how to avoid horniness

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by Umut, Mar 21, 2018.

  1. Umut

    Umut Fapstronaut

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    how to lower my libido to become succesful in my nofap journey? please help this is my first day and having hard time.
     
  2. Ridley

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    I'm not going to lie to you: there's no way to lower your libido (that is, unless you want to compromise your health). If we could just make the urges to PMO go away without any hard work, I don't think this forum would exist.

    However, don't let that scare you. There's good news: you may not be able to get rid of those urges, but you can learn to live peacefully with them, and one day you'll discover that they're actually a positive thing. Chemically, those urges and all that horniness is testosterone, the chemical that makes you feel like a man. As addicts, we respond to that buildup of testosterone by masturbating, because it floods the brain with dopamine and makes the urge subside. However, that's the same chemical that makes you want to go out there and live. I think a large part of this journey is re-training our brains to realize that the urges we feel to watch porn are really just the urges we feel to accomplish great things, to make deep connections with other people (yes, sexual ones, too), and to just be a man.

    You can do it, man. The next time you have an urge, try to do something productive. Exercise, meditate, read a book, write something, practice a creative skill like music or art, call a friend or family member. If you do one of those things every time you get an urge, think about the person you'll be a week from now!
     
  3. Lau

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    Bro, in my journey I screw up and reset my counter a lot but I never give up and keep going. My best advice once you have your urges don't stroke man wait it off man.
     
  4. Umut

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    Thank you brother, I think about it and it motivates me everytime.And I started writing, reading and exercise(meditation is not my thing I guess).Especially exercise really making me feel good.thank you for your motivation and tips.
     
  5. Umut

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    Yesterday was my first day on this journey.When I feel horny I just touched myself but I didnt pull out and stroke it like an animal.Today I feel like Im in charge of my desires and my life?still hard to forget about that but I believe it is going to get better.
     
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  6. avoid everything that has even a tiny bit of sexual stimulation. even if you have to download porn blockers
     
  7. Umut

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    Do I have to quit watching TV or Netflix? beautiful womans are everywhere man.I hate beautiful womans!
     
  8. Well if you’re able to go out, try not to. If you are absolutely bored, go ahead, but avoid shows with high sexual content
     
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  9. Kamamukthi

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    Yes Avoiding Sexual Content is very important.. Our Daily Life is surrounded with so much digital media so getting horny /arousal is very easy .. Better Avoid Any such Sites ,Avoid any such programs .. Indulge in Sports or other activities and Divert your energy ..
     
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  10. phwrancesco

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    you can't and you don't want to. You are not in your journey to become asexual but to increase your sexual strength.
     
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  11. Umut

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    I signed for a gym membership today and did some intense work for an hour.Jump rope,heavy bag,weight training.When I get back home I was likee I cant move.Exercise really helps me so far and I am planning to do it everyday as a routine.
     
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  12. Timeon

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    It is not about the beautiful women. It is how we think of them in our head and what is the default action that we do when we see them. We have to rewire our thought process the right way so that it becomes our "norm"
     
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  13. There are no way to lower your libido. Trust me, I have tried that many, many times.

    The key is to make them WORK for you. Make them be manageable. Yes, it's easier said than done, I know. Use your sexual energy to do other things like at the gym, work, school, you name it.... channel your sexual energy into different outlets.

    We men will always have urges for lifetime. It wasn't till I quit PMO and realized how powerful urges are. So I studied for ways to manage my urges and educated myself... Slowly it gets better, but even on my previous streak (150 days), I still had urges at that time.

    Stay strong brother!
     
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  14. Umut

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    I saw a hot lady today on my twitter timeline.I liked her photo and scroll down.The good thing is I felt satisfied and pleased by just liking her photo.I show my appreciation by liking her photo.Not jerking off like an animal.For a long time in my life I finally feel like a normal and nice person.I cant describe my feelings.
     
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  15. john27

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    The only way forward is to deal with your horniness, not supress it.
     
  16. There is a long list of people whom I felt like punching in the face; it's not that I'm violent by nature, but some people deserve a punch in the face. To date, I haven't punched anyone in the face. Even though I really had the feeling like I wanted to punch them, I knew that it wasn't an appropriate way to handle my feelings. See where I'm going with this? Just because I feel something doesn't mean that I should choose to respond to it; there's ALWAYS a choice.

    The horny feelings don't just magically disappear. On some level, they may always be there. And while I can't always control how I feel, I can absolutely control what I do. I also don't have to feed the feeling.

    In my journal, I reflect a little on the old Native American tale about the two wolves. A grandfather says to his grandson, "within the heart of every man, there are two wolves that are fighting each other. The one wolf is love, kindness, trust, peace... everything that is good. The other wolf is anger, hatred, jealousy, envy, lust...everything that's bad." And the grandson asks, "well, which one will win?"

    And the grandfather replies, "the one he feeds".

    You can't help being horny, but if you feed your wolf pornography, masturbation, and sexual fantasy, that's the one that wins.
     
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  17. I must change

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    Try taking a cold shower or a partially hot and finish with cold.
     
  18. MarinoBigFan1984

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    It’s part of the process. Learning impulse control.
     
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