As many of you guys in the NoFap community, I didn't have a strong male figure to look up to. I grew up as a nice guy always finishing last, being disrespected and getting friend zoned by women. I had no clue on how to assert myself and It led me to a spiral of dismal decisions, which ultimately got me trapped in a porn addiction. Today I see that, in fact, I never knew how to be a man or how a man is supposed to act. Don't get me wrong I've made great improvements, but when I see people like Obama, James Comey, Ibrahimovic and Cristiano Ronaldo they appear to me as they have it figured out. They are assertive, consistent, charismatic and most importantly AUTHENTIC. I want to find my own authenticity, spontaneity and manliness. I don't mistake being a man for acting like a jerk I think that It's more about some sort of assertiveness and courage, so I want to discuss it with other men who are also striving to regain their power.