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How to be a man?

Discussion in 'Self Improvement' started by Bad_hombre, Dec 17, 2018.

  1. Dec 17, 2018 #1
    Bad_hombre

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    As many of you guys in the NoFap community, I didn't have a strong male figure to look up to. I grew up as a nice guy always finishing last, being disrespected and getting friend zoned by women. I had no clue on how to assert myself and It led me to a spiral of dismal decisions, which ultimately got me trapped in a porn addiction. Today I see that, in fact, I never knew how to be a man or how a man is supposed to act. Don't get me wrong I've made great improvements, but when I see people like Obama, James Comey, Ibrahimovic and Cristiano Ronaldo they appear to me as they have it figured out. They are assertive, consistent, charismatic and most importantly AUTHENTIC.

    I want to find my own authenticity, spontaneity and manliness. I don't mistake being a man for acting like a jerk I think that It's more about some sort of assertiveness and courage, so I want to discuss it with other men who are also striving to regain their power.
     
    Bad_hombre, Dec 17, 2018
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  2. Dec 17, 2018 #2
    brilliantidiot

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    Find some good role models, try jackie robinson he was a beast, or, obviously (I'm a Christian) Jesus. Sacrifice yourself for women in little ways (eg. hold doors for them etc.), stand up to other men but don't be a jerk. Work out at least every other day, get buff and it gets easier to stand up for yourself.
     
    brilliantidiot, Dec 17, 2018
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  3. Dec 17, 2018 #3
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    Being a man is easy when you stop trying.
    I mean, it is something very unique to your own self and nobody can help you surely. The only best thing I can say is to try and be the better and stronger version of yourself, you do it over a long period of time. And that's how you discover what you need to do, how to do and hopefully you make something good at the end of the day with it.
     
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  4. Dec 17, 2018 #4
    TheBarbarian

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    A man (apart from the obvious biological definition) is someone who keeps his head high. He is confident and doesn’t hide from life or run from his problems.

    That said, being a man is not necessarily being a GOOD man. We’ve all known someone who was an arse but obviously more manly than we were.
     
    TheBarbarian, Dec 17, 2018
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  5. Dec 19, 2018 #5
    Average2Alpha

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    A real man has values and most importantly he has a mission in life that drives him to live life to the fullest. You can't be following the crowd and trends of society. You need to turn inwards and find who you are and wha you will be rememberd for.
     
    Average2Alpha, Dec 19, 2018
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