How do i stop Edging please help?

Hey there’s some good news in this, you didn’t fully relapse and complete the cycle of pmoing which is Porn>Masturbation>Orgasm

but you must realize your true enemy isnt masturbation or porn or orgasm its all 3, if you do one of these 3 you’ll crave pmoing even more. Plus viewing pictures or anything sexual that releases dopamine in your brain sets your recovery backwards, i suggest you take a step back acknowledge that you slipped, make a vow not to look at hot pics.



you said you came from back from a trip, thats good, but you need to know that sometimes the brain links pmo to things and places too, so triggers are not just photos, it could boredom, feeling of loneliness, or laying at bed, or even actions, like just getting ready to sleep, or waking up, or stepping in the shower, those habits you formed while you pmoed will stick with you for a while during the reboot, and you will need to put great effort in breaking those habits.

How to fight them use these techniques :

• change the enivrement after an urges that doesn’t involve looking at pictures arises( change rooms for example, or sit on your chair instead of bed)
• Disengage activity( watching tv-using smartphone-shower)
• Practice breathing techniques
• Empty your lunges and hold your breath this will put your brain into a survival mode in a few seconds, forgetting about urges and images.
  
• Break a new record in squats push ups ect..

i hope this helps and good luck on your journey

 

Well you have to push it upstream, so first paddle stroke (a lot of people stroke a lot) is to let go of taking about humans with phases like "hot girls" it will make you happier ON EACh ENCOunTEr with people and depictions of people that trigger your addictive illness to consciously consider their humanity. They have parents, people who took care of them or they couldn't be adults, the same love that flows to and from you. Of course one of our problems is that we have love and sex (which do go together) irrevocably confused.
You can cultivate a better understanding of true love by trying to help other people. One of my favorite ways is by picking up trash. I am doing a little bit to offset the harm I do by objectification, a little too create a better world for all people, the ones I'm triggered by, the ones connected to them, people I love and those I dislike, so we all benefit. The operative word in "try to help" is not help, rather the operative word is try. Grandiosity is from pride not love, same for perfectionism.
Another thing is to listen to people who know more than you.
And one of the hardest but most important is stop and don't start to start again. It is a holistic system, all these things and several others with together, alone or half assed they do nothing which can be very frustrating even leading to despair. So if you still want to edge, use pm+, indulge in a little psubs do that first until you really don't want to any more, otherwise it's like passing the gas and the brake at the same time. But back to the solution, when you're ready one part is to stop all those behaviors like looking at those pictures (if they're online there is a red button in the top corner of the window, click it to get out as soon as you realize what's happening, or even more happy for you would be to not search certain terms in Google in the first place and I really do mean happier for you, the kit in the head is I need this to be happy but look at your experience it does not sound like the pictures make you happy) and don't start to start. Not starting again is impossible for an addict, if you need help with that part reach out to me I can tell you how it worked for me, you'll want to focus on not starting to start. It's kind of like how very few people who never start smoking get lung cancer. Push it upstream, once craving sets in I don't think an addict can say no, certainly never worked for me. An even better analogy would be if I'm allergic to be stings and obsessed with putting honey on everything. Anyways I'm not explain it the way id like, the internet is a lot better for pm+ and psub than for recovery from them . Thank good I have people I can call when I'm struggling.

 

You stop edging by stopping edging, have a no edge policy. For me edging is worse because I end up doing it loads and in the end have to go the whole way as the desire will get too strong after a few days. Plus your brain gets fried. Best to just leave it alone imo.

All the best