How to be more manly?

Hello,

I'm working as IT outsource admin and I'm going to a lot of places to install something or do for our clients. My problem is that people look at me, like I'm a child (and they say this to me!). My appearance is showing this, I will try now in coming days to buy some cloths in more business style, than casual ones. But clothes are not the main problem. I want to be more manly, that's why I workout for more than 2 years. I have big hairness on my legs and hands which explains high testosterone (correct me if I'm wrong please). But my facial features still shows my childishness. Also my voice is cracking which shreds my nerves. I want to throw it away and forget it.
There's a girl I want to take interest in me, but she's 2-4 years older than me. She's not showing any interest. Yeah, I know that there's plenty more fish in the sea, but if I improve myself now, it will be easier for me in the future.
I'm exercising, sometimes running, taking cold showers, trying to talk low on voice. How can I improve myself?

 

So, you need to APPEAR to be more masculine?... Use body language


- The powerful man is comfortable being quiet. He's comfortable being engaged. He has a broad spectrum of behavior. Overall the person who has achieved some level of power is generally socially astute and comfortable in most types of situations.

- The powerful man tends to sit straight up. Not necessarily military, but comfortably tall. The guy who is slumped over his chips could easily be depressed or down about something but typically I look at the straighter the back the more likely the power level.

- Powerful men tend to vary their posture. They tend to be comfortable and use the space they have. Powerless people tend to stick with one type of posture for most of an evening.

- Talk slow, and be short and to the point when speaking... Someone who speaks too fast and too much is seen as nervous or uncomfortable

- Make use of a strong and dark colors clothing... Look at the overall appearance and demeanor of the character "Ryan Wolfe" of the series "CSI Miami"... He's one of the shortest and youngest of the men of the series, but he knows how to behave to be taken seriously...

 

Or you may study every character portrayed by the legendary Clint Eastwood! (BTW he's who inspired the whole demeanor of the Jackman's Wolverine)

The body language and demeanor of Cullen Bohannon of "hell on wheels", and "Lucas hood" of Banshee are also good to take into consideration..

I'm talking about the way that these characters move, talk, the speed of talking, overall body language.

Warning!!!:

These characters also display violent behavior within the series, but displaying physical/verbal violence is NOT a sign of masculinity AND it's usually seen as a sign of insecurity and mental instability within normal situations...

Instead of it there's something called ASSERTIVENESS, a polite way of being self-assured and confident without being physical or verbally aggressive. Read something about it

 

He's damn hot and so masculine!

I'm 20. Closer to 21.
I will wait for 90th day and will check myself for sure. I know there are benefits just from 14th day.

Responsible, showing a confidence and poise, caring about loved ones, looking at others with respect, have his own rules man, who change climate just by entering room. I have these guys in workplace where I'm visiting and just looking at them makes so jealous.

Okay, so anyone knows a good book about body language? How I should use it?
I want to start immediately.
Clothing, behaviour, posture and being more mysterious. I will take these advice to my heart. Thank you.

 

No, I think this advice is good. During 3 years on NoFap I have learned many things, but during this time you forgot about some of them. So it's good to refresh them from time to time.
I have self-confidence, but I think my posture is bad. Also I'm talking fast, so it's showing myself like I'm not so confident.

Yeah, I will try from now onto coming days to think about it and do something.

 

Art of Manliness is awesome. Literally, I read it everyday and really get into the whole process of being a proper gentleman everytime I walk away from it. Feels good man

 

http://www.riseofsigma.com/p/what-is-sigma.html

 

Thank you, kind of late because I was shopping yesterday, but will check this later today.

Before he was jumping, I was like 'damn he's saying so much truth' But yes, he's right. We need to exercise our masculinity.
Yesterday when I was shopping, I went to cash to get receipt and pay for goods. There was a girl, that was probably new here.
When my turn came, she was so beautiful, I just stayed here and looked in her eyes. So, I stopped whole queue to look in her eyes
and feel that this challenge is not a waste of time. She was smiling to me, I smiled to her and this was one of the magical moments
I love during that time.

 

As I've learned in school, masculine and feminine are social constructs designed to keep people inside categories other people are able to easily recognize.

I'm only 24, but this is how I see it:
Do you. Be you. And be confident in who you are. Assert yourself, but don't be cocky. Have a quite confidence. Love yourself.

Defining manly will differ from person to person for sure. It's how you define it for yourself that matters!

 

There's a beauty to being confident in who you are. Being confident doesn't mean changing who you are or aren't, exactly.