How often do you get horny?

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by AutumnPeace, Aug 15, 2018.

  1. AutumnPeace

    AutumnPeace Fapstronaut

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    How often do you get horny?

    My nofap motivation is anti-sexuality. It's not practical denying your own nature but it's a worthwhile challenge I believe. So initially my approach was not fapping for months if possible a year or maybe years. After a couple of attempts I made a 7 month streak. It was great. I was in peace after a long long time. But I failed maintaining it because it took a lot of effort. I mean religious practice. So long story short I decided to regularly masturbate.

    After 15 days of nofap my body releases semen after urination. To avoid that I decided to masturbate once every 16th day.

    I can observe very significant changes in my psychology.
    After 10th day I start noticing women around me or remembering exes and stuff. And after 15th day discharge after urination begins and I suffer from a very frustrating sex drive. Not fapping is not a problem but it affects my thoughts.

    So it is a cycle. I reset every 15 days. Life might have been much more enjoyable without this primal urge but I guess there's nothing I can do. Even if there is I am too mediocre to achieve that.

    10 peaceful days 5 less peaceful days and a reset.


    It's been 15 days since the last time. I went out to buy cigarettes half an hour ago and I saw around 10 girls on my way. I felt like marrying at least 6 of them and banging of course all of them very very badly.
    Being almost thirty I see more and more of a wife than cheeks and lips when I look at a girl which scares me a lot. I don't want to get married but my body or unconscious does. It really does.

    If I weren't a fapstranaut I would be exatcly literally this.

    Not following your animal self saves you from a lot of trouble. That's my experience.



    So how often do you get horny? How different is your approach or situation than mine?


    Fellow nofappers. May peace be upon you. Assalamu alaikum.
     
    Last edited: Aug 15, 2018
  2. Blossom

    Blossom Fapstronaut

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    It really depends on the situation..
    Sometimes when I see a hot girl passing by I allow myself to look at her and to fantasize about x, y and z
    and sometimes I just enjoy the moment (I take a quick look but I don't think about anything sexual or dirty).
     
  3. Never. My sex drive is robotic at this point. I don’t relapse cause I’m horny I relapse because my brain craves a drug.
     
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  4. Jason_Tesla_19

    Jason_Tesla_19 Fapstronaut

    I'm still learning the difference between my addiction cravings and my real libido. It's also around 10 days that I start having a drive to connect with real women, but there are still cravings. Towards the end of my 17 day streak, I basically just wanted to bang any willing woman and knock her up, but that was my animal brain, not rational brain, talking.

    Are you really sure that you don't actually want to get married and possibly have children? I know that I want to get married (my rational and animal brains are in agreement there), but I know that it's only my animal brain that's interested in casual sex. My rational brain wants to connect with someone and develop an emotional bond before sleeping with them.
     
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  5. AutumnPeace

    AutumnPeace Fapstronaut

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    Yeah. I think living on your own doing your own thing and being free from all the trouble and responsibility and chore and challenges of marriage is much easier. The price for that freedom and satisfactory years is being a lonely old person with no family. It looks like a nice deal at where I am the age of 29 now but I don't know how I will feel if I turn 60 someday. I really hope not. Getting old sucks too. I believe marriage is mostly either a fetishized thing promoted by mass media like hamburgers or a long term investment you make. So if you're too enthusiastic about marriage you're following your dick or you're a bit brainwashed by popular culture. If you want to marry because you don't want to be a lonely old fart someday that's a more conscious decision. I don't want to marry because I am too selfish and childish to be a husband or father and I believe relationships or marriage brings unnecessary difficulties to one's life.
     
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  6. Hi, that's my goal by now too and I also had thought of MOing once in a while in order to NOT need a partner, which is a headache anyway. Well, I get horny like mmmm twice a month, for days, it obeys more to hormonal issues, I get horny when I'm ovulating, i.d. when my body is ready to have children, and in my period, that because my body very smartly developed libido in the moment when I'm less prone to get pregnant. Anyway it's annoying because I would prefer to not getting horny at all, never! But that's not going to happen and it's better that way because low libido is a sign of multiple health problems, so right now I'm on day 8, with not a certain plan around what the f*ck I'm going to do when I get horny again, considering I don't have a bf because my temperament is bitter and no one wants me for anything serious and I'm not accepting a one.night thing with anybody, so there's my problem: want to have sex, but don't have bf, also, I'm afraid of pregnancy because I know my body and I know I'm pretty much fertile, in consequence, I'm afraid of leaving school, of heartbrake, also, of diseases, of rejection and I'm afraid of getting into a relationship in general. Am I hopeful? Yes, because mom could, she is divorced with no sex neither PMO (I trust her and she told me so) since 3 years ago and is perfectly happy, so I should be able to do that too. Of course, not the same issue, not the same age, not the same hormonal activity, but now I'm going to church twice a week to see if that helps. Also, sometimes wet dreams help to release some of that energy. No doubt it will be incredibly tiring but I do think it's worth it. No shame, no low energy, no slavery.
     
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  7. itachi.

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    while quitting, in first weeks, withdrawal pangs come and it is like horny, my brain want to dopamine and i am not horny. while recovering, my horny decrease and i realize that it is just fake horny because of PMO. to love, to like girls are different from horny. When u see real girls, if u dream them, p pictures probably come your brain, and u feel withdrawal pangs and it is like horny.
    ''After 15 days of nofap my body releases semen after urination'' man it is natural, while Ming if u use P images or fantasy , it probably leads some problem like PMO
     
  8. I mean it varies, usually when I see an attractive woman or if a woman says something (really..) I can be horny for hours.
     
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  9. BCICAN

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    I see my partner dressed amazingly for work or a night out and i'm triggered. I'm fine with that as long as PMO is not the trigger.
     
  10. @AutumnPeace, I very much respect your decision to abstain from living out your sexuality. As you said this is not practical, but for some people this might be the right way to live. Despite being horny. In my opinion the clue is to learn how to cope with horniness in order to transform it into other positive drives.
    For me it's not about getting rid of sexuality, its more about consciously feeling and then transforming it. Don't know if this approach really works,...

    I'm very surprised that many people here told that they get horny by a trigger, for example a beautiful man. I experience it totally different, hornyness comes from the inside and is looking for a hook, ... like a beautiful man.
    It happens to me after at least 3 days and maximum 10 days. Not foreseeable still.
     

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