How do I stop my craving for a gf ?

Same shit happening with me bro. I dont know how to stop it, its driving me insane.

 

It's totally natural and good to want a partner you can connect with - everyone does.
One thing that is more important though is figuring out how to know and like yourself - how do you do that? By healthy habits - seeing the good in things / hobbies and loads of other positive stuff.
In my view getting a partner is a kind of bonus - you get a good relationship with someone else only after you have one with yourself.

 

Hey man, I have an idea for you why don't plan to take a trip with a friend?-not a woman of course☺- you will be refreshed and who knows maybe you will meet interesting people.

 

Hey man,

I think to some extent a lot of this is natural. Whether or not I'm interested in a relationship with them or not, I'm attracted to all my friends that are girls. I think that's one of the big differences between your guy friends and girl friends. We're naturally attracted to girls. But even tho I'm "attracted" to them, it doesn't change our friendship. Friendships with girls aren't meant to feel how they do when you're chilling with the bros.
Also, after PMOing it's hard not to sexualize girls.​

 

i am not positive this will help you. i am the wife of a PA
But i will try...
You said your self

Your trigger for the thoughts your having about your friend are from you depression and loneliness. THATS HUGE! you figured out one of the hardest parts of the PA ( the why/the trigger). now you need to find a way to squash your trigger.
Have you seen a dr for depression? you could try that. or a therapist.

other methods could be to get a hobby. Do you like riding a bike?, hiking? walking? building things?
Find things that make you happy. ( thing is you may meet a girl you actually like at a class ( for your hobby) or something too.)

your brain is trying to trick you and make you think you have to want her. Guys and girls can be just friends. I typically only had friend that were guys. i simply related to them better. many with whom there was a mutual strictly platonic friendship.

https://www.health.harvard.edu/newsletter_article/how-addiction-hijacks-the-brain
this is a great article that explains addiction is the brain.

i am not sure any of this helped. but i hope it did

 

You are relying on girls to make you feel good. It's basically a sign that you may not be that happy or have a lot of positive things going for you. Fill yourself with positivity The girl thing should be a bonus

 

When I was a bit younger I made the mistake of confusing wanting a companion with simply wanting sex. I later realized how foolish this was, and it explained why I got so easily attached to any attractive women that I spoke to more than once.

 

Same, girl at work doing my head in.

 

I can relate to a painful situation like yours. This might be hard to hear but you either need to tell her how you feel or move on. If she really is in a committed relationship with someone else and you want to stay really close friends I think you'll be setting yourself up for a lot of heartbreak and future pain.

The other option is to tell her how you feel and win her over. Based on your description I think you might have stronger feelings for her than just friendship ones.

 

Listen only to uplifting positive music Find some hobby, mountainbike, chess, painting. Preferably something that puts your attention outside yourself, something that is greather than you.

 

Relating to this comment on a real level especially the "after PMOing its hard not to sexualize girls." I started to use a girl for sex and when she didn't want to see me anymore it's like I'm having withdrawals. It's because I am sexualizing her like crazy and also relying on someone else to make me happy. lesson fucking learned

 

Best way of forgetting a crush is:

Getting a new and better one!

I know you dont want to, but idealizing someone isnt the best thing to do. We can private chat if you want to talk more.
You know what may help? Be a narcissist regarding romantic love, learn how to trick your brain in rewarding you only by your time alone. Be like Tyler Durden. Relate to the girls but TRULY believe that you are the best person in this world to be around with. Be a sociopath, cut emotional feelings of your life if needed to.