My answer is "don't". Women go to the gym to work out. If she wants to talk to you she will. Otherwise just leave her be.
This is absolutely false. Women are looking to meet people too. I’ve talked to people frequently at the gym and have had guys strike up conversations with me. I’ve always welcomed all conversations. We women are waiting on men to make the first moves. Also, many women want men to talk to them. The preference though at the gym is to talk to us while we’re walking between machines or between activities. I always welcome people starting conversations with me at the gym, even during covid.
Reading this thread I am confused. @Gina3111 has literally given the answer multiple times in this thread. 99% of the time a woman wants you to approach them first. It has been that way since the dawn of time. The man is supposed to lead, so for gods sake lead! If you are approaching girls and they are acting like you are invisible, either a) your energy is off or b) you are doing something wrong.
Reading this thread I am confused. @Coak Hakola has literally given the answer multiple times in this thread. 99% of the time a woman IN A GYM wants you to stay away from them first. It has been that way since the dawn of time. The man is supposed to stay away from them in the gym, so for gods sake stay away! If you are approaching girls and they are acting like you are invisible, either a) youre ugly or b) you are ugly or c) youre ugly and poor.
Thanks mentorr. I’m always open to people and guys in terms of small talk in between me using the machines or working out at the gym. I’ve even had guys ask me for my number or let me know they’re interested. We women go to the gym to meet people as well. And as you and I both mentioned, we women are reared that’s it’s not natural for us to approach or show interest in the man first. The key at the gym though is to talk to someone in between their sets or as they’re walking or just about to sit at a machine.
Simply start by talking about her training or anything that is happening at the gym in the moment. If you see she looks interested in the conversation then talked some more and go for the number after a while. Usually don't talk too much so you don't distract her from her training. Or talk between her sets. Or when she's doing like abs or cardio, stretching, when she is relaxing after finishing the workout is a good place. I was afraid like the two first times I did it, but simply by doing it you gain experience and it becomes very easy.
This man has it exactly right. I've been going to gyms since I was 18 and women have their guard up there, just like they do anywhere that's public that they HAVE to go, and put up with random guys hitting on them. Unless you're a prime specimen - over 6 feet, built, handsome, etc, you'll just look like another creeper. But don't let me discourage ya!
I used to think girls didn't like to be approached at the gym but it's not true, even a girl already said it repeatedly here @Gina3111 that If you do it right she doesn't see a problem with it. It's all in your head, the gym is like any other social environment I've cold approached quite a bit at the gym successfully and it's not creepy at all. Derek from more plates more dates explains it very well
bro take the blackpill bro im trying to white pill @Coak Hakola actually but he don't want to swallow the beige pill!!!! REEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE
This approaches at the gym I made them the past two months 1/100 I arrived at the gym to the streching room, two girls were there. I left my bag on the floor and right away I strated to do some type of gymnastics -she:what are you doing- -me: just playing around - - she: it looks like yoga -me: t has some yoga on it -she: I would like to learn some yoga, I'm going to search it online. -me: I can teach you, give me your number. - she gives me her number and she keeps doing her workout I was going to text her but she has a boyfriend so nothing there. Even do I taught her to do a handstand 2/100 The two girls left, then the friend of the one I had the number came back alone and started talking to me, she told me she likes to paint and I ask to see some drawings. She didn't have any on her phone, but said she had them on her laptop at home, so I asked her number to see the drawings. We hooked up some days later. 3/100 When I was talking to the last girl another girl came by nd started talking to us, the girl I hooked up left. We were alone, she started talking about my job, working out if I have a girlfriend. It was an easy thing but I don't like her too much, so I didn't go for the number or flirting. 4/100 I was arriving at the gym. This girl I've seen before asked me right away with a big smile if I could teach her to do a handstand. I said sure. Some days later I saw her arriving at the stretching zone, I said and asked how she was. She told me she had a bad neck pain after waking up and she asked me if I know how to get rid of neck pain, I said sure ans offered a massage, I gave her the massage and we talked a bit. She owns a bar, she is also very attractive. She looked at me with those eyes you know she wants you, but I think she as an energy of being domineering and also I don't like her job, a women all night in a bar with men. So I still went for the number but I haven't hit on her. 5/100 At the gym again, this girl saw me doing movement type of practice then asked me what I was doing - me: just playing -she : it doesn't have a name? - me: not really -she: it very interesting, I used to be a cheerleader -me : that's great, do some cheerleader thing She did some type of ballerina pose, pretty cool - me: that's cool -she: I'm a little stiff, it's been years without doing any stretching because of work and study. -me: what do you study? -she: I'm a lawyer. -me: that's great, I'm a physician -she: I always wanted to be a physician but I suck at staying awake at night. - me: what type of lawyer are you? -she: right now mainly working for influencer -me:really that is really interesting, which influencer. At this point we were sitting on the floor talking, she mentioned several famous influencers. She was getting ready to leave. I asked her number. We talked later on the phone, I don't like some of her personality traits they don't go along with me, so I leave it there. 