How long should you reboot?

Only been at this for 10 days but if you read my intro, I've had this problem for decades. I will break my PMO addiction and I'm ready for this. However, the question that is the title of this thread came up as I looked over other member's posts and seeing people with counters that exceeded a year and others that are 1.5 years is incredible. I'm assumming that this is the period that one has not relapsed on the parameters they set out, which could be P, PM (my case), or PMO. So my case allows for O since i have a partner. And its not just for the partner that I allow O through sex with her, but because I want my brain and penis to get back to what normal sex feels like - I figure that would have been about 15 - 20 years ago for me. Normal sex, for me at least, is the desire and feeling that you have for the other person that you are engaged with and that leads to simple sexual intercourse and orgasm (hopefully for both). Sometimes intercourse doesn't last long enough, which is frustrating, but sex that never ends because you can't O through simple intercourse is far more frustrating and embarrassing.

This situation is the result of PA, as in my case. In reading the material on this web site, they seem to suggest that a 90-day period of NF should get you back to normal, at least physically. Not sure if the mental side will be there. So when I see members that are at 300, 400, 500 days of NF, it seems like ridding oneself of this addiction can be more difficult than one may think. I certainly feel that I will have re-established normal sex after 3 months of NF, especially if I was abstaining from PMO. In my case, beside the DE caused by desensistization, I have other issues that are contributing to my DE. I am expecting (hoping) they will disappear after 90 days of NF as well as occassional sex with my partner. I'll provide updates on this in my jounal.

My question, after that long introduction, is do others feel that they need to abstain for years before the solve the problems they set out when they first came here, or is the 90 days enough and they just continue for other reasons - which are not clear - like they see this as a competition. Also, are there people here that are addicted to rebooting?

PS. It would interesting and useful if NoFap would publish stats on how long members last before lapsing and how often they reset, and when they feel they've succeeded.

 

Thanks. Wasn't sure where to put this as it was a general question.