How do you fix the fear of being alone forever/loneliness in general? I've had this fear for around 12 years, and it's never really gotten any better. It probably has a lot of the reason to deal with why I want a girlfriend so badly. But I've been pretty lonely all my life and it's just gotten really bad over the last 12ish years. I've gone on meds to help out with other unreasonable fears, I've gotten the other ones under control, but this one nothing has been able to touch this or help it at all. I've done things that in theory should be helping my social skills so I know how to deal with people, but that doesn't seem to be helping either. I don't really have many friends, but even during the time I do, I still feel loneliness that I can't get rid of. It's just a constant thing in my life. I really don't know how to fix this. I've even taken a job where I'm forced to talk to people over the phone, and I've been there for about 9 months in way to help out my social skill and fix the shyness. Even after that I'm still lonely, now my social skills with normal people haven't improved much, I'm to tried to deal with people when I am at church and try to do deal with people. That hasn't helped out much either. So yeah, it close to the end of the year. Usually the time of year where time stops. So there's a young adults group that started this year. The problem is the year is almost over and we're dealing with the holidays so groups like this usually shut down for the rest of the year. Usually with the intention of coming back early next year. But the problem is that often they don't start back up and people just forget about them. Sadly, this is one of the few place I have to be with people and hopefully start to feel less lonely. I'm not sure what I'll do if doesn't start back up. Then there's another thing that's bugging me, I'm 30. So it's my last year I'll be able to go to young adults groups so in another 8 months I won't have that ether and I'll be totally alone. I'm really not sure what to do. There really isn't any groups for the new age range so I'm not sure what to do. This after 12 years of to young adult groups and not really getting anywhere with them trying to find a girlfriend.