How I got serious about quitting P

ManIntheArena · Jun 24, 2019

Porn is an addiction. The studies are clear on the effects of porn on the brain. So if porn is an addiction how can it be stopped? It's simple: the same way people cut out other addictions, getting rid of all the substance and utilizing the buddy system. Ways this can be done are installing porn blockers and getting help.

The first step for a recovering alcoholic is to get rid of all alcohol in their home. This greatly reduces the temptation to drink because alcohol is now not easily available. The problem with porn is that it's easily accessible. No wonder porn overwhelms so much of our willpower. So I took the first step of a recovering addict and downloaded and paid for a porn blocker for my phone.

I mainly fell short by watching porn during my down time, alone and in my room. I've been on this site since 2015 and never downloaded a porn blocker. Unsurprisingly, I kept slipping up. Sometimes I reached my goals, but I always went back to P.

The best solution for this was to download a porn blocker, detoxify, for my phone. It has helped tremendously. I gave someone else the pin to my account, so now I can't uninstall the app without first shaming myself. I now can no longer easily access porn.
This new strategy has worked surprisingly well with one major exception. Today, I slipped and looked at porn on my computer. I'm now going to repeat the same strategy as I did on my phone. Hopefully this will be the last nail in the coffin for future slips.

This is not to say I don't struggle while porn is blocked. There are days where I just want to text my friend and say give me the pin. But so far I have made it.
This brings me to the next thing: the buddy system.
Most addictions are fought better with others and lots of support. You need to know that you're loved and others are rooting for you to become your best self even in your darkest hour. Get a buddy either in real life or online that you can set up an accountability system. I also recommend telling someone that you're close to what you're trying to do. You don't have to give many details, but it might help saying it out loud to another person.

So, don't just berate yourself after one of your failures and say you'll do better to replace your big, bad habit with a lot of small ones. You need to combat this addiction actively by getting porn blockers. You can't trust yourself, but you can trust others. Get a buddy or an accountability partners. There are other sites than this one that offer that. Be active, not passive in fighting this. You can do it.

Deleted Account · Jun 24, 2019

Whenever I've used porn blockers in the past, I've always been able to overcome them by just downloading a different browser. I actually think removing the PC and giving it to a friend for a while would be a good idea. The amount of time gained to do constructive things would be great for your life.

Embrace · Jun 25, 2019

You know, this is , I admit, a huge issue for me as well. It is too accesible. Sometimes, and with all due respect to civil liberties, I regret living in a society where sexuality is so freely available, from porn, to prostitution, to billboards, to flimsy exhibition laws. Not to suggest tyranny, but I do think that preventing sexually arousing outfits and images all around would just be better for everyone, even if their addiction personality tells them not to.

I got to the point of thinking of taking a trip in tight islamic country just for the break from obvious sexuality all around.

Anyway, all things set aside, I would really support banning pornography all together, or severly limiting its use and distribution. Really, sometimes I think most drugs have some good uses, or could have, but this is just complete garbage, and it is freely available.

LaFlame92100 · Jun 25, 2019

Yes, accesiblilty is one of the worst problems, like you said, imagine having alcohol in your pocket at all times....

Thank you for the advice

Deleted Account · Jun 25, 2019

ManIntheArena said: ↑

Porn is an addiction. The studies are clear on the effects of porn on the brain. So if porn is an addiction how can it be stopped? It's simple: the same way people cut out other addictions, getting rid of all the substance and utilizing the buddy system. Ways this can be done are installing porn blockers and getting help.

The first step for a recovering alcoholic is to get rid of all alcohol in their home. This greatly reduces the temptation to drink because alcohol is now not easily available. The problem with porn is that it's easily accessible. No wonder porn overwhelms so much of our willpower. So I took the first step of a recovering addict and downloaded and paid for a porn blocker for my phone.

I mainly fell short by watching porn during my down time, alone and in my room. I've been on this site since 2015 and never downloaded a porn blocker. Unsurprisingly, I kept slipping up. Sometimes I reached my goals, but I always went back to P.

The best solution for this was to download a porn blocker, detoxify, for my phone. It has helped tremendously. I gave someone else the pin to my account, so now I can't uninstall the app without first shaming myself. I now can no longer easily access porn.
This new strategy has worked surprisingly well with one major exception. Today, I slipped and looked at porn on my computer. I'm now going to repeat the same strategy as I did on my phone. Hopefully this will be the last nail in the coffin for future slips.

This is not to say I don't struggle while porn is blocked. There are days where I just want to text my friend and say give me the pin. But so far I have made it.
This brings me to the next thing: the buddy system.
Most addictions are fought better with others and lots of support. You need to know that you're loved and others are rooting for you to become your best self even in your darkest hour. Get a buddy either in real life or online that you can set up an accountability system. I also recommend telling someone that you're close to what you're trying to do. You don't have to give many details, but it might help saying it out loud to another person.

So, don't just berate yourself after one of your failures and say you'll do better to replace your big, bad habit with a lot of small ones. You need to combat this addiction actively by getting porn blockers. You can't trust yourself, but you can trust others. Get a buddy or an accountability partners. There are other sites than this one that offer that. Be active, not passive in fighting this. You can do it.
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I just wanted to clarify something - Porn is not an addiction. Porn is short pornography and addiction is addiction. Maybe you wanted to say Porn addiction is an addiction, but even here I am but confused.

majorfiddle23 · Jun 25, 2019

Thats actually a great strategy. specially the one where you tell your Pin to a friend and have to go thru the shame of asking them for it can actually help you stay off of it. I like it, I will do It too now. thanks for sharing bro.

one thing that has helped me reach Day 32 is cutting my gaming habit. you might be wondering how is this helping me quit? well, firstly I think having a personality that has varies addictions can actually mean you're more likely to relapse as you are weaker. so far, I am glad I did - my life has been great. Secondly, It could be the pattern of my lifestyle. For example, when I am bored, I tend to play video games until I am so bored that I am scratching my head, have no more self-control and end up watching porn videos. it could be one of those. However, whichever is the REAL reason behind this idea, it doesn't matter cause I believe it has kept me from relapsing and that's the idea of NoFap..right ? so try this now or cut down an association and see how that works for you and of course. KEEP US FELLAS UPDATED!

sorry for my bad English and good luck✌

Deleted Account · Jun 25, 2019

Very true, there are completely free porn sites out there that are accessible 24/7. And I'm guilty of alternating between two of them. Aside from that, you have no idea how easily things trigger me, P wise, no matter how innocent they may seem. I have fallen away from my AP from this site, and I'll see if we can recuperate the relationship

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