How do I feel after 400 days

Rainbow Warrior said:
Did you put safety filter’s in place And block all triggers to get to 400 days? Or did you just remain productive or did you put safety filters in place and rely on willpower?
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It is very hard to rely on will power all the time. Yes, I used Covenant eyes filter and I have used Soberway app for daily motivation. There were some down days that I was not productive but it is normal and I am still learning.

Regarding triggers, There are 3 types of triggers

1. Visual triggers: Which are things that triggers us visually (it can be social media, scenes in movies, second look in the streets, advertisements, etc. )
We can solve this one by adding filters or checking on imdb's parents guide - if the movie have triggering scenes or not before watching the movie.

2. Environmental triggers: Which are things that triggers us at certain places or time (It can be a certain month of the year - when the weather is too hot or too cold or at certain place where we have used to PMO in the past)
We can solve this one by learning our triggers and trying to change the place or being busy at the triggering event.

3.Emotional triggers: Which are things that triggers us emotionally such as (HALT concept) hungry, angry, lonely, tired. In-addition being rejected or a rewarding yourself after finishing a task or a project.
We can solve this one by watching our feelings and do self-care.

From my experience, we can not change our triggers but we can learn to understand our triggers and to replace the action with something positive. The key is to know and to notice our triggers because every single one of us have their own triggers.
 
theoptimist said:
Hello Everyone,

I would like to share, how I feel after 400 days honestly without any exaggeration like I woke up one day with 2 wings at my back and I have started to fly or anything like that :)

Some of the positive things that I have noticed/felt:

- Enjoying little Things:
I have noticed that I started to enjoy and feel happy from little things such as listening to music, deep talk with a good friend or even eating a good meal.

- Self-confidence / Inner security has increased:
I started not to care about what other people think of me and I have started to ignore fake friends and work colleagues, in the past I was afraid to ignore fake friends or work colleagues because I needed to be nice to everyone, but now I am secure enough to say I don't want to be a part of a gossip group and I don't want to gossip about anyone

- My Self-respect has increased
I have started to prioritize my well-being and respect myself. I have noticed a remarkable shift in my overall way of living after not allowing anyone to say something disrespectful to me.

- Self forgiveness
I forgive myself more often than before for all the mistakes that I have made in the past and when I do something wrong like forgetting something or being late, etc.. I started to say to myself "I am not perfect and I don't have to be perfect" Before being sober, I used to criticize myself so hard and feel worse for tiny little mistakes that in most cases not a big deal

-My Emotions become more sensitive
I have started to cry when I watch a sad scene or an emotional scene in a movie

-New things / Risk
I started to love to try new things and to take more risks which made my life more fun

Conclusion

There are ups and downs in the recovery journey. There were some days that I felt shit and there were some days that I felt great so it is totally normal to feel both emotions.
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Love this post... especially the part about you getting more in touch with your emotions. Very inspiring and uplifting, as I also struggle with low self-esteem.
Congratulations!
 
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