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How do I stop masturbating about a girl that I like?

Discussion in 'Compulsive Sexual Behavior' started by rubiksnerd45, Jul 21, 2020.

  1. rubiksnerd45

    rubiksnerd45 Fapstronaut

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    Hello, and whenever my sexual tension is so high, I have the desirable urge to masturbate, and I always give in to it. How do I stop giving in and not letting the tension control me?
     
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  2. Follower of God❤️

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    Drink cold water whenever urges hit, it may vanish some of the effect. You need to put really hard effort to be the one! All the best <3
     
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  3. Steppingintotheunkown

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    From my past experience, the more I intentionally masturbated over a crush or a girl I liked the more chance she would dislike me or friendzone me
     
  4. Follower of God❤️

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    I totally agree with you. Don't do nofap for a girl, do it for yourself!
     
  5. Asdor22

    Asdor22 Fapstronaut

    Just ask her out, that will fulfill those urges beyond belief :)
     
  6. REBOOT PEPITO

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    You can also do sports, so you use that energy to work out and to increase chances.
     
  7. Bonhart

    Bonhart Fapstronaut

    You need to redirect that tension and do another activity. Try to avoid leisure time as much as possible, keep yourself busy doing constructive and productive things.
     
  8. sighingspider

    sighingspider Fapstronaut

    I fully agree with you, but it is really hard since places are still in lock-mode and most probably we gonna get the second wave. Ngl, if we can don't do the NoFap during this tough time, I think we are going to excel in the long run...
     
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  9. Bonhart

    Bonhart Fapstronaut

    Yes, I feel you, this is hard during lockdown. But like you said, if you conquer this during lockdown, nothing will stop you when you get out again.
     
  10. DontTouchYourWilly

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    The trick for me ( as a teen) is to give your mum ur phone password.....It sucks a lot but its the best way....my horny brain has not found a way to bypass the potential shame.... my strict religious mother is a daunting image.

    But one day i know i will guess the password.....
     
  11. DontTouchYourWilly

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    Can i also say, everyone always talks about 'do sports'....NO ONE TALKS ABOUT THE RUSH OF ENDORPHINS AFTER WHICH MAKE YOU SUPPPPPPERRRRRRRRRRRR H*RNY
     
  12. rubiksnerd45

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    Whenever I am horny I will think about porn then masturbation, then I fight the urge against masturbation, but it always wins and when the feeling takes over my body, I go into a state where I need to masturbate, it's almost impossible to resist it!
     
  13. Bonhart

    Bonhart Fapstronaut

    Hmmm, that depends on what are his goals regarding the PMO cycle. In my experience, masturbating without porn let me to PMO relapses, which is the thing I'm trying to avoid.
     
  14. Bonhart

    Bonhart Fapstronaut

    Yes, it is different for everybody. I hope you are able to mantain control. Take care man.
     
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  15. rubiksnerd45

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    But I thought that masturbation by itself, even without thinking about lustful thoughts, is still a huge sin to god. Also even if I don't think about sexual thoughts during masturbation, the feeling to masturbate is the thing I am trying to avoid, and I want to go for a full week with PMOing at all, even without thinking about porn during masturbation.
     
  16. Bk1241

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    I masturbated for years to women in my high school and college that I didn’t get a chance to connect with. I found myself so satisfied with the masturbation that I stopped interacting with others besides my ex and very close friends. If you get the temptation to masturbate, I would suggest sending a hello to the crush you have or to anyone you want to connect with. It’s a great way to get the momentum going, at least in my opinion.
     
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  17. PrototypeOA

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    About 3 years ago I hooked up with a woman that I masturbated to for like 2 years. Man that was like the best feeling ever.
    But you should quit fappping whatsoever. I try to watch some motivation videos of nofap benefits when I get the urge to masturbate. It helps me for now.
     
  18. rubiksnerd45

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    But every time I send a message to my crush, I'm entering into high school this year, but every time I send a message to her, she only responds with one word, "hi, yay, cool, lol, ok, bye." My crush obviously friend zoned me, and I can never get out, and due to the quarantine, I can't interact with anyone right now. We share a lot of qualities, and she used to say hi to me every time she saw me, and I would say hi back. SHE asked for my phone number, but over time she stopped sending texts to me. It makes me feel even more lonely then ever.
     
  19. Bk1241

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    You need to take the initiative and send the texts if you care to have her company. Maybe forget about dating her and focus on the loneliness. Being lonely in the midst of the pandemic is a much larger issue than anything else. Take the charge out of the loneliness!!! There are others.
     
  20. rubiksnerd45

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    Now that I think about it, if I try, I might be able to succeed, but if I don't try at all, then I will never succeed.
     
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