How do I get in touch with my sexuality?

This is an important goal. Are you someone who is always concerned with being seen as good, not causing offense, and pleasing people? Sometimes people like this have trouble embracing their sexual side. If so I’d recommend the book No More Mr. Nice Guy by Robert Glover. Or maybe your disconnect is rooted in something completely different. Keep working on it, though, because acceptance of your sexual nature in an integrated way is a beautiful and powerful thing. Good luck.

 

First you need to address that ”conditioning.” it's creating dissonance. Why does your mind think it's bad? Where did you learn this? We're there experienced that occurred to shape this belief?

The second thing to do is engage your sexuality, in a healthy and natural way, with a partner. Take your time and go slow. Make sure your partner understands your predicament.

 

Watched this video all the way through, and he made me realise that all the things he says men need to do, I have no idea how to do. I have no idea how to be a "sexual being" and I have no idea how to learn.

 

Better you dont touch your sexuality or you are risking to relapse

 

Used to be in a similar spot. Didn’t want to see myself as a sexual being, and it was hard to unwire from it, but reading the Bible has helped to unwire that mentality.

Here’s an article that might help...

https://ca.thegospelcoalition.org/c...prising-things-that-the-bible-says-about-sex/

 

Part of it is just talking to women. The interaction is part of what stokes the “sexual being” within us. Their smile, their laugh, the way they play with their hair, or send flirty texts or tell a funny story—a million things make us want and desire them. You won’t get that from porn so you have to get it in real life.

another part of it is knowing what you want: “I want to date women, I want a girlfriend, I wan to meet a hot woman and have incredible sex” etc. Then you have to start making it happen.

You also need some inner exploration—what do you like about women? Which women are you attracted to? Do you have a particular type (voluptuous redheads with a confident sexuality? Geeky ladies who read manga? CrossFit ladies?)? When you see/meet a woman who attracts you, what are you feeling? Embrace it and think on it.

A big part of it (at least for me) is knowing what you like, not being ashamed or apologetic about it and exploring it as far as you can.

 

I think you just stumble and figure it out naturally. Don’t stare, be a gentleman, be honest, don’t let hesitation kill you and remember you’re human and will mess up.

 

Great advice, thank you.

 

No worries. Feel free to PM if you need.

 

Reading the Bible had the opposite effect on me: it repressed my sexuality. I do not criticize you for faith, nonetheless.