How do you meet people?

Discussion in 'Loneliness' started by TheLightOne, Dec 2, 2019 at 3:57 PM.

  1. TheLightOne

    TheLightOne Fapstronaut

    Well ive tried dozens of things to meet people but its all failing. Apart from work ofc. Im around 30 and most of my friends have gf/groups and they stay home allnthe time.
    Also I feel like a loser going alone on events, concerts, pubs,p clubs, people are in groups/pairs so I dont do it.
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  2. letter

    letter Distinguished Fapstronaut

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  3. Cool I Can Use Spaces

    Cool I Can Use Spaces Fapstronaut

    Meetup has been great for me. I recommend it to anyone.
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  4. max marcus

    max marcus Fapstronaut

    You can join volunteer groups. They will like and appreciate you more since both parties get the benefits. From there you can expand and do more things with them, not just the volunteer work.
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  5. Souvent08

    Souvent08 Fapstronaut

    Join or go to events related to what you need to or want to work on. For example, I needed to “work” on my faith so I volunteered at my church and eventually found friends. I also wanted to volunteer in the community so I found a program where I volunteer and I’ve met people there. I say first think of what you want to do... for example, be more active, then see if there are people who play a sport you like. Don’t go the other way around and go looking for people. First think about what you like to do.
  6. WackinWolf

    WackinWolf Fapstronaut

    Well I would ask about movie nights or dinners at their house if they don't really leave often but that's just me. Souvent08 put it perfectly when saying "I say first think of what you want to do" that way you meet people with the same interests. Another alternative is to learn how to embrace isolation and think of it not as a negative thing, but a freeing aspect of your life. I think what I'm trying to say is that...well I have this cousin and he used to talk about the same thing until he became more active in the things he loves ( this is without people to accompany him) and I think my grandfather does this to a certain extent is to keep so busy that solitude is impossible to cross your mind. I've gone to concerts and movies alone and while at first it did seem weird I gradually learned to shake off the feeling of separation from others. I hope this makes sense and I hope I didn't come across as ignorant in certain aspects.
  7. lonxwolf

    lonxwolf Fapstronaut

    I can feel ya bro. Just do your own stuff bro. Do what you love. And people with the same interests as you will be always there. Most of the time I am alone, but I know it'll be worth it at some time. It is better to spend a quality time for yourself, than trying to push yourself with others. Huhu
  8. fredisthebes

    fredisthebes Fapstronaut

    I'd rather see a movie or concert that I really want to see by myself than be dragged along by friends to something I'm not interested in.

    I can recommend meetup though. A lot of people are in the same boat as you, want to go out but their friends are boring and they don't want to go by themselves. You just need to make contact with them.
  9. TheLightOne

    TheLightOne Fapstronaut

    What volunteer? Give exact examples pls

    Guys how do u go to concert alone? Can u have fun alone not sharing thoughts with anyonw? In breaks you stay like a loser... Even yelling feels weird.

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