How to abstain from porn?

I have not done nofap a lot, but I have so far only relapsed when drinking. So I am cutting back on my drinking for starters.

When I feel the urges, I normally just change the enviorment to a place where I can not masturbate. I call someone to meet up so I just don't get the option anymore.
Walks and going to the gym also helps.
Videos may help some.

I also find this very intresting "Feeling horny is nice. Enjoy that feeling. Enjoy that energy. Don't let it control you. Go out and be excited!"
Don't focus too much on the urge itself. Try just accept that the urge is there, enjoy the excitement and go to what you like to do. You like sports? Go play sports!

My biggest problem is to get back on a streak after losing one. I often find myself giving excuses that I have nothing to lose because I have not started on a streak yet. Well, it has gone a week already for me where I could have had a streak! So it is not true what my excuses are.

So to controll that, I am going to try write down a number of benefits that I have got so far from my streaks like a "pro and con" paper. I hope that will make me focus on (nofap) the positive while changing the focus to something else.

 

I quit porn 2 months ago.

I never give up. You don't give up not even when you're tired. Never. There is no excuses. I made those excuses for a year, but eventually I got it.

Small steps... I quit porn... now MO, but really, it's all about thinking something else and not fantasizing. Just focus on anything else. It sounds hard... but for me, no longer. Never give up

 

I exercise, watch TV, read or go on the Xbox to take my mind off the feeling. I know it'll pass eventually, even on a bad day. You just need to keep focused on your goals.

 

Education and will power. And you must really really want to do it.

 

I posted this elsewhere in the forum. It might be too much information right now. The first point is the most important.

1. Watch your thoughts. Stop any fantasies, urges, rationalisations etc. as soon as you notice them. If you feel it might help, leave the room, go for a walk, have a shower etc. We addicts often get urges just because we're experiencing such things as mild discomfort. Fix the discomfort and the urge goes away. The same goes for such things as anger and stress.

But do something about the urge as soon as you notice it!

2. Similarly, as soon as you get triggered by something, take action. Look away, change your thoughts, put your phone down and walk away, do whatever it takes.

Remember, take action the moment you get triggered!

3. Decide what things are a problem for you and make you mind up not to engage with them again. I'm thinking mainly of such things as certain kinds of websites. For me that means any kind of chat room or chat program, dating site, personal ads site, Skype, any related apps. I don't google anything which might be triggering, and so on.

Identify and eliminate unnecessary triggers!

Good luck.

 

hermit_ninja's got the right idea - definitely try to intercept those thoughts as soon as you can! The best thing is prevention. Be somewhere you can't PMO.

But sometimes no matter how hard you try, you're going to get into that "mood". Happens to me - here's what I do:

1. Make a plan beforehand. Right now - when you're thinking rationally - make a plan for what to do when you know you're not thinking straight. My plan is a dozen push-ups, yours might be different. The important thing here is to delay the PMO and give you a chance to come to your senses and realize what's going on.

2. Last-minute barriers. Make it more difficult to access porn. Block some sites on your phone, etc. If all else fails and you've got the internet open, make your homepage your reboot log or something (what I did). This is what the panic button is up there for.

(side note: change up the barriers every few weeks. A year ago when I tried to quit I used a super long password and parental controls to hide / get rid of the internet app on my phone. I thought I was so clever. The first couple times, it worked - I'd go look up the password, and catch myself! But then I accidentally MEMORIZED THE PASSWORD and I would just UNDO THE BARRIER when I got into "the mood")

 

For me the best way to keep away from porn is just so much hard work and productive activities that you are completely exhausted after that and fall asleep immediately.

 

Im also the same as you. Every time I relapse it again make me pmo much again.

 

I agree with SorryWontSayIt - based on my (limited but growing) experience it is crucial to enjoy the feeling of not MO more than the feeling of MO.

If you can learn to relish the sexual energy and anticipation that comes with success you will never want to go back. At least that is the case for me.