How to cope with anxiety

Well, when it happens to me, it helps only meditation. It does not fade anxiety, but it gives you the right understanding where you are and to fulfill the right decisions. Fear is a natural thing buddy, if you have this, you just need to acknowledge this and understand why you have this. As I learned there can be courage inside the fear. You must make that courage stronger than fear.

 

I medidated 1 hour a day for 3 weeks and my anxiety disappeared. I had very intense anxiety.

Anxiety is just a message your body and your mind are sending you maybe because you are too hard on yourself.

How do you meditate ?

 

You seem to have social anxiety more than anything else, being isolated won't help. I think you need to get used to being around people, but that won't happen unless you practice it. Also I think it helps to have at least one close friend that you're really comfortable being around, to just be yourself.

 

I mean not physically but mentally. How do you meditate? Do you feel like you're still trying to keep control over your thoughts and you're still trying to relax ?
Meditation is more about observing your thoughts and what's happening inside you. Without hope, without expectation. It's more about being friendly to yourself and accepting things. It's not about performance you know. It's just about awareness ans kindness.

I think 10 minuts are not enough. And just to reassure you, it's not a big deal. I have had severe anxiety for a year and in 3 weeks with perseverance I managed to heal.

There is a misunderstanding about meditation.

You can watch this video. This man helped me learning real meditation to experience peace

You just have to persevere because it will take time and commitment. Don't expect getting results in 2 days or feeling better after a week. Don't give up and practice with joy.

I can assure you 100% you will feel better if you stick to it. But i'm nobody. Don't trust me. Trust this guy on youtube because he is not nobody

 

That's not meditation but yeah you will learn !

You're welcome buddy. All the best

 

Oh ok, so more like paranoia ?

 

Here are my two cents: I used to be majorly insecure (not a high level anxiety, but still), and I would have never figured it out, but life threw the answer my way forcefully : ))

The solution for me was to overcome challenges, and I was first forced into it by circumstance.
I really needed a job, and was in general a hard worker but insecure in speaking to customers or trying something above my competence...
And that was exactly what I was forced to do when the only job I found was at a tire repair shop.

I was forced to challenge my self to learn new skills under pressure (no pun intended), and fail and learn from my mistakes. I was also forced to interact with manyyyy customers of all types, usually winging it until I actually knew what I was doing .

And it was there I learned that self esteem and confidence come not necessarily by succeeding, but also by just accepting things that are bigger than you, giving hard challenges a fair shot.

So there it is, maybe you could try throwing yourself at something you would not usually dare to try, regardless of the result. Just to know you tackled something bigger.

 

I had huge anxiety. I just couldnt eat anymore. Meditation allowed me to remove my anxiety. To remove stress. To observe what's going on within me. To be there. Deeply there and to enjoy my life. To enjoy every moment no matter how small.

It's all about perseverance. I also overcame my biggest fears. Like talking to attractive girls in my everyday life. And this is something that i recommand. @WindWolf is right.

I learned that i can't achieve my goals with anxiety. This is too difficult and i'm not myself when i have anxiety. Taking action is more a fight than love for myself.

I definitely recommand you to meditate very regularly. Not only 10 minuts a day. This is not enough. Stick to it and don't give up.

And also learn meditation because most people don't know how to meditate. They think they meditate but how they do 's wrong.

 

I also suffer in bits of anxiety, but other times its important to recognise when we are confident. Like when you try something new. That is confidence. When you do nofap and break a new streak, that is confidence. I find the opposite of anxiety can help us.
In terms of long term, I am quite far off the approach myself, but something I learned from Brahmacharya is non-detachment. If you fancy a slightly different approach to your meditation, check out something called 'Vairagya' which is Sanskrit for detachment. Read a few articles on there and try and do a follow up meditation on it. As I say, just to see if you experience a change.

But I just want to say, please don't take any advice from me as gospel. If you are really hurting, it might be best to check in with someone you can talk to. I had counselling a few years ago for anxiety after unravelling a shameful hidden family secret. It can help to talk to a professional sometimes.

 

I hope nofap can help with this because anxiety is crippling me, I'm also doing daily running, cold showers and will give meditation a shot too but I always feel like I'm not doing it right and simply can't switch my brain off.

I'll give two examples of my anxiety manifesting itself. One, I was in the bank and needed to transfer some money but because of the amount I had to go to the cashier. Now this shouldn't be an ordeal for anyone but for me I felt like a bank robber, I'm just there asking to move some money but instead I'm sweating and my voice is wavering, I must have appeared so suspect that the woman behind he counter probably had her finger over the alarm button. The 2nd one, before the whole lockdown thing I was having my hair cut, I've been going to the same hairdresser for 10 years so I felt reasonably comfortable in her company. I was showing her some pics of a house I'd been working in on my phone and as I'm trying to swipe through the pictures my hand is shaking uncontrollably and it just kept getting worse, she didn't say anything as she was obviously being polite but she must have thought I have arthritis or something.

Another one is in shops or somewhere busy I'm always acutely aware of everything and everyone around me. I go out with my dad and he's the total opposite, he ends up getting in the way of people, blocking them and bumping into them lol, it's not because he's rude but because he's not wired 24/7 like I am I guess and isn't constantly scanning his surroundings.

I just want out of this hell, even if only for a little bit. The only time I feel switched off is when I'm asleep.

 

I WAS ALSO SUFFERING WITH ANXIETY AND STRESS,,,BUT NOW I LEARNED TO GET RID OF THEM