How I stop genuinely caring about women?

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Fixmybrain, Sep 11, 2020.

  1. Fixmybrain

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    It’s become a huge problem for me in my life and I see them as nothing but a distraction whilst on NoFap. They aren’t at fault but I need to get a grip on my life. How do you do it? Just stay busy?
     
  2. Fixmybrain

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    It’s a like a feeling that I’m constantly missing out on having a ton of attractive women around me. Even at work when I talk to my female coworkers I get temped to leave work and go fap to their image.
     
  3. Fixmybrain

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    I’m super sensitive to stimuli and the slightest thing will arouse me. All I want in life is the same happiness fulfillment that one would get being with a hot woman. Just that same pleasure/chill vibe that is not a hot woman. I wish I could get it from goals
     
  4. StarRider

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    Have lots of them around multiple times a week. The more time you spend with dealing with them, the less you will care about them.

    Don't go low-stimulus. It's harmful. Proper stimulus management is key. Following the recommendations above will sort that out.
     
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  5. Stop looking I guess
     
  6. Sounds like you want too much too soon.
    Of course you notice women more once you try to quit porn. That's natural. But . . .
    Have some reliable and genuinely nice guy friends first. If a guy doesn't have good male friends then most girls probably won't think he is interesting. Would you want to hang around with a girl whose friends were all guys? Girls like that are usually bad news.
    Keep away from the porn forever or you will regret it for the rest of your existence. Getting rid of the porn is your #1 priority.
    Eat healthy. Get exercise. Socialize with guys. NO MORE PORN.
    Give that six months and watch what happens.
     
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  7. alphakadabro

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    Train yourself to do hard things: lift heavy, read books, study a subject, train at a sport or martial art, and so on. Your brain is sensitive to instant-gratification and novelty. You need to discipline it with strict labor and abstention from superstimuli like porn.
     
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  8. By caring about yourself.
     
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  9. Comfortablydumb96

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    Try not having a single female coworker lol, let alone a single female in a 20 mile radius (work in oil field).
     
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  10. GhostRider@11

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    If you think like you are sacrificing something, then ofcourse you will feel miserable. Even if you are successful in leaving PMO, but if you still feel like you are missing something, you will definitely fall back.
    You should instead think you don't need it, You should feel that you were miserable because of PMO, and that's why you want to leave it. You don't like that thing. If you keep a belief that PMO is pleasurable than you will fall back again and again, think that it is miserable and it is the cause of all the misery in this world, and fapping will increase your problems, as it will break your streak, it will not give you anything except pain and guilt, it will take your motivation and increase stress. It is not pleasure, it is poison, when you will truly realise this, you will stop caring about them.

    Instead at such time, you should feel good that you are now free from all PMO, feel happy, don't wait for few days that - after 4 to 5 days you will feel the power of nofap, it might never happen, waiting for something that you don't know will happen or not, only increases your misery and frustration. Just make a decision and leave it forever. And whenever you feel like that, think to yourself - "I don't need it, I have seen what it is like to be addicted, I know what happens after fapping, I really don't need it."
    Tell to yourself - "I am so glad that I am free from PMO, Thank god, I am free now."
     
  11. Mistersofty

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    Same here. I’m a carpenter and I work with the same two guys day in, day out. The only women I get to see are the ones driving past me on my way to work. I’m jealous of guys that get to work with women every day.
     
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  12. Comfortablydumb96

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    The struggle is real, indeed.

    I get only one day weekends and if I'm to hangout with chicks, I gotta go to a mall and do cold approach. Haven't been on a date since college :emoji_unamused:
     
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  13. wishdasher

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    And..have you? Done a cold approach?

    I'm not saying that you should, I'm just wondering if you step out of your comfort zone and what happens then.
     
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  14. Mistersofty

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    Tough to do when you’re never around women enough to feel comfortable interacting with them.
     
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  15. Comfortablydumb96

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    Not yet. I'm busy all day.work,prepare and eat meal,nap,practice guitar. Weekends I'll be hanging out with friends.

    I just want to make out some time to go and talk to girls in places that would interest me. Sadly a mall isn't one of those places but I got no option, cuz there's nothing else going on in this area.

    I've never done cold approach btw.
     
  16. Comfortablydumb96

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    Well once in a while I'll interact with women if it's the downstairs cute mom passing me by or if there's a chick hanging out at my friend's place. I'll be fine talking to them. But yeah, I don't wanna keep going like this otherwise it'll get really hard to get with a woman when eventually I'll be around them...if that makes sense.
     
  17. Mistersofty

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    It does make sense. Unfortunately you don’t get nearly as many opportunities as most people do in their day to day lives, so you really have to go out of your way to make things happen.
     
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  18. wishdasher

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    The mall can be the perfect place to practice just that. Simply share a fun observation or give someone a sincere compliment.
     
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  19. Comfortablydumb96

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    I'll do it sometime, thanks.
    Although I can't help but wonder. The mask thing will make it feel really different, won't it?
     
  20. Fixmybrain

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    Thank you for the all replies—I feel a bit better now. Let me add that I recently broke if off with an attractive woman I went out with for 3 years. I now have no more women in my life. I just feel empty as fuark now (thank god for family & friends though). I’m just so lazy and drained right now to put myself back out there or play ‘mind games’ with women at 25. I just wanna focus on my goals now as I don’t really care about that shit anymore. I used to crave a hot chick I could hit up at anytime for sex & company, but logically speaking that is pretty pathetic in the long run. There’s more to life than that
     

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