How to BEAT LAZINESS and do things that feels BETTER THAN PORN !

Deleted Account · Jul 21, 2018

John Oldman said: ↑

We all look around us with envy.

I look at a colleague and I think "man, I would love to have that self-assurance".
I look at an artist's drawing and I think "I'll never be that good."
I look at YouTubers and I think "that looks cool, I wonder how different my live would be if I was doing that..."

You have your own envies, your own dreams, your own expectations out of life.

We admire others and wonder, knowing that we can never be "as good as them". And at the same time, we are lost within ourselves, asking ourselves "who do I want to be ?".

No wonder the too occur at the same time : they're the same thought !

What you admire in other people is who you want to be. Plain and simple.

"Yeah, well, OK. I think I could do it, but it feels so exhausting. "

It's not exhausting to change, it's liberating ! life is change, life without change is death, and even death isn't fixed in time : our molecule dissolve and become dirt, and the cycle of life continues. Nothing is fixed, but our brain like fixed things : they are easy to deal with. If change feels exhausting, it's because it is exhausting to your brain : it doesn't want to change !
The proof is right before our eyes : If you don't want to change, even before you've started anything, that's not the change that's blocking you, it's the idea of change, and ideas are in our brain, not in the action of change, not in living the change (which feels great, I can tell you that).

Our brains are lazy fuckers. We are not. And more so : we are not our brain !!!
That's very important. The conscious life with the brain, inside it, but they are two separates things.

We can change our own brain, but that's hard, because it feels like the brain trying to fix itself, while being at the same time the cure and the disease.
So yeah, it sounds exhausting, but it is not.

When you start doing, the lazy part of the brain immediately shuts the hell up, and that, that feels good !

How then do we defeat laziness ?

By organizing every aspect of our life. Even laziness itself !

Laziness is great, when managed !

We have to manage ourself ! I've made a weekly calendar that I print every week, and I check a line when the task is done. Everything is written. It took a while, but man is it worth it !
I wake up and I don't have to sort my priorities or my urges, I just read the damn paper, and follow the tasks.

In order for it to work, it has to include everything : your job, your time with the kids and wife/husband (it's OK if you don't have all of that ), your sleeping time, the choirs, your hobbies, your meals, everything !
It's not written in stone, I actualize mine from time to time, as it has to be helpful, not stressful. But it helps A LOT ! Even if I do only 3/4 of what I've written, it's still a lot more than before.

Before that, I didn't draw or improve my arts, I didn't play the guitar, I only fantasized about it !
I didn't have nice weekends with my wife, as I was stressed of not doing all of this, and I ended up locked up in my head all Sunday !
Now, I hike with her, we play boardgames, I even have time to keep in touch with my friends and relatives ! I have a 35hrs job and I've found the time to do 12hrs of drawing and 2,5hrs of practicing the guitar.

Say you enjoy writing.

Well, if you enjoy writing : enjoy writing ! Enjoy the writing part of writing !
I say go back to the original feeling : what started the enjoyment of that particular hobby, in your personal life ? You've found it ? Now hold tight to it ! That's the key

Do it, not for other to see or to judge, and not even for you !!! Do it for the feeling. Do it because it fills your life with joy, on the fleeting moment you're doing it.
"Yeah, but it's fleeting, so what's the point ?" : Everything is fleeting in life, and the beauty of it is you can go back to this beautiful fleeting whenever you want.

You can't to back to it whenever you want ? Organize it weekly !

The beauty of life is her fleetingness
Death gives us purpose ! If we were immortals, we would be free to be lazy all the time, because why the fuck not ? We'll have all the time in our lives. But no ! We are mortals, and that's great ! We have to give our own lives meaning, that's what make our own live worth living. Nobody can give you purpose : you have to give it to yourself. And you know what ? You already have one ! (Or more !)

You remember what it is ? Good ! Now dig ! Dig into it

And also : who gives a fuck about "being good at it" ? You only have to please you, and more so, you only have to feel the progression you're making.
It's ugly ? It's sound false ? It's not as good as you want it to be ? It's not worth hanging on a museum ? Good, at least you're doing something, and it felt good.

My drawings are rarely satisfying to look at, in my point of view, but at least, when I look at them, I remember the feeling of drawing it, and it leads me to drawing more and more.

