How to deal with fantasies?

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Marsbox, Aug 14, 2020.

  1. Marsbox

    Marsbox Fapstronaut

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    Hey there!
    I have been a porn addict for some time now ( 2 years ) and I have had a foot fetish since a young age before porn and around 20 days ago I developed a kind of fetish for femdom. And for the first few days I was struggling with anxiety because I didn’t want this fetish and I couldn’t get aroused by normal things. I decided to just quit porn instantly after reading stories about the same problem in here but I failed, I relapsed because I kept stressing thinking that I wouldn’t be able to get aroused by normal things again. So this week I decided to try and watch normal, vanilla porn for the entire week to see if anything would change. So the first day of trying it I became aroused by it. And for the whole week I came back to normal, I can get turned on by just looking at naked girls. But no matter how aroused I get by normal things, while watching porn I get random thoughts and fantasies about the actress feet and etc. I’m just wandering if you guys got any advice on how to deal with the fantasies because no matter how hard I try to get them out of my head it feels impossible.
     
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  2. r8js

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    fantacies is always bad......

    use some things from mindfullness........
     
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  3. Feet fetish is something you get before porn. So I think it is normal. What is not normal is femdom because it is induced by porn. Stop watching femdom and you'll be fine
     
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  4. Marsbox

    Marsbox Fapstronaut

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    Yea bro, Ik that but thanks for mentioning it too. I decided to try something I saw in the Internet a while ago. I decided to try and jerk off to femdom porn after ejaculating once as its supposed to make you not aroused to it, I don’t remember everything about it so I tried it but it ended up on me relapsing☹️
     
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  5. r8js

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    one of easy easy way....

    gs media player allows to play 8 MP3 at same time.

    I play combination of smooth sound, education lecture,...... after listening it for 15/30minutes, my mind gets easily distracted from fantasy......

    just simple way I try in emergency time
     
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  6. Your brain works in thinking patterns and behviourial patterns like a cycyle, just as night becomes day you act out behavours and thoughts in repetitive sequence.

    Everytime you give the fettish attention, such as making a post like this such as thinking of ways to stop it. And other things such as engaging in fetish videos, you give it the power in needs to stay in your mind for the cycle to repeat.

    Everytime anything even remotely related to the fetish enters your mind, you must kill its presence. for you do not have the power to control automatic incoming thoughts but you do have the power to think whatever you like and thus react to automatic incoming thoughts by having a percise selected response of thoughts and actions that put your attention to anything other than the fettish

    -and the repetition of activitly making this your imediate reaction, will make this an atomatic behavourial repsonese. which over time will give you the space to forget and develope normal healthy automatic sexual triggers and interests.


    THE REASON PORN IS BAD FROM THE VERY BEGINING IS ITS PROGRAMING YOU, THE TRUTH IS HUMANS ARE HIGHLY PROGRAMABLE AND MOST ARE UNWARE WHY THEY OPPERATE THE WAY THEY DO.
     
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  7. cypk2

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    I wonder if it’s actually possible to just remove a fetish from your head? Is brain just wired up to like that fetish? I imagine it would be like trying to make yourself straight if you were gay by just not thinking about guys when they pop into your head. Plus it seems a shame to ignore an innocent fetish if it brings more enjoyment to your sex life, there’s nothing wrong with having a kink or fetish. Would the best thing to do to simply reduce your dependence on it and leave room for other sexual attractions to grow?
     
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  8. Marsbox

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    Thanks bro appreciate it. Honestly something that bothered me for a while is that before porn under age of 12 I would like any type of girl that was attractive but now I developed preferences as for Blondes and etc
     
  9. Marsbox

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    I don’t think there is anything wrong with kinks. And I support fetishes as long they have nothing illegal, but I just know this is not me. I’ve always been an Alpha male, attractive, athletic and as girls call me hot. I’ve enjoyed normal sexual fantasies and porn and everything normal. I would get hard just by the thought of a girl in bikinis lmao. I don’t think I would ever be the type of guy to really find pleasure of being a girls slave, but as of now I get turned on by it even tho I find it disturbing.
     

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