How do you get over the guilt, shame and distress of porn escalation ???

The short answer is that you have to stop looking at porn.

Actually, that's the only answer. Seriously, as someone who's dealt with porn issues for longer than you've been alive, just believe me when I tell you that all the sexual confusion and a large percentage of the emotional issues you're dealing with are caused by porn. It's an incredibly harmful drug that will damage every aspect of your life. There are all kinds of approaches people have used to get away from it. For me personally, getting rid of my home Internet connection was what it took. It's a major step, but the quality of my life improved dramatically after doing so. That may not be the right option for you, but you've got to figure out what is and do it.

I know you're bothered by what you've viewed, and perhaps like others, you think it's possible to continue watching "normal" or "mild" porn. Again, that's not going to work. The nature of the drug forces you to continually search out new and ever more degenerate imagery. The only solution is to cut it out completely.

Sorry if I come across as overly critical or abrupt, but as someone who has had his life quality affected by porn, I really want what's best for you and others, and that's going to require a commitment to never again viewing porn.

 

Great. I'm really glad to hear it. Just trust the process. Abstain from porn, and you'll get to where you want to be.

 

Bro trust me you don't have to worry about shit. I'm in the same boat as you. Sometimes I think to myself I don't deserve a girl because of what I've viewed. But then I realize all I did was view it and turns out I didn't like it because I no longer watched it...well the gay porn at least. I've only viewed that once or twice which I felt like killing myself after ejaculation. But that's some shit you can get over. I've read stories on nofap where guys have actually went through with their fantasies and had sex with men or transgendered people. I can't imagine how they must feel but they were encouraging. I have a problem with transgendered person porn I find transgendered people attractive like I find women attractive and I know it's porn that has changed my mind. I get more turned on by thinking about looking at a transgendered person from the back on all fours than I do a regular woman due to watching too much transgendered person porn. I was almost tricked by a transgendered person because I hit a low point in my life and was about to pay for oral sex from who I thought was a woman on plenty of fish app. Turns out when I got there she didn't even touch me she just sat on the bed and said let's hurry up so she can suck my dick. I asked to see her vagina first because she was acting weird and I was already skeptical about the situation. She declined and kept saying "I'm all woman" and acting nervous so I ran up out of there. Now before that incident all I did was watch transgendered person porn and I'm talking the nasty of the nasty bbw transgendered people, bondage transgendered people, prostate orgasms with no hands, ladyboys, and my favorite transgendered person twerk videos. Now after seeing all that and being in that room with that transgendered person with the perfect opportunity if I was actually gay I would of fucked that transgendered person. But I didn't I was scared as fuck and smoked a cigarette when I got in the car. My life and mind could of been fucked forever. I don't want to have sex with a transgendered person in real life. I still have trouble finding them attractive and imagining having sex with them. but it's something that will go away over time. I've seen transgendered people in real life just in passing and I was not attracted. Maybe it's not because it's the ones that actually turn me on idk. All I know is your ok bro. You'll get over this and be so turned on by your girl in no time.