How do you cope with guilt?

Two things. First, I constantly and still to this day work on improving myself in all aspects. Exercise, nutrition, knowledge, attitude, hobbies are just some of the things that come to mind. Second, I realise that all humans on this earth are essentially the same. We all long for love and happiness. Once you understand that your own self-worth is not determined by money, success, having a loving family...etc, you will be able to define for yourself what is it exactly defines you. It could be something noble and big like being the president of your country in order to help it grow. Or something smaller like being able to do 50 push ups in a row. Or something that is constantly changing like how I do it. I realise I cannot compete with everyone and that there will always be someone that will be better than me in all aspects of their life. Instead of getting jealous and feeling down, I try to learn from them and improve myself further. God is fair, you may not see the problems that others face on the inside. You may be in turmoil internally, but others may see you as a steady rock with a solid foundation.

 

I'd say that the fact that you are facing your problems says something positive about you as a person. There are many people in the world who have problems they won't admit to having, or lacking the fortitude to face. I look at your streak with respect, and use it as an inspiration. Sure, some guy on the internet's opinion might not mean much, but look at the progress you've made with yourself over the last four months. You've done, and are doing, good things for yourself. Try not to compare yourself to others, as that's a sure way to find excessive fault in yourself.

 

The way to truly show healthy regret is not waste today, or your future.
It sounds like a cliche but its true. You freed yourself from a prison, guilt that causes you to not enjoy your freedom is putting you back in the prison. But guilt that makes you say 'never again!' and I "I Will not waste today" is helping you enjoy your freedom. It's a feeling it depends what you do with it.

Don't compare yourself to her. Compare yourself to your yesterday self. You also don't know what's going on with her. Maybe her partner is having an affair, maybe she hates her boss....

 

Guilt only holds us back from ever redeeming ourselves. The best solution is to pack those experiences away in a tight box. You know they’re there, but they serve as a guide to let you know how you can change for the better in the future. Nobody is infallible. We all make mistakes. Only the wise learn from them and avoid repeating them.
I say this from my own experience as I’ve struggled with intense guilt myself, feelings that I’ve let myself and everyone down. But I’ve quit living in the past.