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Discussion in 'Rebooting in a Relationship' started by Narf_44, Nov 4, 2013.
Yh I know it's such a tricky situation. I am on day 4 and had sex with my wife lastnite and I ejaculated, and I just felt like that defeated the whole purpose.
The whole reason I’m doing this journey is to have better sex with my SO I’ve had 2 relapses since June 16th havent climaxed in sex until today (which was amazing) but everyday I’m feeling better and better I don’t avoid sex as such I just don’t go in thinking I need to cum everything is easier now esp mutual masturbation
I'm in the same boat. Went mad PMOing in Lockdown, now desperately trying to get out of PIED. (Un) fortunately coincinding with one of the most active periods with my wife I've ever know.
I struggle going even a week without sex even in soft mode, sex is a NoFap stepping stone I find!
Soft mode LOL!
Get married and please your wife. Nothing wrong with that at all. Thinking you can quit beating off to bang girls more is a dead end. It’s the same thing. No doubt.
If you are married then you must quit all types of virtual FPMO(F-fantasy) and get practical and have natural sex with your wife.If you feel very weak then you can have sex say once in a month otherwise twice a month.Try to involve and keep your eyes open.Feel at the moment and don't rush to orgasm.If you don't orgasm then also having PIV sex is good.it builds the much needed connection.And once it's established you'll naturally come out of all this.
Try it.i has helped me a lot.Earlier ,I was avoiding and trying not to indulge in sex.My wife is very supportive in this.Since I started having sex say twice a month ,things have improved drastically and my confidence too.
Best of luck!
Yes, it’s advised you go 90 days no sex, not even seeing your wife naked. Every csat will advise you do this. I was against it in the beginning. But it made sex made it very difficult for my husband to stay clean.
Oh please don't tell me sex is bad as PMO
Nope, sex isn’t bad at all. Matter of fact sex is great. But porn addicts have abused their bodies and minds. They have fried their brains. It takes time to heal. The quickest and best advised way is 90 days abstinence. It’s not the only way. However, many porn addicts relapse after sex due to chaser. The 90 days helps get sone sobriety under your belt.
I would endorse this natural connection. My wife and I are having sex on an average of once a day. It started terribly and has moved to 75% performance in 28 days. I'm 54.
Right there with you.
I did not PMO at all in 2020......until about a week or two into the lockdown (which was over 80 days without PMO). Now it's back to once or twice a week, which may not seem like much, but it is to me. Having no gym, which is my outlet, has hurt badly. I don't know if PIED is due to climbing back into PMO or anxiety/depression, but either way, it's all a vicious cycle that has lead back to PMO, which seemed so easy to not think about when I was 80 days into nofap (still had sex during those 80 days, just no P). I'm not going to blame Covid though. The virus affected everybody, so it's not unique to me. I just have to find a way to get over it. Just frustrating that every piece in my life was falling into place, and then with one lockdown (which is still going on with no end in sight where I live), it can end so quickly.