How (physically) dangerous are Sissy related activities?

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  1. I Hate PMO

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    I thought that maybe if I'd learn about the physical dangers of engaging in Sissy related activities, it would discourage me from pursuing it in the future

    So the question here is: Does real physical danger exist in anal play, cock cage and eating your own cum?

    I've once read that anal play can basically destroy your rectum so you can end up like a toddler shitting in your pants without control

    Cock cage what I've read is that it can make you loose your erections and actually shrink your penis extremely

    Eating your own cum, i have never read how dangerous it is, but I can imagine that there can exist a bacterial danger or something like that

    You guys know any information/facts about this? What about other Sissy activities (like can constantly shaving your pubes and legs cause some damage?)

    Important: this is not about sissy hypno as it's mental damage
     
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  2. Chug

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    Are you doing it to excess? Are you doing it safely with yourself or a supportive partner? Then it’s fine. I’ve done all four of the things you mention for years with no issue.

    But...are you using sissy activities as a replacement for PMO? That’s more of a problem.
     
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  3. I Hate PMO

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    What about buying used socks only to get fungus and other diseases? Is this a thing and real danger?

    Replacement for PMO? Yes, I mean right now I'm on nofap but I can't help myself and think of living it out once I'm gonna have a job and my own flat
     
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  4. Chug

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    Used socks? What are you even on about?
     
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  5. I Hate PMO

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    To buy used socks from women to sniff on them while fapping or to use it as a "condom"

    What I mean is could this be physically dangerous due to possible fungus or bacterial diseases?
     
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  6. Randombro

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    Hate me or love me but this shit destroys a man mentally.
    All these things don’t fit with the nature and biology of men.
    Only broken men with serious psychological issues would engage in such acts and this is worse than possible physical damage.
    But to answer the question, if you are not careful, you could damage your sphincter and maybe can’t control your… you know.
     
  7. I Hate PMO

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    What does "not careful" mean specifically?

    I mean, I liked the idea of wearing pantyhose since age 6

    I legitimately don't know why I like cross dressing, sissy, female feet, etc. It kind of makes me feel "safe", and also, it's feels so soft yet it is a kind of pleasurable punishment. I don't know, really, was there a Metastudy done in order to find out why some men are into this?
     
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  8. I was in the exact same place in the past.
    I acted out certain fantasies.
    Soon I needed a doctor to help me with a disease because I put something in my body on a certain place.

    It was fortunately one huge disappointment to have finally the chance to live out my fantasies.
    It was not me. It was time to grow up.
    My recovery begun in that time.
    Now, 20 years later I am free from my mental diseases.
    I hate porn. I hate that whole sissy thing.
    I hate fakery. And I hate all those mistresses who tries to lure men into their seductive web. I hate it all from the core of my bones.

    You should not worry about how damaging certain things are.
    You should worry about the things in your mind and in your heart, because there are the nasty things that already have damaged you.

    It's your fetish.
    And a fetish is an object that must give you a fulfillment for a REAL emotional need.
    But an object never can give us that fulfillment.
    Once you find a way to feel safe in a healthy and human way, the need for your fetish will disappear.

    You need to fix the real issues in your life.
    Until now ypu have tried to use your fetish as a quick fix, a band aid, a plaster to cover your real issues.

    Check out my journal. I'm sure it will help you. If you want to be helped....
     
  9. It's pmo coming alife.
    It's far far worse then the porn an sich.
     
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  10. E31

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    Not really, besides std's but thats not exclusive to a specific fetish. ( and yea ofc if you try to stick a football up your ass, you can rupture the skin and muscle tissues, causing cramps and fissures and are prone to infections or even internal bleeding. :D)
    If you really don't want to engage in this, than that should be reason enough besides the mental effects of addiction in general, which can induce severe bodily symptomes if done excessive and long enough, and and the time loss which in my opinion is one of the worst things of a fetish getting out of hand, since our time to live a life according to our values is fairly limited.

    The things you mentioned are not really a concern healthwise, I mean ask women about it, they do these things all the time.
    And it wouldn't be the right approach - you think heroin or alcohol addicts are not aware of the real dangers of their use? Those are things things to be concerned about, but in many cases they even reaffirm the addiction, because they make you feel really bad and that in turn makes them use even more to escape that sense of bad things happening and the shame which keeps one in this viscious cycle. So imho, the approach should be focusing on the positives without, and not solely the negatives that come with.

    All the best!
     
