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How to deal with PIED when in a relationship

Discussion in 'Dating during a Reboot' started by Plan, Jun 14, 2017.

  1. Plan

    Plan New Fapstronaut

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    Hi. Sorry for making it so long. It's my first time and I hope opening up like this helps with the mental block that I have.
    I've been through many articles regarding this and realised I might be suffering from pied. I used to date a girl about 2 years back, a very serious relationship at that stage. We had a lot of sex. Infact, sex with an incredible Hard-on was never an issue even with the girls I dated before her. anyway, It ended terribly and I went into depression. I went to porn and started masturbating quite a lot. I didn't realise I might have a problem until one day when things got hot with a girl and I couldn't get it up. Depressed and anxious, I thought it was because I didn't feel love for her and that's why I couldn't get it up (although we did it afterwards after drinking a lot). Either way it had a major turmoil on my confidence and I stayed away from sexual intercourse, but continued to get off to porn. It affected my general confidence as well, amongst friends or in a social gathering.
    It's been two years and I've found a fantastic girl. However I've been too scared to have sex because of my past experiences. We did have sex quite a few times, but mostly i didn't have a full erection. She wasn't impressed, but I could notice it has had a bad effect on our relationship. My libido is dead( although I think that's because of porn and no sex for more than a year ). I started doubting my love for her, fighting and getting annoyed. It isn't easy like it was before to get an erection which she took as me not finding her attractive. However, I look at the image icon of a porn video and it becomes hard as hell. That's when I realised it is a psychological problem after all.
    We are still dating, and I want to keep it that way, cause somewhere inside I know I genuinely love her like she loves me. Today is my first day at nofap and following abstinence. And I'm not too sure how to tell her I have such a problem (embarrassing it is ). I want to get my libido back, and I don't want porn to be the only way to get a Hard-on. I want my confidence to come back, not just socially but on bed as well.
     
  2. Anghel Florin

    Anghel Florin Fapstronaut

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    Why don't you tell her that the problem is caused by porn and not the attraction?
     
  3. FindingAName

    FindingAName Banned User

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    what is PIED? btw i didnt read this because i have no relationship
     

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