About free time : it has to be managed as well. You know in your heart when you've spend too much time doing nothing.

How much is it ? Now write it down.

Was it 30 minutes ? 1 hour ? 2 hours ? Write down the time you really need relaxing. Next, program it.

At the end of the programmed relaxing time : do the next thing you wrote down to do

Even if it's only 15 or 30 minutes of writing, or reading a book about hiking , or looking at an on-line tutorial of wood-working. It will feel sooooo good doing it ! IT'S BETTER THAN PORN !

That's right ! Better than porn ! It will give purpose to the relaxing time : to give your body time to recover from the day, and replenish the level of energy you need to follow your hobbies.

You don't have to become the best of the best at acting, or singing, and all the things society values through reality shows and all.

Find your thing. The thing that make you, you.
(if acting or singing it is, then so be it )

Become your own master ! The warrior of metal-working, the goddess of picture-framing, the supreme-maker of home-made cloths !

Become your own living legend

HELL YEAH !
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Wow man, I'm just mind-blown. I clicked on the "relapsed" button ,because...well...obviously And your thread is one of the most beautiful, satisfying, true things, I've read lately! It really changed my day, keep up the good work, bro!!!

MrFabu · Jul 21, 2018

What a beautiful thread !
You said exactly what I really want , Thank you !

frogs' union · Jun 2, 2019

bumping this to say thank you & to see how many days I've achieved, too.

bikinhappy · Jun 5, 2019

Hei buddy, thank you for the insightful post

Do you have suggestion for person who have so many interest?

I want to create youtube like jay shetty
I want to start meditation community
I being selected as entrepreur community leader in my city and want to spread entrepreneur spirit among starter.
I want to create personal development product.
I want to increase the revenue/profit of my dropshipping fashion business.
I want to develop skin care product.
I want to become the best parent for two kids.
I want to be the best partner for my wife.
I want to explore the world.
I want to study yoga and tantra.
I want to memorize holy scripture.
I want...
I want...
I want... (Fill 100000 wants)

Yet, so little time to do...
So little money to spent...

How do you manage all of it?

Deleted Account · Jun 6, 2019

frogs' union said: ↑

bumping this to say thank you & to see how many days I've achieved, too.
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Thank you for the bump up !

Deleted Account · Jun 6, 2019

bikinhappy said: ↑

Hei buddy, thank you for the insightful post

Do you have suggestion for person who have so many interest?

I want to create youtube like jay shetty
I want to start meditation community
I being selected as entrepreur community leader in my city and want to spread entrepreneur spirit among starter.
I want to create personal development product.
I want to increase the revenue/profit of my dropshipping fashion business.
I want to develop skin care product.
I want to become the best parent for two kids.
I want to be the best partner for my wife.
I want to explore the world.
I want to study yoga and tantra.
I want to memorize holy scripture.
I want...
I want...
I want... (Fill 100000 wants)

Yet, so little time to do...
So little money to spent...

How do you manage all of it?
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Yes, I would start by continuing that list.

Then, sorting it by type :
Professional (YouTube channel, entrepreneurship...), personal (best parent, best partner...), spiritual (holy scripture...), self-development (yoga, tantra...) , etc.

In every column, I will list my envies by priority (first : "What would I be the most disappointed not to have realized in my life?")

I will pin it above my desk.

Then I'll make a weekly schedule and make sure that I have time for every top priority of every list each week.
Focus works better than spreading in every direction.
If possible, make a daily appointment with yourself for each priority.

Ideally, it would look like this : every day, in addition to all you already have to do, you'll make time for a bit of each priority, so that you can feel that you are moving forward in your life. Best feeling ever. Now I'm addicted to it, lol. I even feel a bit off when I miss my schedule with myself, proof that it's pushing me in the right direction.

miawcat · Jun 6, 2019

Wonderful thread!
I would like to try it by myself. Currently, it is hard for me to stay focused in one task. I think one of the key for the success here is to be mindful and keep sticking to the schedule that you have set.

Will try it. Thank you!

bikinhappy · Jun 6, 2019

Thank you for wonderful suggestion @John Oldman I will do it

ScorpioKing_1120 · Jun 7, 2019

I love this! Thank you for extra KICKSTART for today!

Deleted Account · May 15, 2021

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