How to approach a girl who is a stranger in public.

Start small. For the next week or 2 just say hello to strangers. Guys and girls. It will help your confidence to try making small talk with people you aren't attracted to before moving on to women you are attracted to. After the first couple of weeks try adding "how are you today" or whatever polite line you feel comfortable saying. Take it from there. Believe me a lot of the people you approach will be just as nervous about talking to people as you are and wiybe glad you have initiated a conversation.

 

you dont need to go out an pick up chicks man, but if you must you can start off by almost picking up chicks for a warm up


then after afew weeks of that watch this one its how not to approach girls then you should be able to cook up your own formula on how to pick up girls

 

Yes @Lost_forever you got it.

Guys are desperate - watch some guru on YT that tells them that need to do hundread approachs to women on public - Guys go out and do it, and guess what? they still desperate.
You take one shy guy with some healthy social anxiety and you turn him into a ridiculous clown with CERO self conciousness, who stumbles and do free piruettes for all the room to see and, of course, laugh.
They dont know it because they did a hundred approaches and doesnt even feel shame anymore! But everybody else did notice it. Everybody notice theyre desperate. Truth shines through.

And is hard to see, not so much for the lobotomized clows, but for the kids that imitate others or try this mechanisms.

I just see this, make everybody know that there are other ways to handle things and thats it, do whatever you want.

 

OP asked for advice on how to approach girls in public.

Apparently you had the urge to spill negative energy on this thread by denouncing the concept of a cold approach. Fine, you don't agree with this way of meeting women (which is one way and not the only way) but why even bother derailing this thread if this is not your modus operandi? No one cares that you meet girls in another way. This comes over like attacking a guy who wants to learn Spanish because you prefer Italian.

But it looks like you have an obsession with guys that put on clothes, go outside and have a chat with girls. Maybe it's because you can't imagine doing it yourself and feel kind of frustrated when another guy finds the courage to give this a go.

But since apparently you are swimming in pussy, my (maybe unjust!) assumption should leave you indifferent

 

It depends on your expectations of speaking with her. If your expectation is just so meet someone and learn about them and see where it takes y’all, shoot your shot. If you can talk to her with no expectations go for it.

 

No, buddy, of course. Be my guest
I don't consider it a good advice, thats all. Somebody could say as an answer: "well, you could drink a lot of booze" and I will not consider it as good advice either.

To all of you that feeled a personal attack by the words I wrote: I am sorry. You are free to do whatever you want. It is just my opinion about one specific thematic, what do I know? Feel free of try whatever you want.

 

I think approaching girls in public is one of the greatest adventures you can experience; you'll never know where it leads you - just like a night full of drinking (first one offers more gems).

I just think it's hard to give advice with so little information. You say 'to help overcome social anxiety on nofap'. Could you elaborate on this?
There are different forms of social anxiety - f.e. there's porn induced one and there's social anxiety that could have been with you as a 'background noise' throughout your whole life.

The first one you can heal just by staying away from porn - your brain just needs some time to restructure (you'll get drastic results within 90 days already).

For the second one, the background type one, you'll have to go very deep into your unconscious (the body) to kick it. Staying away from porn will help with it a lot already, and is the important first step, but it is not the ultimate solution.

Also approaching girls alone will be no solution for it. That's why there are so many guys, who grind hard on the streets for a couple of days or even weeks, get kinda comfortable and easy with talking to girls on the street, and then they stop for one or two weeks and are back to square one. That's because they try to change their results on the outside, which is what probably 95% of people do, but that doesn't work.

I personally think it's a good idea to build kind of a solid foundation (inner core) first, before you start to approach, especially if you're kicking an addiction like porn. Getting out of an addiction makes you quite vulnerable, like a snake that changes skin, so have to find a good balance between putting yourself out in the world (f.e. speaking to girls) and taking good care of yourself and healing.

I hope this helps, and it wasn't over the top. Feel free to ask here, if you want to know more.

 

Those vids are cool.

You can see the main/blonde guy is getting interest of the chicks even when he's bombing. I think they can tell he's kind of doing an act cos he has this half jokey vibe even when he's playing the idiot.

Unfortunately, I think I have legit come across creepy and not in a playful way like in these vids.

But I think if I was doing this with buddies filming like Jackass I could have fun with it.

I need some kind of pickup friend, I've been thinking about that for a while.

 

It's almost never a good idea to accost a complete stranger, in this context or any other. Are you employed or enrolled in a degree? I'd try your hand with a lady there, whom you know at least vaguely.

 

Also might want to be prepared with a good and clever response if you’re hitting on her and her man is around and comes over.