain, May 12, 2016.

  1. ThatDudeAgain

    ThatDudeAgain New Fapstronaut

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    So over the years I developed a porn addiction, always looking for that more perfect view of the more perfect girl, spending hours just searching new things and all that.
    Thanks to a relationship (that is now over though) I got myself away from porn.
    She broke up 2 months ago and I managed not fapping to porn since then (only fapped once in between due to what seems to be called blue balls and now since I reached my personal goal of a month) (also only fapped to porn once during the relationship just to realize how "meh" it is) but thanks to an unfortunate ad I got reminded how "awesome" porn is (or more precisely looks).

    I'm really happy that I got away from porn but I feel like I might go back there at some point... it's so tempting.
    What do you recommend to stay away? Are there any good/better alternatives if I have the urge again? I've read that some people really like erotica texts.
    I wanted to try to stick to my imagination but that might lead to my ex, which I really don't want...

    Maybe amateur porn only? So I still have the visual stimuli but I won't end up looking for that 40kg girl doing splits while... You get the point

    Another thing I'm wondering about: Since I got off porn I feel like I'm more into "chubby" girls. I started going to the gym this monday and when I look at the girls I think like "she got a great body, but yeah...". It's really weird for me. Maybe it's because my ex was rather chubby and I kind of miss her?

    Sorry for that rather big and I guess "random" post. I'm new to this forum and quite new to NoFap... and confused ;)
     
  2. traveller22

    traveller22 Fapstronaut

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    Hi there.

    Amateur porn only is not an option if you want to stay away from porn. Now that you've made the break from PMO, a lot of the really hard work has been done. Much of it will come down to deciding not to look at it ever again, which won't always be easy.

    My suggestion would be to look at other areas of your life & develop those. Porn is an easy way to get a dopamine hit & that's what underpins the addiction in most cases.

    Personally I would stay away from erotic literature, as that will start to fire neurons in the "porn" area & could easily lead you into a relapse.

    Find new challenges, get fit, meet new people, develop yourself...

    Just a few thoughts.

    Strength!

    T22.
     
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  3. avatarivn

    avatarivn Fapstronaut

    Welcome to NoFap.

    My first piece of advice would be to get away from any kind of sexual stimulli (yes, that includes erotic litterature and amateur porn) because:
    1. It fires your addicted pathways.
    2. You will (sooner or later) end up escalating to the hottest porn you can possibly find.

    Also, as mentioned on the previous post, develop other areas of your life.

    Best of luck!
     

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