How to avoid Blue Balls?

IME blue balls are unavoidable. You're going to get them from something at somepoint. Best to come clean (easier said than done, I know). Even if she thinks you're a total weirdo and dumps your sorry ass, you concentrate on fixing yourself. At least with your next GF you can have a healthy sex life. Hopefully it will be your current GF (you seem to be into her). Good luck!

 

Just go and have sex with her. Sex is totally fine in a relationship. Just avoid porn and masturbation and you will be fine.

Avoiding her is totally going to make you loose her.

Yes you can. She is just another woman in the world. Forget about the one. There are a lot of woman that are as good as her. Don't be that attached to a person.

Having a girlfriend is making your goals and ambitions more challenging? then you need to decide what is more important. If I were in your place I will definitevely go and have sex with her and problem solved. If sex wans't an option then having a girlfriend is against my goals and ambitions and is hurting me physically, so I will definitevely move on without her until I'm able to have sex.

 

I disagree with @p1n1983 on the first count. I tried having S during reboot, but I strongly believe it inhibited rewiring. It's the same chemicals activated through erotic stimulus, I think my body just used her to MO.

The second point is dead on though, but the third... dude. Women are not interchangeable. They are not all the same, and not everyone can just get another girlfriend at the drop of a hat. Maybe he likes this one, and maybe she'll be perfectly fine with not having S now, in the earlier stages. S is bonding, you only do that with someone you trust.

 

1. If you're going to be doing anything sexual with her, you are obligated to tell her that you're doing a reboot. You don't need to tell her about what porn you watched, or your worst relapse story. All you need to tell her is something like "I'm taking a break from porn and masturbation to improve my sex life. We won't be having sex and I won't let you do anything with my penis until I'm done." As you progress in your relationship (hopefully!) you can tell her more.

2. Rebooting and rewiring is all about redirecting your sexual energy and neural pathways away from PMO and towards positive activities...like hanging out with women! Hanging out with her is only going to help your recovery, not hurt it. In fact, the more you spend time with your gf, the more comfortable your brain will get around her. When you start having sex after your reboot, every part of your mind except your sexual reward centers will already be wired to like the experience, so having sex will feel much better much quicker. You have an opportunity most don't, so don't blow it!

3. Now to the elephant in the room. Blue balls suck, and can happen frequently in the first reboot. They happen when your penis, balls, and pelvic region are engorged with blood from sexual arousal. In the normal sexual arousal process, after orgasm, this extra blood is drained. When orgasm and climax does not happen, this blood stays in the tissue, deoxygenates, and causes severe irritation. It's like having bruises on your nuts, without the blood vessel rupture.

To get rid of blue balls, you need to get that blood out of there. An easy way to do this is strenuous distance running, which elevates blood pressure around your body, and sucks the deoxygenated blood from your pelvic region. Running and exercise may hurt at first, but really helps alleviate the blue balls. In addition, having a frequent running schedule and doing lower body workouts (especially barbell squats) continuously recycles blood in and out of your pelvic region and makes the muscles in the area stronger, allowing them to do so more efficiently. Frequently exercising your pelvic region through running, lower body calisthenics/weightlifting, and core workouts is the best physical way to get rid of and prevent blue balls (lmk if you need any exercise or running guides).

Mentally preventing blue balls is a different story. If you're getting them around your girlfriend, you have to really drill into yourself that you two won't be having sex and she won't be touching your dick at all. Say it out loud to yourself and her: "We aren't having any sex and you're not touching my dick until after my reboot." It's just not a possibility. Once you subconsciously accept sex is off the table, your subconscious reactions will lessen during your reboot. I've done this so much that no matter what my girlfriend is doing/wearing, whether it's twerking on me at the club, getting out of the shower, or wearing something hot, I don't get the slightest reaction down there unless she gives me the look that lets me know she wants to fuck. I also don't get blue balls anymore because my body naturally removes the deoxygenated blood from my balls and pelvic region after orgasm, even when I don't cum! Look forward to that.

Lastly, tell your girlfriend about your issues! This is a major sexual issue you have, so she should know. She is your girlfriend, so she is with you in this process, whether she likes it or not. Include her in what's going on, what the plan is, and any hiccups along the way.

In short, tell your girlfriend what's going on, spend plenty of time with her and be excited about it, physically and mentally prepare for blue balls, and just generally include your gf in your recovery plan. Check out the articles below on blue balls and rebooting in a relationship. Explore as much as you can on YBOP!

https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/rebooting-basics-start-here/

https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/what-stimuli-must-i-avoid-during-my-reboot-did-i-relapse

https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/rebooting-porn-use-faqs/what-about-fantasizing-during-a-reboot/

https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/rebooting-porn-use-faqs/do-i-have-to-have-sex-in-order-to-rewire/

https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/rebooting-porn-use-faqs/what-about-blue-balls-or-lovers-nuts/

https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/rebooting-with-a-partner

https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/what-do-i-say-to-my-mate

https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/por...porn-induced-ed-what-do-i-tell-my-girlfriend/

https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/book/what-if-my-partner-is-a-porn-addict/