6/100 Two girls were doing some exercises at the gym, I saw them and I laugh a bit because they were doing it wrong, one of the girls noticed and pointed at me - look he is laughing -no, I'm not - she: yes, you are. -me: well, maybe a bit -she: show us how it's done -I did, she asked me something I don't remember well I was focus teaching the other girl the exercise. But it was related if I had a girlfriend. I went to do some squats. I noticed they were leaving and I told the girl that made me the question to take a video of me doing squats after that before she left I asked her number. She gave it to me and said "goodbye my love" haha damn. I later talked to her also not a big fan of her personality so I didn't go further. 7/100 At the gym I saw this girl I haven't seen in a long time, I never spoke to her but we've seen each other regularly at the gym. -me: hi, long time not seen you -she: yeah I've been studying -me: what do you study? -she: veterinary -me: I'm a doctor -she: that's great -thanks I ask her what university is she going, the similarities and differences between humans and animals. At the end of the training we did some stretching and asked her number. We saw each other several times, for stretching, I liked her, but she's a bit crazy so I had to let her go.
I'll have to think about it. But as we as men can sense a girl is attractive, femenine, good energy, mature, special. Girls can sense this too about guys. Girls can see I'm a serious guy, mature, relaxed, not obsessed with sex, with good energy, when I talk I can be funny, relaxed. Non threatening to them, I see them as a person beyond their looks I really do , so I can have a decent conversation, even an interesting one. Also I'm different from anybody else at the gym, my movement practice, I lift heavy, that also makes me different from most men and they are curious about me. It's not that I try to be different it's just who I am. Many things, but I don't really care you know, I had my fair share of girls I'm my life. I'm young but I already been with all the girls I ever dreamed of, I'm almost retired from dating, but maybe a good girl can come up and I'm open to it. women and sex it's a fantasy at the end of the day usually more bitter than sweet. But for some it's necessary to live it in order to be over it. I had to live it.
Even do I basically don't care, I'm very aware you can see in my interactions that even do they happened all of the sudden, I reacted fast and accordingly. Having a quality girl won't simply happen by you not caring and being succesful you need to understand women and who they are, attraction is 1% of the work, the other 99% is learning how to analize a woman, dealing with their emotions, their madness. Nature comes to you when you stop chasing nature women are like nature they can be shinny as the sun and the moon, terrible as hurricanes, deep and troublesome as the ocean. Attraction, bro that is nothing that is the easy part. The full package: emotional intelligence, patience, understanding girl's mind and emotions, learning to deal with women, not caring attitude, awareness, full control of you sexuality, taking care of yourself physically at least don't be fat, some money relationships require money.
From AskMen.com: https://www.askmen.com/sports/bodybuilding/what-women-think-about-getting-picked-up-at-the-gym.html
all this happened today 8/100 I was at the gym doing legs, I sensed this girl was kind of checking on me, I was aware, other times I have missed good chances for being only focus on training, but I must, because I lift very heavy, good thing is I was almost done and also I was doing mostly accessory training at the end. I was close to the girl, waiting for a chance to talk to her, luckily she talked to me first something about a 10kg weights I think it was an excuse, the weights were right there, I helped her to put the weights on the smith machine. -me: are you new at the gym? -she: no, Ive been training a month Me:that is not a lot of time She: yeah, I was being a bit sedentary She started to do her set, I did mine Between sets I told her -me: legs is the worst day for guys. - she:I did legs yesterday -me: then why are you doing squats She: its glutes day.I put less weight, because it hurts my neck a little Me: where? She: she pointed at her neck Me: show me with one finger She pointed close to one side of her trapezius. Me: yeah maybe it’s the pressure, sometimes if you put it on your bone it can hurt, but not this time. I did my set. She asked the trainer another exercise. She wasn’t doing it very well, the trainer, I believed kind of saw I was hitting on her and helped me a little “ look at the girl if she is doing the exercise right.” btw the trainer is a girl, a male trainer would not do this they want and believe all girls are for them only. very jelaous when you approach a girl. this happens in many gyms where I live. I helped her, also it involved the glutes so I touched her above the butt and a little her butt to have more awareness of the glute involvement. I don’t like to touch that much such a private area this fast but is really helpful to understand the exercise. I did my set and then she told me about her job and that she was going to visit her mother. After the 4 sets she waved at me with her hand to say good bye. It took me off guard she only did 3 exercises in all her training, I had to go out the gym to the streets and ask for her name and number. I texted afterwards she seems like a nice girl, good personality and very attractive. If I knew she was leaving that soon I would have asked her number sooner. 