How I cured my erectile dysfunction.

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  1. BarronABS

    BarronABS Fapstronaut

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    I am 27 years old. I am married and I have a baby. I was a hard fapper with tons of suicidal thoughts, self-inflicted illnesses, lifelong bullings and also I was overweight. The light at the end of the tunnel for me was just a train and I was waiting my turn to go under it. Whole my life I was feeling the guilt for the death of my Father though I had nothing to do with his death. I was living with overprotective mother who was a dictator and as I now understand had a fixed idea to protect me even at the cost of my mental sanity. This is enough to understand my situation.
    It all started three months ago, when I could not have sex with my wife.
    Everyone was astonished and perplexted when I married my wife. She is super hot, gorgeous, Kim Kardashian style woman and she loves me. I saw her on Facebook. Her pictures were driving me crazy. She had many followers. And one day I wrote to her and she answered. It was so simulatneous. She fell in love with me even though I was not her true match if socially measured. We married and for the first time I had a sex with her. Then she got pregnant and now I have a daughter. While having sex with her I had to fantasize about lesbians or other girls to get my dick hard. And at one point I felt that I was frozen and I did not want a sex with her. She was starting to think that she was unattractive for me or I had a secret lover. That was ruining our marriage. I had to do something. Before I used to motivate myself with help of some quotes which if broken down will mean one thing: If you want to feel happy, do something to feel happy.
    So what I did.
    1. I started identifing my triggers.
    If I were in bed or on sofa, I wanted to fap. If I was alone in the room, I was opening porn sites and fapping. I was watching porn that even did not come closer to my sexuality. I deleted all nude pics of models from my iPhone. I was not staying alone in the room. One of the things that helps to start talking to someone even if it is your neighbor whom you have borrowed some money. I was always talking. Just do not talk to yourself. If you are not cured your inner dialogue will eventually land you on your bed.
    2. I signed up for NoFap.
    I started writing my life story and sharing with others. I was very sinsere. I was covering all the obnoxtious and nasty details of my life. It helps, when you do it. Those thoughts are there because we are hiding them. Once they are out, they dissolve.
    3. Meditation
    I was meditating to get myself to understand the vainglory of porn and meaninglessness of those thoughts. They are just meaningless. They have nothing in common in reality. Once we face our insecurities and choose another path we will understand that simple formula.
    4. I started to look at my babe's face (it is funny but believe me).
    When I was looking at her and she was looking back at me. It taught me one thing; I have to be brave to be a role model for her. If you have someone or something that is very precious for you, just look at it and feel that moment. My friend always takes time to look at his dream car. It helps him to stay on track.
    5. My time limit was only 30 days.
    No offence, but how long you should be on hard-mode to start having sex. I know some guys ( believe me, I respect them a lot) who are on hard mode for two years. And they won't have sex. My solution is to abstain from fapping for 30 or 40 days and then start having sex. The purpose is not to come but feel the body, rubbing, touches, kissing. Just do not rush.
    6. Read the books. This is up to you.
    The power of now.
    The clockwork Orange.
    Brave new world.
    7. Constantly remind yourself that why should I do it if it is bad???
    What is got is improved eye contact. I am energetic. I QUITTED SMOKING. I gave up biting my nails. I was doing that for 24 years. I do not eat sweets, drink coffee.
    It is a miracle but achievable miracle fully measurable. Noone should suffer in the hands of porn makers. I have a friend who told me that the porn insvestors do not even watch the movies they create. They just count money. I think it is offensive. And we should strip them of that pleasure.
    After I got out of this, I blame noone and I know I am in charge for myself. You can do that. Please, do it and make the world safer place but making yourself aligned with the nature and universe.
     
  2. As someone who deals with PIED and has an overprotective family as well, I recognize where you are coming from. This really resonates with me, I',m currently on day 5. Thank you for sharing your story and I hope you have continued success! Quick question, with my PIED I have still been able to have sex a couple of times. However, there was no sensation. I didn't get much out of it (I don't think the girls did either). I was wondering if your sensation has completely returned, and if so what day of your recovery did you notice this change?
     
