How do you control lust and become productive?

Discussion in 'Problematic Sexual Behavior' started by FezMan76, Jan 16, 2021.

Has constant m-ing become a bigger problem than PMO

  1. Yes

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  2. No, PMO is a bigger problem

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  1. FezMan76

    FezMan76 Fapstronaut

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    On the positive side, I have so far been pretty good at keeping myself clean from pornography. Also, my attraction towards real life women (which I kinda lacked while PMOing so much) has returned (or appeared for the first time I'm not even sure anymore) and I'm very happy about it. But there are a few other problems that this has led to...

    While I avoid porn completely and sexually suggestive media as much as possible, my mind has created a mechanism to fantasize over women (usually of my personal preference) a lot. This has led to what I would consider a somewhat serious and intrusive problem in my life in which I started masturbating in own bedroom while doing work, which usually wastes a lot of time and energy. Because of it becoming so much of a problem and me starting to notice how much it clogs up my mind and messes up my work routine, I've resorted to just MOing (without porn) just to release the sexual tension I have built up. The problem is, this only leads to me desiring it and lusting in my mind even more afterwards, and is merely a temporary fix (although I don't feel that guilty about it anymore, which lessens its negative aftereffects). Are there any ways that I can transform this built up sexual energy and tension into something more productive than masturbating and orgasming? Any help would be appreciated because I got an exam coming up soon and I need to focus my mind again.
     
  2. Slimjimjones

    Slimjimjones Fapstronaut

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    Oh yeah, transmogrifying that sexual energy into something more productive is a big motivator for a lot of people to do NoFap. Do yourself a favor and stop masturbating period and start going to the gym and finding fun ways to excercise your mind like chess or sudoku. You have to make studying a habit that is optimized for you.
     
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  3. FezMan76

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    Thanks man, I appreciate the advice! Although I don't have the means to get to a gym right now I'll try exercising inside and outside (despite the weather) as much as possible! I gotta get my life back in order!
     
  4. Slimjimjones

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    If the gym isn't available start becoming a calisthenics god or cardio god, I believe everyone has the ability, and it certainly helps with your problem.
     
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  5. SandsOfTime

    SandsOfTime Fapstronaut

    how we started watching porn? Firstly we fantisize, then it's leads to masturbation, leads to porn, then escalates to brothels etc.. So avoid the lusty fantasies. Never ever go near lustful things and Guard your eyes. we have to replace this addiction with good habit. Yes it's hard, but have to and thats the only option. otherwise, Move to hostel (sharing room with others)
     
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