I keep seeing “focus on being your best self first” and “give yourself time to recover” and I get that. I want that. But I keep finding myself with the mindset of “the faster I become better, the faster I’ll really be ready to date.” It’s not even really about sex at this point. I want my next relationship to be long-term. Ideally, she would even be the right woman for me to marry but I know that’s a lot to hope for. I really just want the emotional connection of being understood on that deep level. If sex eventually comes with that, great! But it’s not my primary motivation anymore. I’m sure I won’t meet anyone in my current situation: full-time student, soon to be just plain unemployed (I’m not going back this fall), stuck living with my parents after my campus shut down (thanks, COVID), and going to counseling for late-diagnosed ADD and emotional/self-confidence issues. That still doesn’t stop me from wanting to hurry up and get to the part where I’m “better.” I guess what I’m getting at is how have y’all taught/forced yourselves to really be patient and content in your singleness? I’m tired of stressing/moping about it so much.