How do you combat loneliness in the moment?

I don't really do much to combat it. Just wallow in the feelings cause loneliness is a part of life.
Sometimes I try to remind myself that it's okay not to have a S.O. and to focus on being the best version of myself instead of looking for someone else to make my life more meaningful.
Do you do anything in particular?

 

Embrace it bro.
Been like 3 weeks and I have been trying to live on my own, as part of self improvement. Part of the challenge was to stay inside and self examination for a week
I've realised people fear an independent person. After a week, they were all looking at me like a threat. Probably they thought I was standing aloof, proud. But also I realized I learnt a lot of emotional management during that period.

Once you learn how peaceful it is to be on your own (without pmo of course). It's contagious

 

I'm in day 60 of lockdown. I cannot go out and spend time with my family and friends. I cannot go out on dates also. I live alone so i can't have a 1 on 1 conversation in person. is about adapting and i'm good at it. Thanks to nofap i feel happy and positive about the future. From time to time i talk via videocall to family and friends to stay in touch.
The best way to forget you are lonely is to do stuff, keep yourself busy.

 

I think we get deceived into thinking that loneliness makes us more miserable than it really should. But we aren't ever really alone. God's there. And I used to use PMO as a way to relieve my feelings of loneliness. But that just made it worse. So maybe try not to dwell on it so much.

 

If it's the middle of the night I read a book, read through this forum, watch some comedy, or watch history. Take my mind off the loneliness and think about something constructive.

In the day time I have several people I can text, call, or email. Also the other things that I just listed work as well in the day time as the night.

Loneliness is an important emotion to master. It's been my downfall countless times over the decades, leading to relapses.

 

Nautical Adventures, mainly ones involving The Royal Navy during the 18th and early 19th Centuries. The Golden Age of sail.

What are your favorite genres?

 

I watch tv or yt. Im a very lone wolf. Its like i feel lonely but i dont want to meet my friends because its boring lol just new girls are arousing2m3

 

Do you have any interest in Synthetic Biology?

I was reading up on it and watching videos but have gotten caught up in other areas. But it’s a subject that still interests me.

 

I think of loneliness kind of like I do with intellectual interest, there may be a matter of isolation. I'm actually voluntarily isolating socially even from options I have, I can do Zoom meetings but I'm not. When I AM around people, I might be thinking in terms of can I really talk about certain things, maybe up to a certain point but then it's too much detail and people really don't want to go there..

But your specific question is of course about what to do in the moment. I have to dig a bit because I actually don't experience it that much. I really don't think it has to do with just being with people exclusively though. It's like the social togetherness is on a continuum with just a feeling of being together, maybe being in nature or just a sense of well being if that makes sense. I don't know if you can easily generate that sense in the moment, but knowing that kind of mental state is possible and it isn't just about being around with people is a helpful reminder in the back of my mind if that makes sense? Another word is a deep contentment.

 

At the moment because of lockdown I can talk to my a few friends and other friends are different times zones so it helps at night.

I do like to be alone but not all the time.

Maybe Youtube. Things that interest me or maybe a video of someone performing live a song or etc.
It depends.
You can also read.
Watch a movie(not porn). Or exercise, I feel I have a lot of time of exercise at night but not too much.

You wrote this a while ago, I hope you are doing better?

 

Argentina, we are still in lockdown because of coronavirus. 70 days of lockdown and counting...

 

It pretty hard to not feel lonely during this moment. I try my best to socialize with friends, family. In addition, i am trying to get in contact with a specific girl online, but it is not the same as a face-to-face interaction.

 

I generally avoid talking about this stuff on here but what I was trying to get at is basically this idea of being "in the moment" - like what Tolle talkes about in Power of Now or the idea of "be here now" with Ram Dass. The good thing is it doesn't require any particular belief system, it's strictly an experiential thing.

The relationship to loneliness is not the (actually, in itself relatively superficial) feeling of social belonging, but what we might call an existential belonging when you're really in it. That's why they use the word "being." It sounds like nothing until you have that kind of experience where you're really present and just being there feels like life is so full and satisfying, in that state you don't feel lonely even if you're just sitting there doing nothing. The experience of "being with" someone is actually related to this I think, it's just that socially there's a lot of subtle interactions happening on the level of body language and whatever and though small, it kind of all creates this experience of a completely satisfying moment - whether it's playing a game with friends or being with a romantic partner. The romantic aspect though is different from this kind of deep peace, I think this is important to point out because it prompts people to think they need a significant other or even other people in non-romantic companionship. I really think this is both accessible in both a social and non-social way, it's just a different "flavor" when it is social but you are content either way.

 

What interests me the most is the possibility of it being used to fight cancer.

Some scientists think they might be able to us it to manufacture organisms that go directly after cancer cells without damage to healthy cells.

I spoke with a biologist about it years ago but he rubbished the whole synthetic biology field. Called it trying to be God.

I am not on his side with that. Lots of things with biology and medical sciences in general over the years could be considered “trying to be God” but they have been a great help to humanity. Eliminating polio is an example or going even further back, antiseptics. Is it morally wrong to eliminate or reduce things in the world that negatively impact human health? I don’t think so.

Finding something that can effectively fight cancer I think would be a wonderful thing.

What are your thoughts?