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  11. I Hate PMO

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    I rather thought of things like anal plugs, regular dildos and prostate massage dildos, not a football lmao. Reminds me of 1 man 1 jar (don't look up, it's gore/nsfl)

    I mean, I feel "safe" because I can forget about anything in this world/my problems if I only PMO, cross dress, sissy, worship female feet, etc

    It's like if someone is taking Heroin and he's telling you that it feels so good + you forget about any problems you have.

    I also, in general, like anything what is female (not only the body, but also what they're wearing, how they smell like etc) . I am so much of a heterosexual that I even want to "morph" into a woman
     
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  12. TimeToQuitNow

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    I can't imagine a cock cage being healthy for you penis but I am not able to find studies on it.
    Anal sex can indeed damage your rectum.
    Eat cum is harmless for you physical health.
    If you take estrogen it will obviously have huge effects to your body.
     
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  13. I Hate PMO

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    No, absolutely no estrogen, fake boob bras at most

    But to what extend is anal sex and anal play dangerous? Are the things I've specifically mentioned a risk factor?
     
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  14. Why the heck are you busy with playing out your fetishes actually?

    We are here to recover from porn and fetish addiction.
     
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  15. I Hate PMO

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    I'm more than 3 weeks into NoFap and I'd just like to scream due to sexual frustration. I am just looking for arguments to not engage in my fetishes in the future, so that I'd be 100% anti-fetish.

    It's just fucking hard not to walk around with a semi erection and not being able to concentrate during lectures because a female friend is wearing fucking pantyhoses
     
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  16. Allright, that sounds much more healthy.
    But in your previous post you say you will act out your fetish as soon as you leave your parents.
    Means: you don't want to quit your addiction at all.
     
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  17. Meshuga

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    So good/bad news, as you seem conflicted on the issue; there's not a lot you can do that can't be surgically repaired, or fixed with physical therapy. My wife is a PT specializing in pelvic floor, she teaches the stuff and I've overheard a lot of lectures and conversations on the subject as she records for her job. Most doctors, especially in general practice, aren't aware, and pelvic floor PT is severely understaffed in the US, so a lot of people live with pelvic floor issues assuming they are permanent. They aren't. If you can get in to see a specialist PT, with time and persistence, you can get your body back to normal function.

    I don't know for sure, but this sounds like either fetish-phobic or fantasy driven fear-mongering. If you escalate your addiction to the point where you use this tool excessively, of course stimulation in normal ranges isn't going to excite you any more. It has nothing to do with the physiology of the tool, but the psychology of it. You'll be able to get a boner, but you're going to have to do something more extreme to get it.
    Ever since the camera was invented, people have been obsessed with their dick size. Granted, most of the efforts have been focused on growing the damn thing, not shrinking it, but thus far nothing has worked. The natural dimensions of your equipment seem to be more or less static. I'm sure if you stuff it in a small enclosure, it will get compacted and seem to shrink. Let it out long enough, though, and I'm reasonably certain it would return to normal size.

    Maybe, but the human body is remarkably resilient. I'm sure there's nothing it does to you physically that your stomach acid and T-cells can't handle. If you were immuno-compromised from another disease or cancer treatment, sure. Exposure to that kind of thing might present a minor problem. Otherwise, I think you'd be physically fine.

    I know for a fact that ingrown hairs can cause a semi-permanent cyst. It's a cosmetic issue though, nothing threatening, and it's a relatively low risk. Many athletes shave, more men are shaving their groin area, this isn't necessarily sissy behavior. Dermatologists don't recommend shaving, but women haven't been listening to them for decades. For whatever reason (probably the shaving industry), we decided clean shaven is sexy so that's what people have done for decades, and it hasn't caused any noticeable surge in skin problems.

