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How do I change my gay/homosexuality status to normal back?

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by AnmysUser18312, Nov 19, 2018.

Is there a way to change from gay to normal/cure it?Can I marry woman and have children if I am gay?

  1. You can marry and have children even if you are gay.

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    19.0%
  2. Homosexuality can be cured.

    20 vote(s)
    47.6%
  3. You cannot change/cure your sexual orientation (gay/homosexuality).

    12 vote(s)
    28.6%
  4. No, both are not possible.

    2 vote(s)
    4.8%
  1. MasterRoshi

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    If you aren’t attracted to women, then your gay, AND THERES ABDOLUTLY NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT!!!!!

    I have sucked cock, and been fuckdc by men, but I’m in no way gay, I’m just a really depressed/insecure sex/PMO addict who tore down my standards in search of the next intense orgasm.

    I have never ever ever been romantically or sexually attracted to men. I just used men as a way to orgasm since men are horny always compared to women and are easy to find. And PMO caused me to open up my boundaries (also a troubled childhood).

    To me it sounds like you are just naturally attracted to men. Unlike me, you have attraction. And that is ok.

    I would think you could benefit from therapy to learn to accept yourself for who you are and explore in detail with them your thoughts about gay vs straight.
     
  2. Superman25

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    Sexual orientation is a mental thing... There are no such things as "gay genes",
    Sexual orientation is a state of mind. As hard as it would be to believe, no one is born that way. There are no "gay genes", and you can completely change your sexual orientation. Millions of people have done it, and you can too. From what I've observed, your interest in men comes from continuously viewing porn. I advise that you stop. Porn shows a distorted view of people...men, women and children alike. If it's your wish to marry a woman and having children, the only person stopping you is yourself. Talk to a doctor if you wish, go out more often, work on your appearance, meet new people. If it's a girl you want, she'll come around. They always do. Believe in yourself and keep away from porn and masturbation. Good luck, bro​
     
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  3. MasterRoshi

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    You are wrong. Sorry but you are, and I feel it’s dangerous to say this to people. Cuz it’s what makes some have a struggle that they can’t beat.

    Gay is a spectrum. But it’s been very clearly proven that some are born gay.

    There are some, like myself, who have had destructive sexual things occur and also desensitization due to PMO that lead to sex with the same gender, but there are definitly people who are romantically attracted to the same sex.

    Gay sex actually happens in most mammal species.
     
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  4. brilliantidiot

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    I think theres a book on this stuff called "homosexuality and the politics of truth" by jeffery satinover. Haven't read it in a while but I think its relevant.
     
  5. Superman25

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    Are you saying that it's OK for a straight man to come out as gay and a gay man cannot come out as straight?? The fact that he has a penis that can do what a penis can implies that he can be straight, if he wants to. He asking if he can get married and have children... Of course he can! He asking if there's any chance he can be straight... There are many cases of people that were gay and became straight and have families and are happy, so why can't he?
     
  6. sherif1987

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    What a debate. I believe David Bowie spent some years with a homesexual them "came out as hetero." the relgious traditions say that you can inherit from your ancestors certain inclinations, even gay inclinations. At the end of hte day, certain philosophies and religiouns will say that you can ascend to your higher self and transcend these inclinations of the lower self. But I'm sure it's a very tough struggle. These traditions say that some "bad" inclinations come from the whisperings of extradimensional beings, or devils, or even your lower self. Obviously, other ppl say just do what you want, that there's nothing wrong with sexual relations with teh same gender. AT the end of the day, this guy has to figure this out, choose a perspective, find communal support for whatever he decides...each soul has responsibility over itself.
     
  7. MasterRoshi

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    To be honest I don’t care what anyone identifies as. So long as they are happy with their life. No matter what direction someone decides, I think it’s a great idea to gain insight and clarity rather than be struggling internally with conflict.

    So seeking a professional (when needed) to gain clarity on the issue and gain self acceptance regardless of the end result is a good idea.

    I’ve just seen people have severe identity crisis due to not being comfortable with their natural sexual identity and feeling they need to “fix” themselves. Sexuality can be very confusing for many, especially PMO addicts who are desensitized.
     
  8. AnmysUser18312

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    Related: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.p...punishment-cause-induce-homosexuality.207026/

    Extract from the thread above:
    "My strategy to overcome this would be probably:
    (1) Can my gay problem be cured if I quit and avoid looking and avoid sexual arousal at photos of boy/men/myself/my own body parts but instead begin to watch pictures of woman porn online everyday and force my penis to erect towards those photos and train/force myself to be sexually aroused to women? Maybe this will rewire my brain plasticity and change my sexual orientation.


    (2) Search for pornography pictures/videos of girls/women online then force myself to be aroused and force my penis to get an erection. I think this will train my brain to become sexually attracted to women due to repeated sexual stimuli/arousal to women (by keep masturbating to them). DOES ANYONE THINKS THIS IS THE MOST EFFECTIVE AND LOGIC SOLUTION? I believe so since masturbation makes us addicted to it and increase our urge/sexual drive thus by repeated masturbation to women, it may change our sexual orientation. But I thought masturbation is a bad thing as it damages health, lose nutrient by ejaculation, etc. Does anyone support me to masturbate just for the sake of rewiring my sexual orientation?

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    ook/stare at my own body parts such as my arm, leg, etc. when having sex with a woman, since I get sexually aroused with body parts of a male (which is myself). This would make me get an erection. Is this a good idea?

    Does anyone agree with any of the solutions above?

    Which solution do you think will work?"

    For (1), I have thought that if I abstain/stop/restrain myself from looking photos of boys/men and my own body parts for a long time and begin to search for photos of women and force my penis to get erect, will this eventually get rid of my homosexuality and change me to heterosexual and at the same time rewire my brain/train it to become sexually attracted to women? I'm not sure whether this goal is possible or not since my penis never automatically react when looking at girls before.

    For (2), the logic is my penis would get erect when looking at myself/my own body parts such as arms and legs, therefore if I can't get horny to women but still want to have biological children, I can just look at myself (my arms/legs) to make myself sexually aroused and get an erection during the sexual intercourse which makes it possible?

    For (3), I believe repeated training/instillation of sexual arousal/orgasm to women will rewire/reprogram my brain to be attracted to women instead of men. After keep repeating, my brain will think "oh, it's a girl, *turns horny and gets an erection*.

    ANOTHER SOLUTION: Can any of you teach me some knowledge/information (relating to sexual attraction) about how to be sexually aroused/attracted to girls/women? I believe my brain lacks this knowledge and teaching me such knowledge can help me to be able to be get "turned on" by women and thus curing my homosexuality.

    Hope you read the strategies I mentioned above and analyze whether any of them will work. Please tell me your opinions, especially on solution (2)-masturbating. I need them to help me make decision whether I should do so or not as I'm extremely scared of masturbating after quitting it for many months. I read that masturbation is one of the worst things, so many negative and ill effects. I'm so paranoid about masturbation right now that I feel like I will destroy/ruin my life forever and have permanent side effects to my life if I ever masturbate again. I'm quite a paranoid person since recently. Maybe my brain gets anxious easily nowadays."
     
    Last edited: Dec 25, 2018
  9. Woodland-Soul

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    Sounds like your gay but also have some kind of complex relating to abuse. Strange.
     
  10. sherif1987

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    I think you should see a therapist or a guru or something. It just sounds like something that an expert in psychology or life, might be better to guide you with than a bunch of strangers on a forum.
     
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