How do I cope with being unattractive in high school?

When I was in highschool there was a kid about my size (short and skinny) on the wrestling team. Give wrestling a try.

 

All things aside about confidence and stuff, there is always room for improvement. You say your skin looks weird or what not. The skin is an organ, so it needs to be nourished. Treating your skin conditions, can be simple as getting enough sleep and water, and avoiding high sodium/starch foods. Also exercising, like doing cardio with weight training never hurt nobody.

 

Hey Bluffy, first of all it's important to recognize that for men, attractiveness is not entirely dictated by physiological beauty or "good looks." Studies in psychology have shown that women have a genetic disposition to men who come across as apt leaders and defenders of the future family. This means they are inclined to pair with men who show mental and interpersonal discipline, maturity, assertiveness, dominance, security, and most of all confidence; this is why we all know a drop-dead gorgeous girl who has fallen for that low-life asshole we all despise. He may be a dick and a terrible partner, but "bad boys" all have one thing in common: they don't care what people think of them, and want to be dominant all the time.

Now I'm not saying that being a dick will make you attractive, and if you are not a natural asshole then trying to be one will only come off as try-hard. What I am saying is that the first step to overcoming feelings of being ugly or unattractive is to understand that for you, physical appearance is not what makes you attractive, it is mental confidence and power that does. I would begin with positive affirmations to yourself (e.g. sticky notes with positive-themed phrases such as "i am confident, strong, and attractive") and journaling every single thing you notice each day that you perceive as confirming your ugliness illusion. By seeing the words written in real space, it becomes much easier to judge them objectively and realize that they are only perceptions rather than realities. Then I would engage in activity that involves physical interaction with real objects, such as sports, exercise, yoga, cooking, etc. This will boost your sense of physical power and confidence, the cornerstone of the attractive male psyche.

If it is men you are attempting to attract, then I would do research on sexuality and find books or essays about that topic. I am a straight male and haven't brushed on it.

Hope this helps, and best of luck to you!

 

Girls now a days are not hard to get, they are very slutty
You can go to a party, they will be drunk there
Also, i was ugly in middle school too, now im considered attractive by many women

And lastly, if you continue to Not PMO you will become more confident and sometimes confidence turns girls on more than physical looks

 

I can help you my friend, you have a very low self esteem you should use Affirmations to change your life
https://www.trinityaffirmations.com go to this site and put in your email and download the self esteem album for FREE use the future tense affirmations first for a few weeks maybe a month and a half then go to present tense and then listen to the to the natural tense It will change your life believe me. through out the the time period that you use the Future tense affirmations go to sleep with them playing on repeat and then when you wake up listen to them again for 10 mins or 20 how ever many times you can b4 you go to school. keep this routine going all the way until your done with the natural tense and then you can move on and buy the confidence album but I suggest you you do this self-esteem album first. I am currently using the sex addiction album since day 1 from starting over again they don't have a P addiction album yet(i have sent them a request to make one) but in the sex addiction album page it says that the album can help end M addiction so I am taking a chance. check out the website bro read about affirmations if you don't know about them, send me a msg if you need advice on affirmations. I know this can help you check it out bro you have nothing to lose but everything to gain.

 

Lots of Good thoughts from everyone.
Take care of yourself. Physically, Emotionally, Mentally and Spiritually

• Practice excellent hygiene.
  • Shower daily. Shave. Style hair . Cut your fingernails. Use a cologne you like
  • Brush and Floss! Use a natural tooth whitener. ( like Baking Soda and Lemon Juice)
  • google AlphaM How To Have Clear Skin
    also watch some of his other videos-- its stuff on how to be a gentleman and style-- It helps with confidence
• Dress Well - and keep it clean ( You dont have to spend a fortune either. I have found darkwash jeans and black Tshirt easiest to keep clean and not wear out as fast. When the tshirt starts to fade replace it- can get another for a few bucks) clean your shoes a few times a month. ( if sneakers use dish soap- or shine if wearing boots/dress shoes)
• Eat right . exercise. get enough sleep . NoFap.
• Study- do well in school. Cannot be overstated .
• Find a healthy hobby/ subject you are passionate about. Enjoy it ( like guitar art science programming )
• Laugh ( watch comedy ) Have Fun
• Cultivate relationship with a friend and family - People who like you for you
• Pray - ask God/ Jesus to help you see your true self- Your real value

Stop judging yourself
If others are judging you calling you unattractive- do not listen
Cultivate the inner beauty- it is the one that lasts

 

Try to get more sunshine in your life. It will help you on all levels.
CK

 

Dude remember have a good behaviour towards everyone looks or physical appearance do matter but it is not everything....vitamin E supplements are really helpful in curing under eye dark circles,drink lots of water eat green vegetables and fruits avoid junk foods try meditation during morning hours if possible join a gym all these things helped me a lot....and most important avoid PMO

 

Remember that being unnattractive to girls is more about your level of confidence. If you stand tall, have conviction in your voice, seem comfortable in social situations and can be funny, then you're always in with a chance.

Looks matter, but if you're just the average looking guy, you can easily become a 7 or 8/10 in a girls eyes by being confident.

Don't EVER call yourself unattractive or say "you deserve a way better guy than me", in front of a woman. That will immediately friend zone the s*** out of you!

 

Being ugly and being beautiful is a state of mind not a physical constant.
If you feel ugly, think you are ugly and believe you are ugly you will only ever be ugly. You feed those things to your subconcious and it will act upon your beliefs and thoughts.
The reason you are "ugly" is because you make yourself out to be ugly.
People always believe that things that hurt and are harsh must be the truth - such nonsense.
You may don´t like the appearance of the you now, but you are 16 - you will change and change and change.
If you don´t feel you are beautiful, if you don´t think you are beautiful, then you will hardly ever be.
That´s neiter being arrogant nor being delusional - why let others decide if you look good or bad. If you truly can believe you look good any other opinion doesn´t matter.
Don´t waste your lifetime and energy on negative thoughts and feelings. you don´t have to be objective. Be subjective and think you are handsome.
Be stubborn about it, be clear about it to yourself. Tell yourself you are beautiful and get more beautiful everday. Know that your inner beauty surfaces everday more and more.
Your subconcious controls your body your concious influences your subconcious. In that meaning your thoughts have an impact on your appearance. People can become beautiful. Genes may by activated or inactivated That may make different connections, the may mutate (not in a cancerous way). People become ugly as they grow older or they may become beautiful. It´s you decision - lose heart or don´t lose it. Be firm in your beliefs or be not.

Who cares how others think about your looks - as long as you accept yourself and know that you are beautiful.
Why should a strangers/friends/relatives/acquaintances opinion outweigh your own?
Just because you don´t look like the pornstar-like people in the media doesn´t mean that you are not beautiful.

And remember, your body will only ever change, you influence that change. Believe in yourself and your beauty, firmly, and you may reap the fruits.


By the way, if you wanna try it out look into "Biokinesis" - eventough it´s not a superman power to a degree, it´s very real.

 

There's 4 books that will help you: The Mystery Method, The Game (Neil Strauss), Rules of The Game (Neil Strauss also) and The Art of Seduction (Robert Greene)... Good luck