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How detrimental is trying to date during reboot?

Discussion in 'Dating during a Reboot' started by mrguy, Dec 27, 2020.

  1. Dec 27, 2020 #1
    mrguy

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    I have Bumble and am nervous to talk to women in public but I'm getting better. Does this slow down the reboot process? It seems like it might since sexual fantasies enter my head. Sometimes they cause flashbacks to pornography scenes, sometimes just normal fantasies. Luckily I am viewing women more like whole women and not just lustful women. I'm also have the nicer fantasies again of having a family again.

    Curious what you guys think? All these fantasies swirling my head might slow down the reboot?
     
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  2. Dec 27, 2020 #2
    Nº 9

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    I dont know if it slows down the reboot process (pretty sure it does seems is really nothing different than Instagram)

    From my experience, is a bad idea.
    Not only for the sexual fantasy this apps provoke, but for the actual thing.
    The last time I tried NoPMO I went through 35 days, then I downloaded a dating app endup having sex with total strangers for two weeks in a row. Thats binging.
    You are not going to respect woman (or yourself) more after that.

    Is a loose-loose situation for your recovery.
    If you dont get anything-It keeps you fantizising
    If you get anything-may keep you binging

    So, uninstall that sh*t
     
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  3. Dec 27, 2020 #3
    mrguy

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    I do want to be able to sleep with women again. I’ve had a long dry spell. Getting away from PMO is partially because I want to be able to sleep with women again and form a relationship.
     
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  4. Dec 27, 2020 #4
    Nº 9

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    I know what you are talking about. You are in a very tricky situation.
    You want to get away from PMO but also you want to form a relationship with a woman.
    At your state is very easy to slip off. If doing NoFap for you is partially to sleep with woman again you could be doing this for other people instead of focus on yourself. Yourself and your personal development. Dating apps are going to direct you towards other people (girls) and you must focus on you.

    What if you get some *ss in the app? What if it is just sex? What if you find a girl and have sex with her pretty easy but you actually dont like her afterwards? What happened with your propose of geting a relationship? You will end you dryspell but at the same time f*cked up you main propose of geting a relationship

    The dating app put yourself in a position in wich is easy to slip away from your propose
     
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  5. Dec 27, 2020 #5
    mrguy

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    I think a one time fling would be okay. My last relationship was somewhat brutal and I stopped dating all together. As long as I’m not led into the cess pool of PMO/PM then I think it may be okay. Since I’m talking with real women with real emotions. Not some digitally airbrushed model or paid actress. Although I think it could make 90 days take longer.
     
    mrguy, Dec 27, 2020
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