I have two questions related to this. 1. For those with addictions, how do you see fetishes fitting with recovery? Personally, I have fetishes/kinks that I feel are intrinsic to me. For instance I have vivid erotic memories from childhood (i.e. < 10 years old) associated with being bound. I am sceptical that attempting to rid myself of these kinks are realistic or healthy. I feel at some point I would be going to war with my intrinsic self, or setting myself up to fail endlessly. Does anyone else have experience with this? 2. To partners; do you have any experience or advice how you have approached this? I am wondering if in some sense it might hurt less? I see a lot of pain caused by feeling in competition with unrealistic standards of beauty, but if the betrayal is focused on something that is not sexual to you, does this make it easier to cope?