How to deal with fetishes?

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  1. Sufc101

    Sufc101 Fapstronaut

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    For a long time now since my collage days I have been drawn to women catfights/wrestling and participating in mvm subfights, this was my fetish. It was always something that was a great turn on for me and the one thing which I'd masterbate to constantly. I am 6 days in to nofap and I am going strong but have this nagging fear that this fetish of mine can undo all the struggle staying in the road I'm on.

    Can you call this porn?
    Anyone else have a fetish that seems to control them and how do you contain it?
     
  2. Daredevil99

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    These will be the death of u literally the only way to stop them is just to go without anything porn ect for weeks
     
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  3. Sufc101

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    Attempting to shut it out.
    Just a shame it such a hot thing for me and the desire to get into the scene is strong.
     
  4. Daredevil99

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    Fetishes can come and go tbh Ive Had some which lasted a few years and one which won't seem to budge.. you may get bored of it which is what haopened when I exhausted the fetish but best thing to do is to quit your mobile for a while dont use and try do something else such as socialise on gaming or sports
     
  5. Sufc101

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    Yes thanks for the advice, that is what I'm thinking of doing, ever since getting a iPhone smart phone accesss to this stuff had been so easy. My thinking is that I'm going to revert back to one of those old school mobiles and use my iPhone for my kindle app only.... even tho I'm not fapping or looking a picture or vids I find myself reading material on it.

    You budged all your fetishes? You managed to relinquish there hold on you... or do you revert back to them on occasion?
     
  6. Daredevil99

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    Theres one when if I do relapse I revert back to and doesn't seem to get boring but the others did I can quite easily just stop watching they don't have that pull like it used to if u get me
     
  7. Randy

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    My current strategy is not to fight it. Just don't feed it. The thoughts will keep coming until they don't. As long as I don't pursue my fetishes on the internet or talk abut them, they seem to dwindle.
     
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  9. Sufc101

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    lol Thumbs up Randy.
    Yes I shall follow that philosophy also.
     
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  10. If you can live your fetishes, then they are no problem. I don't want to get rid of my kinks, that would be way too boring.

    You only have a problem if you can't live that fetish in any way (Eg. because your partner does not agree to it) and you are so obsessed with your fetish that you cannot have normal sex with your partner anymore because you only get aroused when you think of your fetish.
     
  11. Sufc101

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    Bartlebythescrivener...... I don't want to dismiss my kinks if I can act on them either. life to short to rid of something you enjoy.

    .... it was getting to the point that It was becoming a daily thing.... going on the internet watching vids talking to contacts, and pretty much taking over my life.... yes it was affecting my sex life to a point where I couldn't maintain a hard on, reverting me to taking the littke blue pill.... But I do wonder if it was my fetish to blame for that problem or my lack of will power to moderate my constant masterbation to that fetish...

    All in moderation right.
     
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  12. well, agreed it is also a problem if you constantly think about your fetish. Especially if you wank so much you can't get it up any more. Maybe that has less to do with the fetish and more to do with the willpower problem? I think it is the willpower.
     
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  13. this is the reason i stopped with porn. Because i got a willpower problem. Not a fetish problem.
     
  14. Sufc101

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    Love my fetish.... but I don't want it to be a problem I want it to be a enjoyment.

    Will power problem here to I think mate.
     
  15. Sufc101

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    An enjoyment what doesn't fuck uo the rest of my life lol
     

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