9/100 After the girl left ,I saw this other girl had some strange adhesive tape on her knee, I was curious and asked her what it was she told me she has some pain in her knee , I saw she has a tattoo close to her knee and I asked her about it. -me: it looks very good, you never go out to the sun -she: no, I don’t I had an elastic bandage on my bag I gave it to her, she didn’t know how to use it, so I put it on her knee. She thank me and said,” thanks baby”. I don’t really like her face, she has a good body but not the face, so I didn’t go for the number, I don’t want to be seen as I hit every girl at the gym. But I wanted to practice approaching, that is why I talked to her, also not everything is about hitting on girls, making friends is also a good thing. Extras: this is texting so it doesn’t count on cold approach. -a girl I dated some time back texted me, we haven’t talk in a while it surprised me. She is really hot, but bad in bed we only had sex once, I didn’t like it too much, so I didn’t continue with her, also her personality is not so pleasant. But damm she is hot. Probably in some days I’ll come back to my senses and simply I’ll ignore her. - I flirted a little with the dentist assistant, I don’t know how her face look, without the mask so I’m not sure if hitting on her, also I don’t know her at all.
483 days SR 54 days no sex Ain’t no sunshine when she’s gone I know I know I know I know I’m going to leave the young thing alone but ain’t no sunshine when she’s gone – Bill Withers A new date, old friends looking old I texted today the new gym girl I cold approached yesterday to meet up to do some abs at the gym. -she: I hate doing abs -me: me too, only do it with someone else. She told me she was almost going to the gym. I told her I was going to be in the stretching room doing yoga. I find an easy gym date is to tell the girls to do abs and stretching, I don’t like to train with girls, also I train like a savage so I’m not very friendly when training but abs and yoga is a perfect opportunity to talk and touch each other. I went to the gym I did some movement practice and also I was talking with some dudes at the weight section, they are almost my age but look 10 years older than me, they like to party, drugs, have a lot of sex, I know one of them since childhood he used to look more fit, better genetics and more handsome than me. Now he doesn’t come even close to my physique, strength, energy or looks. Even do he always trains, but likes to party. I have never been to a party in my life and I don’t drink, know I can see all the effects a healthy life gives you. I forgot about the girl tbh, I get in the zone when I train. The girl texted me -she: you didn’t go to the gym right -me: yes, I’m right here -She: hmm I went to check on you and you weren’t where you told me you were gonna be. -me: maybe I was helping a friend in the weight room. It’s a shame do. I guess now we’ll have to see each other outside the gym. There’s no other way. -She: hahahaha ok that is fine with me. -Me: when are you free? -She: right now I have to work the afternoon part of the night shift and I only have free time in the morning and is really hard to have any time for anything, how about when I start the half day shift we go out, is that ok? -Me: sure, it’s great you still go to the gym even with that hard shift. I will see you tomorrow at the gym. Have a great day, hug. She: I would like that, great day to you too.
I've been to the gym allot. I've seen guys walk and talk, it's just as easy as it seam's. Basically just give her a hi or good morning no matter what time of day it is. Just get a good reading on her energy if she's really focused on her work outs or seems like she has a relaxed state while resting during repetitions. You honestly don't know until you say anything. A simple hi could change the situation of the day. Maybe you could find some cheesy gym lines on the internet, put them into play or just be your self. When I was at the gym I had a few situations where I could of met a girl. But I was too focused on workouts. I've had two scenario's that happened. One time I was lifting with my trainer and another girl was exercising she was one of the trainers at the gym and she said out loud, probably point it out towards me. "Don't mind me just a cute girl working out here." I felt I could of said something but I was with my trainer at the time. It was really my loss... Second girl actually stared me down for the first time ever in my life and I thought nothing of it... REalllyy cute girl. I was on the ab machine and her eyes just went down and up.. But what I'm really trying to say here is just look at the signs and body language of hers. Looks or seems interested and curious. But it's all in you if you want to take the chance while she's got two minutes of her time.