  3. mirko

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    how is going Bch

    How is going?
     
  4. Getting better slowly but surely. Noticing differences day by day but not cured yet. However I do feel less depressed and less anxiety which is great progress. Last year at this time I was extremely suicidal now I feel extremely happy!
     
  5. sirfapstinence

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    What you're describing isn't PIED but the death grip syndrome. Excessive fapping over years with the hand is usually done rather aggressively, with a tight grip and it pales in comparison to real sex with a partner. Its when you actually have sex that you begin to notice the decreased and sometimes almost non-existent sensation. I did suffer from it at one point and getting intimate was not as enjoyable. But abstaining from PMO for sometime changed that (I didn't know about nofap at the time but I had been too busy to PMO). I have to say, it was TOTALLY worth it. The desensitization tends to take time to go away and its different with different people. Just make it a point not to M and you'll get there eventually.
     
  6. It's really both. I've tried to quit pied since the end of July and I have struggled with it, unable to stop. It's clear I have a porn addiction especially with the absurd amount of times I would use it a day
     
  7. Mhaifa20

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    how long did it take before you cured your ED?
     
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    Congrats man!!! this is an awesome place to be, isn't it! new life, new start. love it!!! keep living your life!! Im on day 45 and completely know what you are talking about. everything that you are explaining about, im right there with you.

    if you are looking for a new book to read, try huxley's "doors of perception", that'll knock you on your ass for sure.

    again, congradulations! happy hunting
     
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  9. BarronABS

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    8 months. It is like bulking up, toning your body or learning new language but more important. Believe me YOU CAN DO IT.
     
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    8 months. It is like bulking up, toning your body or learning new language but more important. Believe me YOU CAN DO IT.
     
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  11. BarronABS

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    After 30 days of not fapping and watching porn I started having normal sex with my wife. I did not rush, I tried to feel her body, even if I failed those first times I slowly was in merged with reality of my life. You can do it. Do not stick into your mind those stupid tips that you read or hear. Do what you think is right.
     
  12. BarronABS

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    90 days
     
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  13. ive watched the movie the clockwork orange and ive read the brave new world :) v good interesting to mee
     
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  14. Vinek

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    thanks for sharing !!
     
  15. Caped Crusader

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    It is worth rebooting to regain your normal sexual prowess.

    Last May, I came clean with my wife about my PMO because it had led to my PIED and DE.

    I did a thirty day reboot and it reset my sexual clock. I had gotten to the point where I couldn't get an erection with my wife or finish inside of her due to the death grip and rewiring that had occurred due to watching porn.

    Today, my wife and I have sex two to three times a week and my previous problems are gone.

    PMO can ruin your sex life; it's a cycle of addiction that must be broken. It's not easy but it can be done.
     
  16. Phenix113

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    Frankly, I think there's no secret formula. We are all different and we didn't get into porn the same way. I am starting to have sex again and I can see my performance are getting better and better. I had to totally cut from porn for 4 weeks then I started having normal sex. I allow myself to watch soft porn for few minutes, really to find inspiration but I totally stopped M. To get my sensitivity back I started applying shea butter on my P. Believe me...my skin is now as sensitive as a baby. I can cum from Oral sex in less than 15min. To me it all depends on how bad was your addiction and your sex life. I was a horse when I was younger and could have sex with multiple women on the same day and satisfy all of them. I am not back to my old self but I can see my drive is slowly coming back. I am sure I can get it back. I will alternate 2-3 weeks break from PMO every now and hen before I do the 90 days challenge once my wife delivers our baby.
     
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  18. PotentLife

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    Hey, man, big congratulations on how far you've come. I appreciated your whole post but quoted a couple of sentences that made me laugh with delight, just at the fresh, original way you express yourself. Thanks for improving my day with your success story and the big, healing spirit you bring to us. Continued success. Best to you and your family.
     
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  19. lyess11

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    thanks for sharing
     
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