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How to cure myself ?

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by openminded, Jul 18, 2019.

  1. Jul 18, 2019 #1
    openminded

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    Hi guys,

    I had an amazing PMO free week. I worked hard towards my goals (learning programming like crazy), I slept well, ate well, exercised, I approach a new girl today (she is amazing), but still, even though I know that P is really, really bad for my physical and mental health and it would make my life 100 times harder, I know that on some deeper level, this fucker (addiction) is still alive in me. This fucker is probably either a brain chemistry or some personality that is addicted to being a loser.

    How to cure myself ? Is it possible ? Do I have to rely on will power whole life ? If I would live alone for a year in my basement, without technology, access to internet, smartphone and PC, would I be cured ?

    My current hypothesis is that I have to resist any craving, and every time any craving will arise, I have to realize that it is a part of a reboot, that it is a sign of brain recovery, that I am addicted and this is the only way out, and hope that with each conscious choice I will become more and more free. Is that right ?

    I would like to hear the answers only from people who know what they are talking about, only facts, not some motivational talk.

    Cheers
     
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  2. Jul 18, 2019 #2
    ItsInTheBag

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    You want to program using an abacus, bro, from the basement? :)

    Every time you resist the urge, it will become weaker. Remember, you dug yourself into a pit for many days, doing the opposite for many days will undo the harm. Yes, there will be times when it will attack you stronger, but, as a whole, it will lose its grip on you.

    It will always continue to lurk as a shadow somewhere in the back of your mind. Sometimes, you will forget that porn exists for months. But every now and then it will ask you whether you want to hang out.

    Don't entertain that thought. Basically, rinse and repeat. Always take responsibility for your actions, and RUN for the hills when you are tempted, do not linger around. This was my fall, several times. "Just a little bit of this compromise, just a little bit of that one." Stop.

    This strategy helped me get a streak of a few years. (Depending on your history and brain, you may go through hell (withdrawal symptoms) for a while. Do not give in, no matter what. They will go.) Then, stupid me, consciously decided to "medicate" after something bad happened in my life. So I'm back to rinsing and repeating...the good stuff.
     
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  3. Jul 18, 2019 #3
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    i just went 3 months without technology and i am cured now so hope that answer it.
     
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  4. Jul 19, 2019 #4
    Awedouble

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    To answer that we would need to know the self to be cured. Abstinence is the simplest recovery practice but what is the self that is seeking to be cured (changed?) going to do when tech is reintroduced? How can you be sure those tendencies are gone once they are back, especially considering the tech is just going to get better? And specifically, the code that is designed to hook people?

    The year long time period also sound largely arbitrary. I just made another post about the nature of time as cyclic, if you really want to get technical you can but I don't think most people want to go that far.
     
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