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How do I actually prevent/resist a relapse?

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by We CAN Do This!, Jun 18, 2017.

  1. We CAN Do This!

    We CAN Do This! Fapstronaut

    I literally just relapsed. I was sat at a table in my home doing some work for a college interview. I had some London Underground (a hobby of mine) videos playing on the TV for some background noise, and suddenly within the space of about 2 minutes, I got the urge to relapse and went through with it. I literally looked at porn, went upstairs and PM. I managed to hold off O literally by going on this website.

    You might think 'well it can be hard to resist after not PMO for a long time'. The last time I relapsed? Friday. Friday night I PMO and it honestly makes me sick to the bone to think how weak I have been these last few days.

    How does everybody else resist a relapse? I really need help right now.
     
  2. Try to go to the library instead of staying around your house. I couldn't see you going through with it in a library. I have no idea who London underground is but if it's music watch out, I have stopped listening to pop altogether because of the subliminal messages a lot of these new music videos have which i believe send the subliminal messages to your subconscious which gives you triggers.Just keep busy and try not to think about it that's the best way. Remember the first couple of days are hard because of the chaser effect it gets a bit easier after those days!
     
  3. We CAN Do This!

    We CAN Do This! Fapstronaut


    Thanks for the advice. I also just finished school on Friday to start college in September, so now I have some time for hobbies etc.

    Oh, and the London Underground is just trains that run in London. I'm just a bit of a train/transport geek.
     
  4. I agree. Stop listening to pop music and do your work in a library.
     
  5. We CAN Do This!

    We CAN Do This! Fapstronaut


    Just to clarify, I wasn't actually listening to pop music. London Underground is a train company. I like going on/watching trains.
     
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  6. lantti

    lantti Fapstronaut

    By reading yourbrainonporn articles. by reading stuff. But in the first few days, just being on your guard and disregarding urge when it shows up.

    And of course: pre-emptive strikes. I'm no longer going to any website or watch any video that has any kind of nudity in them. World gives enough tease as it were:D
     
  7. NakedDisciple

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    To resist, just go outside as soon as the thought comes to your head.
     
  8. We CAN Do This!

    We CAN Do This! Fapstronaut

    Thanks for the advice. I'd like to think that all I have to do is try harder to resist, but I know it won't be that simple. I think I'll just take each day as it comes.
     
  9. We CAN Do This!

    We CAN Do This! Fapstronaut

    Thanks for replying. I agree, the outdoors is the best place to relieve those horrible thoughts. The problem is, thoughts often come to me when I'm trying to sleep or catching up on work, and I can't really afford to distract myself by walking at those times.

    But yes, I will try to get out as much as possible to distract myself.
     
  10. NakedDisciple

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    Where your fous goes, your energey flows. Always refocus your attention when a thought comes. I use pain, just by pinching myself, focus on the pain. Use the 5 second rule.

    Consider quiting your job if you don't love it.

    If you do what you love, you will be so focused on it, this addiction will just go out the window.
     
  11. NakedDisciple

    NakedDisciple Fapstronaut

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    Oh you won't have a job your 16.
     
  12. We CAN Do This!

    We CAN Do This! Fapstronaut


    I did actually try the pain technique for a while and it actually worked, but I just forgot about it after a week.

    And I'm only 16, by the way, and the work is for a college interview :p I just finished school on Friday. I'm a bit worried that having too much time on my hands will result in more relapses.
     
  13. NakedDisciple

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    How can you forget. This impacts every aspect of your life. Wear somthing like a banndanna to remind you or just put an elastic band around your wrisit.
     
  14. We CAN Do This!

    We CAN Do This! Fapstronaut


    I think what happened is that I just got so distracted with my exams that I didn't have time for those thoughts, and by the time they came back, I didn't have the energy to resist.
     
  15. I will win

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    Search "Chucky kill scenes" on youtube.
     
  16. We CAN Do This!

    We CAN Do This! Fapstronaut


    Well, I have to admit that would definitely change the mood a bit :D
     
  17. I will win

    I will win Fapstronaut

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    Not a bit, but totally. Trust me, that Chucky kills urges, try it and you won't regret it!
     
  18. Lol he will trade his urges for nightmares.
     
  19. We CAN Do This!

    We CAN Do This! Fapstronaut

    I'd be lying if I said I don't want that. PMO is a nightmare anyway, I may as well go the whole hog!
     
  20. I will win

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    Well said, that's my boy!
     
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