    None of these seem to be permanently damaging on a physical level, and I know that's what you were specifically looking/hoping for, as reason to scare you off your fetish. However, I've got to say on a psychological level, these activities are strange. It's playing with the social construct of gender, I get that, but nothing about any of these behaviors are natural in a strictly biological sense. Your anus is designed as an exit-only construct for waste removal; access to your prostate through it is more of a bug than a feature. That goes for men and women. If you're not careful it can definitely cause a high level of discomfort, risk of infection, constipation, etc. Those are all resolvable, but definitely not good in the short term. The cock cage thing seems to be about hating your body. Barring a handful of extremely rare conditions, that's a purely psychological thing. Odds are you are great just the way you are, and I know directing all manner of negative emotions onto your body is a relatively common reaction, but it isn't good for your mind at all. Believe me, I have ADHD and have been treated for severe depression. Until relatively recently, more days than not I wished I didn't exist. I intimately understand extreme dissatisfaction with who you are as a person. However, I did that to myself. I didn't give myself ADHD, but I did choose to deal with it by using PMO instead of addressing the challenges head on and developing better coping mechanisms. Instead of focusing on victories and the positive ways I was interacting with the world, I chose to focus on the defeats, and the negatives. I built a psychological prison for myself, then I curled up on the floor and told myself I couldn't escape, and it was useless to try because that's the kind of person I was. The truth is I am not that kind of person, and I am fortunate to have people in my life who said otherwise, and had the money to go to therapy, even though I didn't believe the therapist at least 75% of the time.

    Again, I'm going to talk about myself here, not because I want to be egotistical, but because I suspect you have the same problem. I want to show that, even though I didn't take my fantasies in the same direction, I relate. I also want to offer hope in describing how I got this far out from under it.
    It was easier to buy temporary relief from the aggravation of life through sexual escape and fantasy, than to address my real problems. I suspect that's exactly what your fetish is. Fantasy distorts my perception of the real world. I found fantasy to be preferable to the real world. It got to the point where I couldn't tell what was real, and was accepting my distorted fantasy as reflective of my real person. I want to be 100% clear on this; pornography hijacks sex and turns it into an unnatural thing. Humans are sexual beings, sex is natural, sex is even good, but porn fucked it for us. I mean that in the most violent, nauseating, outrageous definition of the word: porn fucked us. You and I, we don't even know what sex is, or what it's for. We can hear the truth, we can process it on an intellectual level, but we can't know it in our emotions or our soul (however we might define "soul"). That knowledge is going to take time, and that healing process can't even begin until we get porn to stop fucking us.
    Quit porn. I know you're trying, that's the entire reason you posted. This is more encouragement than advice and I'll say it again: quit porn. More than that, though, quit sex. Just for a little while. Just for three months. Maybe longer if you feel you need it, but right now sex is controlling your life. It's your everything. It's the only way you know how to deal with problems. If stress comes up, instead of resolving the situation you've trained yourself to escape with sexual fantasy. It's so ingrained in you it's automatic, now everything is a trigger, because life is inherently stressful and the only thing your brain wants to do is get away, get away, get away. Your brain doesn't want to think about studying or working or whatever. It just wants to escape. Then the problems don't get resolved. The individual problems get more complicated because they weren't addressed, and new problems accumulate, then you want to say you deserve all these problems because *spiral into negative, fetish driven self talk*. It's a positive feedback loop with negative consequences. You need time to retrain your brain into truly resolving your issues, instead of running into fetishist fantasy.

    I hope the best for you, my dude, I really do. I know with commitment, but more important than that, with the implementation of a good plan, and a positive, encouraging posture toward your own self and a persistent attitude, you can beat this.
     
  18. I Hate PMO

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    Yes, that's why I am looking for solid arguments to stay away from that fetish stuff. And an argument which will never make me do it is physical danger

    Like for example cigarettes, id like to try them out because I've heard the nicotine buzz is nice, but I obviously won't do that because I've seen what smoking cigarettes can do to you (cancer)
     
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  19. E31

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    That argument doesn't count anymore when you're already smoking tho or in you're case are already wired to do a certain thing.
    Most any smoker knows the risks and detriments involved, but when you learned to use cigarettes as an escape mechanism when you're uncomfortable, guess what you want to do when you hear about the reality of lung cancer..

    And if psychological danger is not an argument for you, why would the physical work for you? Just focus on the good things that arise when you go further into sobriety. 3 weeks is a tough time, i know, but you are already able to go there so just make it clear to yourself that this is something you'd never wanna engage in anymore, throw every piece of clothing and toys and whatsoever out, install blockers and let your brain do the magic of forgetting.
    You'll see that all these thoughts will vanish in no time and you'll have lots of time and energy for everything that makes you truly happy, or to work on the underlying issues.
     
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  20. As I said I was in quite the same place.
    All I can say:
    Every fetish will damage your soul, your thinking, mind and indeed your body.

    Check out my journal. I wrote a lot about the sissy fetish. And my heavy battle to become free from it.
    I know that the end of this addiction is the death.

    https://forum.nofap.com/index.php?threads/roadys-journal-let-me-share-my-experiences.137524/
     
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